Did you marry your great love?

[IsThisMeToo]

Why?

Why not?

How is your life now?

Yes. He's the only person I've ever been able to envisage growing old with. It's such a cliche but we really are best friends. He's a fabulous husband and father.

No, because Morten Harket wasn’t available.

No but I think I might be with him.
For 4 years he has earned my trust, never let me down, and I'm finally starting to trust the butterflies I get when he kisses me. I haven't felt this way before, I love him and I want him but I have 4 children and I won't make a mistake again. He gets that, he respects it and while not perfect he shows me how much he loves me everyday, ie right now he is already out walking with my 4 year old round the village, he's been awake since 4am when said ds woke and offered to take him, so the rest of us could stay in bed, and he made me tea before they went. I heard my ds giggling as they went out.

Yes. We both left longish term partners when we were in our early/ mid twenties for each other, although neither of a were married or had children. The trauma we went through then has given us extra cement I think. 30 years together now, and a fairly perfect relationship.

No. My great love was my first love but i knew it wouldn't work. I married a man I'm fond of but honestly I don't fancy him anymore. We have been married almost 12 years and have 3 children. He's good mostly with them but gets huffy if I suggest he changes a nappy and he does fuck all round the house.

Yes.
Met him outside a club at the end of a student night during Freshers week. Chatted, said our goodbyes, I left in a taxi (he tells me at this point as the taxi was driving away I looked round at him but I don't remember this!). Same student night exactly a week later we randomly meet inside at the end of the night and went home together. That was 16 and a half years ago and we got married 18 months ago.
We're having fertility issues but I'd rather be with him with no kids than with someone else and kids.

Yes, met when I was 18. Had some bad times over the years (termination, going to court over access and contact arrangements with dd1 etc) but actually I feel like maybe it was better to get all that out of the way early on in the relationship.
Financial problems too which we resolved but was hard.
Iam terribly hard work too, loads of issues and he really helps me, will talk to me for hours and I can be really awful I annoy myself sometimes so no idea how he copes but he’s very patient and all housework or anything to do with the kids I would say is either an equal 50/50 split but often he actually does more than me.
He’s very kind and understanding, actually he’s my total opposite as I’m hot headed, act on impulse, stress about everything and am generally a frustrating person and hard work and he does manage to calm me down and help me work through stuff.
I know he loves me too and I haven’t felt loved that often in my life. I love him hugely and I feel very lucky

No I didn't marry my great love. I married my now dh. But I'm sure my great love, Richard Armitage, is still waiting for me

No. He turned out to be a total twat.
I married my best love.

Yy to this.

No. He turned to out to be married to someone else.

No...we were engaged and he cheated. Broke my heart and I was devastated! Never got over it and compared every man to him after that for years. I did marry again and had children, but divorced and have been single ever since because I thought it was pointless trying to replace Mr Right. Recently met The One That Got Away and realised that actually he's a prize knob! All those years I've spent yearning after someone who is a complete twonk! What an idiot 😳

Yes, he is the best thing in my life.

Yes, but third time lucky!

The only other guy that came close was in my early twenties and we spent almost two years dating until he ended it.

The other two were a waste of my time and I wish I'd seen that sooner.

I don’t accept the concept of ‘the one’.

There are ‘the one(s)’ you happen to meet. Or not.

And all ‘the ones’ that got away - the strong feelings of them being THE one are nothing more than fantasy - albeit a deep and meaningful fantasy sometimes. It’s impossible to know how they would have worked out in real life.

I feel really sad for the people who have decided not to risk it again. We only get one shot at this life. But it’s really none of my business and they’ve made the decision they feel is right for them.

I’m very happily married to someone who appeared in my life unexpectedly on a rainy February afternoon.

Meh, not sure I believe in 'great loves'. I think anyone can fall in love with a number of different people as long as there's a certain amount of compatibility. I thought XH was my great love but after he left I realised he was a twat. Whereas DH I didn't think much of to begin with, but he's turned out to be exactly my perfect counterpart. So not a great love, I guess, but definitely a lifelong one.

@Izzy24 my case in point! I wasted so many years comparing men to the guy who I thought was my 'One' when in fact he was soooo not 'The One'. I'm very glad I met him again (completely by chance recently at a school reunion, and could see/experience this for myself!) I felt an instant release of so many pent up feelings that I hadn't realised had still been there and can move on (hadn't even known that I needed to 'move on' if I'm completely honest, but when I saw him I was engulfed in a whole myriad of emotions!) Phew! Needed to get that out 😂

IsThisMeToo

Yes, I married my great love. I knew as soon as I met him he was the one, I left my then partner and my home country for him. I have no regrets, life has never been so good as it is now.

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Nooo I didn't. I married my child's father because after 5 years together I was convinced it was the natural next step.
I believe Im yet to meet the great love of my life, other than my daughter.

Yes I did. Married nearly 28 years now.

Why? Because he was the kindest, most loving man I had ever met. And we are still mad about each other

Yes. I don't believe in The One, but he is the right one for me and I love and am loved by him very, very much.

Yes, and after all these years I still look at him and glow inside.

I think having fun together is the key.

No, I haven't had one. Now I'm into my 30s and it's too late. I don't really believe in love anyway.
I think it's lovely when people meet young, get married and stay together though!

Now I'm into my 30s and it's too late.

Really?

I mean if it is just not something you're interested in pursuing or happening then fine. But you're not too late in your 30s if it's something you would like to explore. Indeed I don't think it's ever 'late'.

Now I'm into my 30s and it's too late.

No, it really isn't.

I can't tell you the future, of course, but without meaning to sound slushy, it really is never too late to fall in love.