Pathetic rant but who ibu?

[Melonjelly]

Just been to a fairly large supermarket with dp and 2 dc. Youngest one was out of trolley and running around. He kept kicking off when we put him in the trolley.

We were in the veg aisle when I said to dp I need to pop to the loo, can you stay with the kids.

I went to the loo and was there for less than 2 mins. I come back to the veg aisle where I thought he would be. He's not there. I start scanning all the other veg aisles. No sign of him or kids. I traipse up the cooked meat aisle (we didn't need a lot of food, just a few bits and bobs). Again no sign of him. I walk up to the other end of the store to see if he's gone to get milk. Not there. I go to the bread aisle. Not there. I think to myself I wonder if he's taken the boys to look at toys to keep them distracted. I walked down the other end of the (large) shop. Not there. I go out of the store to see if he's making his way to the car. Nope.

I go back inside and search every aisle looking for him. Still no sign. I ring him. Supermarket is the worst for signal. If goes straight to vm. I try again. Straight to vm. I search around some more. Still can't see him. I try calling him twice more. Voicemail.

I go in front of the tills and search every single one. Not there. I eventually ring him and it gets through. He's at the doorway to the store, he's bought and paid the shopping. So ten to fifteen minutes I spent traipsing aisles searching for him.

He did the same last week and Again I spent a good ten minutes searching for him. When I eventually found him I said if I go to the loo can you please wait where you are so I can find you again.

So today I was fuming that he'd done it again.

He said 'dc2 was running off so I just wanted to get the shopping done and get out of there' so I said you'll have to put him in the trolley and teach the kids to wait so I can find you.

He said 'all you care about is ME ME ME, you're not bothered about what I want and the fact that the kids are hard work and I just wanted to get out of there'  to which I said you're missing the point, if you have waited I'd have been back in a couple of minutes. He's accused me of being selfish and asked me 'how hard is it to find me when you knew where I was going?' ??? Erm very considering I looked and looked again and you weren't fucking there you arsehole!!

So Who was being unreasonable! Even if you tell me I am it doesn't make him being a tosser any less of a tosser.

YANBU

He sounds like a right twat. Are you really sure you can’t separate?

At his insistence they took the kids to choose new bedding and picked up a few food items when they were there.

Superman didn’t do full shop.

Superman didn’t do what they agreed he would do in future, only a week ago.

SHE WENT TO THE LOO BEFORE LEAVING HOME. she has bladder issues, stop being twats.

@AnnieAnoniMouse don't let facts get in the way of a frothy pile on.

I think the most telling post on the whole thread was "I'm not allowed to get cross". Fuck that

Why not have it delivered?

Is there a big problem with that issue in your area.

Has there really been a whole thread on getting angry about being lost is a supermarket while dp does the food shop and entertains the dc??!! God!! If that’s all OP has to get stressed about.....lucky lucky thing!!!!

I'm really impressed your DP got the shopping finished, bagged up and paid for! I would have given my DH a massive hug for this! not a mouthful!

YABU. However, I would have gone a bit nuclear too, shopping just seems to make me go batshit and I completely lose the plot at the slightest thing. Not answering the phone would be grounds for mowing him down with the trolley.

I remember making the mistake of going to Ikea on a Saturday: BIG mistake as I went loopy with the crowds whilst looking for ex-DP.

For Christ's sake, OP, can you be as thick as you seem to be? You will believe the posts on here which tell you that you were right, and ignore those that tell you that you were wrong [which in my view you were].

Were I your husband I would tell you that if you want the shopping done your way then you can do it yourself from now on. Further, I would tell you that from now on I would not use my initiative in any family situation.

You want control, you get it; and very much I hope you enjoy it.

She's about aa thick as people that can't read between the lines.

Its not about control its about sympathy and consideration. His reaction wasnt great was it? Its not like he made any effort to calm her down or apologise? And no he didnt morally 'have' to do that but that is what someone who actually cared about you would do isnt it?

I have had bladder issues in the past and as i said in my pp this did happen to me once with my dp in a supermarket. Difference is after he saw how upset it made me he made a real effort not to do it again.

I can imagine it feels pretty shit if every time you have to go to the loo you end up completely deserted and treated with hostility. Its just the complete lack of care that I think the OP is upset about.

OP will really kick-off when the kids ask DP if they can go and play hide & seek from mummy in the supermarket again.

I have a weak bladder - in fact overactive, due to ms. I have used the loos in the supermarket many, many times, even on a short shopping trip. If I didn't, then I'd wet myself; maybe not much as I do invariably have a wee just before I go out, so perhaps I'd only wet my clothes, and not stand there gushing all over my shoes and the floor, but as I can't actually be certain how much is in there I tend not to take the risk.

Just so people know that while they can wait, even if the do have a weak bladder, not everyone can.

Oh, and I usually 'lose' dh as a result of going off to the loo. And it can sometimes take so long to find him that I wonder if he's playing games with me!

WTAF.... is this for real?

Probably missing the point but let the kids pick their new bedding off amazon? No outing, no problem

She's not going to accept she's being unreasonable no matter what you're all wasting your breath.
It was probably more 15 mins in the loo and too minutes half looking in a huff just to prove herself right because "the arseholes done it again".
Some women

I'm in agreement with you.
Drives me mad when this happens and you waste valuable time looking for someone in a supermarket.

Is your OH always like this to you? I think there's more back story to this.
I hate arguing in public like that and the rudeness towards you personally would have sent me over the edge.
My ex was like this, constantly nit picking and putting me down.
I hope you manage to work through your problems. Xx