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To wish I had never bought the fucking xbox

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theduchessstill · 03/02/2018 08:56

I have unplugged the xbox and put it away after another morning of screaming and arguing over it. Ds2 is sobbing in my bed, DS1 is stomping about yelling he hates me and slamming doors and it's totally out of control and I don't know what to do.

They are allowed 2 hours each on the weekend days and get up at the crack of dawn to get on it. They tend to split their turns into segments and, especially in the case of ds2, the in-between bits tend to consist of him whining and checking the time, no matter what I try to interest him in etc.

After several warnings about the whining and arguing resulting in a total ban I have followed through and taken it away, so WW3 has erupted. I know I should have followed through sooner but I am constantly being told by ds1 that I have ruined his life by divorcing and that 'normal' people have far more time on their Xboxes than he does and I do kind of think it's rough on them that they don't have one at their dad's, so that's why I've been reluctant to put it away - it was a Christmas present.

So fed up of looking forward to my weekends with them just for them to erupt in a shitstorm of crying and yelling. I even bought a second telly so they could do different things at different times, but ds2, wh has always loved watching The Voice with me declared it boring this morning and went off to clock-watch. WTF do I do?

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jwpetal · 05/02/2018 13:37

We allow 20 minutes a day for our kids 8 & 11. That is only after they have completed tasks such as homework, room/bed tidy, toys tidied away, practice instrument and then they can do it. Also not after 7pm. timers on computers. I think all day is not healthy for anyone and some kids do get addicted. We are a very active family and are out and about most days.

Crocusqueen · 05/02/2018 14:33

What the hell is it with xbox? I work with teenage boys and in about 3/4 of cases where a boy is having problems/falling behind in his schoolwork, we find out that he's also been on his xbox from his arrival home from school, until 3 in the morning. Parents may try to impose restrictions, but are reluctant to when their hulking 6ft 15 year old becomes angry and abusive when they attempt to remove or limit the xbox.

I'm not anti gaming, I had a lot of fun on my cousin's Nintendo as a kid, and I knew plenty of people who played a few games for an hour or so in the evening AFTER going about their ordinary day, and yes it was the equivalent of me watching Holby or whatever.

But there's something else going on now, and educators/people who work with teenagers seem to be noticing it, and increasingly it's a topic of conversation around the coffee machine. Same with tablets.

Of course gaming is not an issue for all children, but for an increasing number, it is. Defensive gamers trying to insist that those with concerns are Luddites are burying their heads in the sand. I've seen the console/tablet removal rages within my own family, and I've never seen that reaction over being told to stop any other activity - even removing a hangry two year old from the park never triggered the same epic meltdowns I've seen from the same 11 year old over being asked to stop gaming.

laura65988 · 07/02/2018 16:28

Don't know what age ure kids but ure being Abit daft what did u expect when u bought this it's a game what harm are they doing ure going through all these tantrum due u not letting them do something fun they want to do

truedigitaldetox · 13/06/2019 22:44

Yes, gaming addiction is real. However, it isn't as simple as taking away the XBOX/DS/Switch whatever gaming console you have.

A good way to get started is to take a video game addiction test to see how severe it is. I suggest this one since it's user friendly and comprehensive.

Aroundtheworldandback · 13/06/2019 22:52

I actually think gaming should be illegal for children in the same way as gambling drugs/alcohol are because it is a known addiction. Yes some kids can take it or leave it but plenty can’t.

I have a 19yo gamer. He started when he was 4 on a little “GameBoy” bought by his grandma.

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 13/06/2019 23:04

Zombie

Pikapikachooo · 14/06/2019 06:38

I need to read this whole thread
The challenges in our house are similar Sad

RhiWrites · 14/06/2019 07:20

Since the zombie has risen...

@theduchessstill how are the X box wars going? Did you ever get it resolved?

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