Dd "fat shaming" me.

[Dancingfairy]

So I know I'm not small. I'm a size 16 (was a 12 before having my youngest) however dd has started "fat shaming" me. She's 6 and will say stuff like "why are you big and fat" infact she decided to say that in a shop yesterday infront of everyone. Also "whys your belly so fat" aibu in thinking this is normal stuff for a 6 yo to say? Or is it? Needless to say it's promoted the diet!

Wow she needs basic lessons on not trash talking

The story is there in black and white. You've been unpleasant. But hey, it's okay cause you've now thrown her a couple of bones. How gracious.

And please challenge away, if you can challenge with something valid.

You've been unpleasant to me actually.

I've pulled you up on things you've said. If you found that unpleasant well I can't control that.

No, the things I said were factual, you have tried (and failed) to twist them. You are the unpleasant one in this.

6 year olds (or even younger) can be aware of fat. I am a vey obese (19 stone) woman and I have had children as young as 4 say to their mothers "isn't that lady fat?" It does embarass me, BUT I think at that age they may well not be shaming on purpose just making an observation. What I find harder to accept is the older kids and adults who jeer at me in the street or call me names. When they are old enough to know better they are doing it to hurt.

blackchina seriously, wtf are you on.

Yeah fine thanks, you?

As I say, your posts are there in black and white and I stand by my judgement, that you're pretty unpleasant, in the context of this thread at least. But hey, you feel the same way about me so that gives us a lovely symmetry.

Judge away. Yep, black and white, anyone can see. [ThumbsUp]

I hope you're not taking some of these posts to heart.
You've just had a baby, this thread is rather sad.
You do need to have a talk with your dd though, just so she knows she can't make these comments.

I've read the whole thing now and think there's unpleasantry on both sides.

But have to say* if batshit is indeed batshit then blackchina* has out-batshitted her with her touchy batshittery.

All because she mentioned her weight/ shape as many others did on the thread?

Batshit.

Ha ha massive bold fail.

Size 16 at 5 foot 2 is really, really big.

No, it really really isn't. It's a size 16 - size 16 at any height is a size 16 which is clearly plus sized but not 'really really' big.

Is that you getting agitated yet again?

Thx Betsey. They are just egging each other on now.

Crack on huns

Dear Lord what the hell happened to this thread!!!

The OP started a thread saying she was a bit embarrassed and asking for a bit of advice about a pretty common parenting problem and she ends up with pages and pages of posters implying
“well it wouldn’t have happened if you weren’t so fat, you big liar”

Seriously people!!!!

Dancing the fact that you haven’t walked off and hidden this post is quite impressive.

Dancing is overweight. It’s a health issue, not a moral failing.

She chose to give her child an “easy” answer instead of a completely truthful one. It’s not the way I do things but it’s hardly the crime of the century. I hardly think any harm will come to the child.

It’s almost impossible for her not to hear about healthy eating as she grows up. Just because the OP is overweight doesn’t mean her child doesn’t have a healthy diet.

I said earlier that I teach my kids to ask:

Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?

I think several posters on this thread could do with asking themselves the same questions.

I once said to my aunt 'why is your top lip so thin?'

Her reply 'why are your eyelashes so long?'

Yep, I'm sooooo agitated

I can tell.