Did you marry your great love?

[IsThisMeToo]

Why?

Why not?

How is your life now?

I'd like to think it isn't, but I just feel like it is. I've got children and my full focus is on them.

I married my first love. We are now separated. The man I am with now, is I think, my great love.

I thought I had, but as the years have gone by he's turned into a misogynist, racist and an opinionated chauvinist, all the things I am not, and thought he wasn't.

Yes, we’ve been together 20 years and I’m still crazy about him.

I don’t believe in the concept of soulmates. If I’d never met DH I’m sure I could have been very happy with someone else. But given that I did meet him, he is the great love of my life.

I'd like to think it isn't, but I just feel like it is. I've got children and my full focus is on them.

There's no way of knowing, and you're right to focus on them. But you mustn't feel that it won't happen because you're too old. We all know lots of people who fell in love in their 30s and beyond, plenty of people who met their second spouse in their 50s and later, and I personally know two couples who met in their 70s.

So keep on keeping on, but never say never. And you are most definitely not too old.

No but someone I love. I dated my great love for nearly three years and he ditched me because he didn't want to be tied down. Six months late her had moved in with someone and as far as I know they are still together but not married.

I'm mainly happy with DH despite him being a bit of a control freak, about silly things like the way to chop an onion,not telling me what I can and can't do

No, I didn't.

Sadly he'd met another great love before he met me and they ultimately got back together.

Yes!

Why? He was the first man I had overwhelming feelings for. He made me feel wonderful, special, beautiful, happy, content etc and I knew I wanted to be with him forever. He is the love of my life.

Thanks Yorick :)

No. We didn't marry because we felt we were too young (at uni). Then I went abroad for a while and we drifted apart and finally lost touch. To this day I think about him often.

My DP and I will never marry; we don't love each other enough but have an amazing ds. I know that someday I'll be confident enough to say it's over.

Estellanpip No way is it too late to meet someone! I met my wonderful hubby in my 30s. Never say never.

Yes, I feel so lucky whenever I look at him (even if he's doing all the most annoying things at the same time) or think of him.

Yeah married to the only man I have ever loved. First got together when we were 15 and had a volatile teenage relationship. Split up at 20 for a couple of years and been back together happily ten years now and married four, with three children. One from before we split up. Two since getting back together.

Yes and have been lucky enough to have fallen in love with him more than once through out the years

Yes

NoArmani I am so sorry for your loss.
Take care of yourself .
I cannot imagine how you feel but sending your much Aroha

Yes he was at the time

Yes.

Been married 10 yrs.

Adore him still.

romany4
You are very lucky.

Hands up who's feeling a little bit jealous of the one's who are posting about their real, true, great loves ? 🙋

We aren't married, but my DP is the most wonderful human being I have ever met.

He is perfect for me, his 'faults' do not seem much like faults to me and we have a fantastic time together.

Most definitely did, for me I knew he was the one, for him it took a bit longer. I think because his home life was a bit troubled we did split for 18 months while dating as his mum took an instant dislike of me, I moved jobs one year and he walked in where I worked, we then started dating again and have been married 22 years and known each other 31 years.