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Splitting bills AIBU

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Morgan14 · 04/02/2018 20:38

My boyfriend wants to live with me and we are talking about how to split bills. I live in a nice house with my 3 DC so he wants to come and live with us in our current property. I currently pay all the rent and all the household bills obviously. He proposes that he moves in and gives me £70 per week towards bills (he works full time and earns considerably more than me) and that he will give me a card to his account that I can draw extra money out if I need it. To me this feels demeaning. I don't want to ask him if I can draw extra money. I'm not sure how it makes me feel but it doesn't feel good. AIBU??

OP posts:
Mummyoflittledragon · 07/02/2018 05:05

I never even thought about the reduction in child maintenance for his dd. Are you coming back op?

Petalflowers · 07/02/2018 06:20

To give do the benefit over doubt, maybe the flat was the first place he found or could afford, maybe the £70 was a random figure and he hadn't actually thought it through, and maybe he thought that the card showed he trusted op with his money...

Howver, as everyone up thread has said, a conversation needs to be had about the way forward and the realities of living together.

Whatever happens, hope it works out for you.

AhNowTed · 07/02/2018 06:26

FFS a school leaver pays more than that! What a child

babyccinoo · 07/02/2018 07:05

He doesn't trust OP with money. OP says the card will be for an account with limited money and she's only expected to use it in emergencies.

I bet he thinks he can chuck £50 into it and OP will be too proud to use it.

Appuskidu · 07/02/2018 17:59

Is The OP ever coming back?!

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