My friend keeps telling me DD won't need me soon

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AIBU to be thoroughly pissed off with this now, DD is 9, friend (who has a teenaged son 19 or so) keeps commenting that DD won't need me when she is 12/13.

Do any parents of DD's have anything to say to this/opinions on this? I remember needing help with friendships/hormones/school/or sorts of things etc.

I find my friends attitude weird to say the least. Why would she KEEP on about this? It is really upsetting me.

She recently got married for the first time to a man she met online, she has started suggesting I do online dating too. I am married! Have been for 16 years! She is also 'too busy' to talk, as if I am not as busy as she is. Frankly, she has disappeared up her own arse.

She has been my friend for 30 years but I am beginning to get severely fed up with her condescending comments. AIBU?

My dc are 14, 16, and 18 and the 18 yr old still needs me now even though she's at uni. They still need you but in different way. More emotional support and advice and friendship in the case of my eldest.

My eldest is 27and still needs his mum at times. Not in the same way as when he was young obvs, but I know he’d feel it without me. I lost my mum when I was a child. The loss has haunted me all of my life. So tell your so-called friend to stick her views where the sun don’t shine. She sounds horrid.

DD17 would not have got her GCSEs if it wasn't for my support - and she has said so herself.

Ignore this "friend"

I'm late 20s and I still need my mum sometimes. Always will do. I remember needing her more in my teenage years than I did when I was 9 or so (even if I didn't think she'd understand because she was a teenager forever ago 😄)

I'm 40 and so still need my mum

What does dd. Mean. ?

She will need you, emotionally she will need your courage, love and support.

It's sounds so easy, just to listen and be there, but it's every bit as hard as newborn night feeds, but rather than a task, it is constant worry, the kind that wakes you in the early hours.

DD = daughter. I can't remember if the first D is "darling" or "dearest" - but it's something like that

Any "friend" who was actively trying to sabotage my marriage would get the boot I'm afraid!
Also I'm 32 and still need my parents for all sorts.
DD = dear daughter

Anyone who bangs on about one thing like this is usually projecting, in my experience.

Maybe her kid wants nothing to do with this new version of her mum? Or she’s lost touch with her kid, due to too much focus on the bloke?

I’d have to address it with her, tell her you’ve noticed how often she’s making the same comment, and whether she might actually be talking about herself? Tell her you’ve got loads of friends with teens who don’t do this or think the way she does?

It’ll come across as empathy, but she’ll also be given the message that what she’s doing needs to be curbed.

I'm in my 40s and need my mum and dad!!
Who else was going to rock up when I was ill, trying to care for a sick baby, And DH was away with work?

When my boyfriend died, the police officer asked me what I wanted (meaning tea/coffee/large whisky) I replied, ‘I want my mum’ as I said that I started crying because she lived a long way away. I hadn’t cried in the hour from finding him to the police officer asking the question.

We will always need our mums.

*my mum arrived 2.4 hours later, having been given a police escort along 80 miles of M25 on a Friday evening at rush hour.

Oh. I was 45 then. Still need her.

YANBU.
I'm 26 and I still rely on my mum all the time! She's my best friend, she comes and stays with me when my OH is away somewhere (usually every other weekend) playing rugby and I haven't gone to support him or if he's in a training camp for a few nights. I'd be bored stiffless and probably go insane if I didn't have my mum for company
You're friend is ridiculous, pay no attention!

My DDs are 18 and 15..they still need me.

Your so called friend is jealous of you and your life.

My kids are 18 down to 8. The type of need changes but I’ve really enjoyed it. I’m now 48 and I still need my mum. She’s currently at home loving being with my kids whilst their dad (and I) take our first break alone for over 10 years. So I still NEED my mum. In addition we talk by phone (not 2 days go past where one of us doesn’t phone the other).

Children always need their parents. Your friend is talking rubbish. Yes the needs change, but they still need you! Adults still need their parents on some level or another.

My kids are 13 all the way to 1. 13 year old still asks for a cuddle now and then and all kids like their hair de-nitted and played with. (Boys and girls)

I think the thing is they never stop needing you - if you’re there for them. If you’re not they go elsewhere.

They will still “need” you when they are 50! So will the teenage granddaughters so relax. Mothering is a lifetime occupation and a joy. Trust me.

Rubbish. Dont listen to her. Her experience may have been her d's drifted away but that doesn't mean the same will apply to you land your d's.