Pathetic rant but who ibu?

[Melonjelly]

Just been to a fairly large supermarket with dp and 2 dc. Youngest one was out of trolley and running around. He kept kicking off when we put him in the trolley.

We were in the veg aisle when I said to dp I need to pop to the loo, can you stay with the kids.

I went to the loo and was there for less than 2 mins. I come back to the veg aisle where I thought he would be. He's not there. I start scanning all the other veg aisles. No sign of him or kids. I traipse up the cooked meat aisle (we didn't need a lot of food, just a few bits and bobs). Again no sign of him. I walk up to the other end of the store to see if he's gone to get milk. Not there. I go to the bread aisle. Not there. I think to myself I wonder if he's taken the boys to look at toys to keep them distracted. I walked down the other end of the (large) shop. Not there. I go out of the store to see if he's making his way to the car. Nope.

I go back inside and search every aisle looking for him. Still no sign. I ring him. Supermarket is the worst for signal. If goes straight to vm. I try again. Straight to vm. I search around some more. Still can't see him. I try calling him twice more. Voicemail.

I go in front of the tills and search every single one. Not there. I eventually ring him and it gets through. He's at the doorway to the store, he's bought and paid the shopping. So ten to fifteen minutes I spent traipsing aisles searching for him.

He did the same last week and Again I spent a good ten minutes searching for him. When I eventually found him I said if I go to the loo can you please wait where you are so I can find you again.

So today I was fuming that he'd done it again.

He said 'dc2 was running off so I just wanted to get the shopping done and get out of there' so I said you'll have to put him in the trolley and teach the kids to wait so I can find you.

He said 'all you care about is ME ME ME, you're not bothered about what I want and the fact that the kids are hard work and I just wanted to get out of there'  to which I said you're missing the point, if you have waited I'd have been back in a couple of minutes. He's accused me of being selfish and asked me 'how hard is it to find me when you knew where I was going?' ??? Erm very considering I looked and looked again and you weren't fucking there you arsehole!!

So Who was being unreasonable! Even if you tell me I am it doesn't make him being a tosser any less of a tosser.

I do my shopping online because my partner buggers off. He's like smoke, everywhere and nowhere and it pisses me right off.
Bought a delivery pass with a supermarket and get food delivered once a week. Problem solved!
I highly recommend it.

I haven’t read the entire thread but YABU op. It is such a non issue that I can’t see a problem at all.

@AnaWinter

I haven’t read the entire thread but YABU op. It is such a non issue that I can’t see a problem at all

Exactly! She keeps complaining people haven't read the whole thread but who can be bothered when it's so mundane! ...

Yet she's so angry at her DH and everyone on here

Please let this non issue die, ffs

I love this thread.

What would you think if you saw a man standing still in the middle of the Veg Aisle with screaming children.

Sleight, i would think his kids really REALLY didn't like veg 😂

Ha ha Purple - you’ve not passed your MN comprehension test either!

Please let this non issue die, ffs

OP has said repeatedly she’s over it, her DH’s over it, and she’s letting it die by refusing to post any more!

Keep this thread alive I say! It's brilliant!

So OP:

Why did you all need to go to the supermarket? Couldn't you have left dc at home with dp?

What bedding did dc choose? Did they get matching curtains and a lamp shade?
Why were you in the veg aisle when you should have been in the bedding and duvets aisle??

Where was the toilets in comparison to the veg aisle and the front of store?

How long does it take to buy milk, bread and chicken? What happened to the bedding during this time?

When you went outside to 'loiter' why didn't you just stay there for fucks sake? I mean seriously just stay there! Your dp will be out of the store very soon!!!

Why didn't you put dc youngest in the trolley? Why did you take him out again? Why didn't you leave him home by himself, he would have been fine. Put Thomas the tank engine on and leave him be.

Why did you need to pee again when in the supermarket? Can't you hold it in like everybody else? Lightweight!

Are you sure you wiped?

All light hearted obviously

YABU. The problem here is you not being able to look properly. Absolutely no way does it take fifteen minutes to find someone in a supermarket unless a) you took longer than two minutes in the bathroom (likely) or b) you weren’t looking properly, whether deliberately or not (also likely).

I said I wouldn't reply to this but by fuck some of you are annoying twats!

I fucking looked for him, course i fucking did. It's a big place. Why don't you just tell me what I did since you were there you GF?? If I could find him before the phone call obvs the phone call wouldn't have needed to happen. Dumbasses out in full force tonight

He was still in the supermarket, OP, so quite clearly, you didn’t look hard enough.

That’s the problem here, you just don’t want to take responsibility for it.

Definitely you who is extremely unreasonable

Well obviously he was in the suoermarket but it's a big place and I can't see through aisles! I looked down every aisle bar the computer stuff. He wasn't fucking there. Can't tell you something that didn't happen. Care to add any other insight or are you just a goady fuck bored?

Here's a suggestion. Could it be that as I've walked to one aisles he's moved round the corner of another maybe even a few aisles away? Maybe when I was in the aisles looking for him he was at the checkout. Maybe when I was at the tills in front of the make up and toiletry aisle he was in the doorway? That makes most logical sense and seems most likely considering the time frame and the proximity. But you know best don't you?

Well I'd gladly be unreasonable all day then. Only on MN of course.

Dumbasses out in full force tonight

Says the person who:

• expected their partner to stand stock still in the veg section and wait while she went to the loo

• couldn't find three whole people in a supermarket

I'd swap places with you dowager and challenge you to find him. Bet he'd walk too fast for you to keep up.

And they won't be three half people now will they? Since you're adamant at picking holes in every thing

Given most of us have separated from family and friends in the supermarket ... and then successfully found them again with minimal drama and thread-starting ... I'll take that challenge.

OP, while it’s possible that he moved aisles while you were looking a couple of times, it won’t have happened repeatedly if you were “looking for fifteen minutes”.

I’ve lost people in large supermarkets a few times before and it has never taken me any longer than five minutes to find them (and they never has children with them, who are not known for being quiet).

The majority of the posters here are telling you YABU, yet you seen reluctant to accept it; even going so far as to name those disagreeing with you as GFs.

Perhaps we’re getting an insight into what your husband has to deal with and why you have communication issues in your marriage.

You on the vino @melon?!

You should. Bet you're not so smug then.

There's the comprehension test needed again. He's my partner not my husband! Dp = not dh!

Oh and it did happen repeatedly. Must've done otherwise I would have seen him plus two kids. He doesn't stay still for long

My ex used to do that, expect me to stand still while he went off and do something like use the toilet. It’s irritating. Maybe use the toilet before you leave the house or agree on a meeting point so he can just carry on with the shopping.

Or one of you stay home with the kids (preferable)

I’m imagining the birds eye view if Melon and her DH & DC moving aisles, thwarting her at every turn. It’s very panto, and to the Benny Hill theme tune in my head.

As you were.