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Did you marry your great love?

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IsThisMeToo · 10/02/2018 21:10

Why?

Why not?

How is your life now?

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Schlimbesserung · 10/02/2018 21:41

I think so but that scares me. He is over 20 years older than me and so I may well have to live for a very long time without him. He isn't perfect of course, but we have such a strong bond and he understands me so perfectly that I can't imagine managing to live without him.

TheCatOfAthenry · 10/02/2018 21:41

I plan to in July.

Together 6 years and want to be together for all the remaining ones!

He's the kindest person I've ever met, and he's fun, interesting, clever, handsome and exciting.

HateTheDF · 10/02/2018 21:42

I'm with him, seven years next week but not married.

I love him to pieces and can't imagine my life without him. We have had our ups and our downs but I never want to be without him. He's my rock and I believe we are the perfect team.

hurtingheart · 10/02/2018 21:43

Yes - we also have the sort of relationship you believe only happens in films.

People IRL hate us. ;)

flowertoday · 10/02/2018 21:43

No I didn't, as I lost the chance and realised too late my mistake.

I did marry a lovely kind, caring man and now have my children who are perfect ( well, to me obviously !)

I sometimes wonder what would have happened in a parallel universe.

doctorcuntybollocks · 10/02/2018 21:43

No, because he was scared of me. He considered himself unattractive and consequently thought there was something wrong with me for loving him. Without false modesty, I can say that I was probably the most intelligent woman he'd met but that wasn't something he was looking for in a woman despite his own remarkable intellect.

HanutaQueen · 10/02/2018 21:43

No but if he asks me then I will. I could live without him but I wouldn't want to.

TroubledTribble28 · 10/02/2018 21:44

Yep and I hit the jackpot because he is beautiful and I'm a hugely overweight back-fat heiffer with balding scalp and a face like a bruised potato but he likes me and life is better now than it was the first 18 years.

Echt Brew noarmani Brew

floriad · 10/02/2018 21:45

No.

But I do love the person I married.

PurpleTraitor · 10/02/2018 21:45

Madmags- because I don’t want to be married. Great love or no

hurtingheart · 10/02/2018 21:46

I left my marriage for mine.

I am not proud of that but I HAD, HAD to be with him.

mugginsalert · 10/02/2018 21:46

No, I settled because he made me feel wanted and safe and I thought he'd be a good dad and was desperate for a family, and because there just seemed no real reason to split up. We're now separating after infertility and infidelity. For both of us, I wish I'd had the courage and the confidence not to settle when I was younger. He is a good dad though.

MadMags · 10/02/2018 21:46

Yes - we also have the sort of relationship you believe only happens in films.

Ooh like how?! I love a good romance :)

floriad · 10/02/2018 21:48

Why...?

A very religious family. It ultimately didn't work out / there was too much pressure / too little time to actually be with each other,

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 10/02/2018 21:48

I don’t think marriage is the xenith of a relationship.imo its really not
I don’t think there’s a the one?i think there are potentially many
But I am with my partner we are compatible,we get each other

MadMags · 10/02/2018 21:48

@Purple so you’re with him then? That’s nice. I was expecting some awful Byron-esque tragedy! :)

Eenymeeny123 · 10/02/2018 21:49

Yes I did, we met as teenagers when I was going through a very difficult time. Most would have ran but he stayed and after 27 years together (married for 21) I can't imagine my life without him in it. Even though we bug the crap out of each other at some stages and have been through some difficult times, he is my constant and first love.

CuppaSarah · 10/02/2018 21:50

I did and life is pretty good. There's been ups and downs, but we've both learnt and grown from our mistakes and helped each other become better, stronger people. I've never felt such a strong, trusting, instant conection and never have since. I'm very lucky when it comes to my love life.

londonrach · 10/02/2018 21:51

No. vvvvv glad i didnt as been smug married still in home town etc first boyfriend etc. I needed my corners knocking off and if i hadnt had things go wrong id have never left my job, gone to uni, meet dh and got a degree. Someone like me getting a degree is laughable when i was at school (dyslexic and hadnt learnt to read or write by 13). I am vvvvv grateful for my first great love but more grateful we broke up.

ladymariner · 10/02/2018 21:51

Yes. I had an 'interesting' social life before but then I met him, took one look and that was that. He's the love of my life and I adore him. And best of all, he adores me too. I count my blessings every single day! X

hurtingheart · 10/02/2018 21:51

I dint think so either Lipstick.

I was married, life was good.
Then one day I met someone in a pub and a voice, very simply and quietly , said in my ear - you will end
up with him.
And I did. We are hideously in love. Its a physical longing, ache. And its been some years so not all new! I literally cannot bear to be without him.

Its actually a bloody pain in the arse!!!

Cosmicbird · 10/02/2018 21:51

I thought at the time that’s what I was doing but turns out he’s not that great Sad stuck as we are for the moment though!

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 10/02/2018 21:52

One of them yes.

BibiThree · 10/02/2018 21:53

Yes. Met him at 16, he was 20. Knew straight away he was the one for me. Got together when I was 18, lived 200 miles apart for 5 years (uni/jobs) then moved in together at 23, married at 24, first child at 25. Still together and still in love 21 years later.

Jux · 10/02/2018 21:53

Nope. Never met him, thought I had but I hadn't.

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