Holidays; Telling 14 yr old has to go.

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AIBU telling our 14 year old daughter that she has to go on holiday with us.

Briefly we have been to same caravan park on and off for 6 years. All 3 children loved it, then went to France 2 years ago. 14 yr old style conscious has said not going there. Already booked. 17 year old and 10 year old happy to they are both boys. Didn't go anywhere last year.

DH said to me shes being a spoiled bitch and has to go. DD has said will stay with friends. I said no way.

AIBU

Speakout I was talking about myself and my family, any holiday for us is better than none because it's a chance to spend quality relaxation time together. And this year it will be Eurocamps in Brittany and the Dordogne. Was at the one in Brittany last year and no vomit, shouty families or Police. Just gorgeous sunshine, pools, French food our own car to explore.

LagunaBubbles I am sure you had a lovely time.

It's clear that not all holidays are great though.

Absolutely Speakout, I was just speaking about the general snobbery towards caravan holidays thats all.

I know a lot of Irish people. Don’t know one who would call their teenage dd a bitch.

I wasn't suggesting all Irish people curse. God forbid. Just the ones I grew up with.

You need to start selling it to her. A bit of cajoling and bribery so that it isn't such a horrendous prospect for her. And a bit of empathy. " I know it's not your idea of a perfect holiday but it's what we can afford and we will hopefully enjoy it whilst we are there. I'm looking forward to spending some time with you and would really appreciate it if you do your best so that we can have a nice time as a family. What did you fancy doing when we are there"

I would also be looking to address his alcohol problem - bet that's costing a few thousand a year which could fund a holiday abroad next year. Plus might stop him referring to your DD as a bitch.

I know a lot of Irish people. Don’t know one who would call their teenage dd a bitch

I know plenty who call their teenage DDs "cheeky wee bitch".

^Not to their faces obviously - just when they're ranting about them.

Gosh. I’m glad I don’t......

So a stepdad who call her a spoilt bitch.

A bio dad who calls her an anorexic bimbo.

Poor girl. What a shit environment for her to spend her teenage years.

No wonder she doesn't want to go on holiday.

Although her stepdad didn't say it to her face, she must feel the disdain.

Um - genuine question - is it within Mumsnet rules to post info gleaned from another thread and refer to it on another one? Seems a bit hard/unfair on the op.