What would you do about this?

[whattodoaboutman]

I am posting this here for traffic. I don't know how to deal with this or if I am blowing it out of all proportion.

A local man is a frequent user of the local sports centre. Many people know him as he's there so often.

When there is a children's sports club on the pool is closed to the public but the sauna is still open. This man will use the sauna and then walk into the changing rooms and strip off when the room has about 20 children in there and then shower naked next to the boys in the shower which is also communal.

He then goes to change and stands next to the boys who are getting changed, the boys find this intimidating. There are no separate cubicles yet, though they will be provided soon according to the centre management.

I think this is inappropriate but when it has been mentioned to the club safeguarding person and centre management nothing has been done.

What should I do ?

Emmageddon Sun 11-Feb-18 20:27:46
They need to close the sauna as well. This behaviour would make me very uncomfortable. Most men would avoid going near a changing room full of young boys precisely because their actions would be open to misinterpretation.

Maybe he's against every man being seen as a paedophile and is not going to change his routine due to hysteria?

Well everyone is entitled to thier own opinion and we should respect it.

I think the juggling around with towels just draws more attention. People just getting changed aren't the exhibitionists.

It's not a judgement it means everybody should not perade thier naked bodies about for all to see.

Well everyone is entitled to thier own opinion and we should respect it. Do you respect the opinion of people who think it is perfectly normal to get undressed and showered in a communal changing area that is designed to be used for people to get undressed and showered in?

It does feel like things are going backwards.

Showering without clothes and changing without worrying if one might accidentally show some flesh is normal. If naked people in single sex changing rooms and showers bother somebody, maybe they sould simply get changed with eyes closed?

Francis, I've probably still got a couple at the back of the wardrobe. I'll send you one.

I'm obvs from a different planet but I never knew people got naked to shower after swimming baths or sauna would u not just rinse yourself under water and have a shower back at home instead of getting naked in front of people let alone get naked in front of young boys not that I'm saying he's a pedophile op can't someone have a quiet word with the man he maybe doesn't understand hes doing wrong although I'm abit concerned why he would think to get naked and next to boys anyway now a days u can't be to careful this sports centre is stupid not to have cubicles etc

Wow some people are prudish. There's nothing wrong being naked in a shower. It's weird to shower with clothes on, it really is. How do you people manage in a gym? Do you take a swimsuit with you specifically for washing?

Same here I rarely see people shower naked.

Don't go to a gym, G500. We've weights at home and I also I exercise outside in the fresh air. As I said previously, I would cope with everyone showering nude in pool changing rooms but my preference is for wearing swimsuits. Good in that I can get the chlorine off the swim suit at the same time. I also think it is good to be sensitive to other pool users who might be embarrassed such as a swim class, as in the OP. I don't find dressing and drying whilst wearing a towel particularly difficult. Gym changing rooms are usually a bit different, less children.