AIBU to go to a wedding reception and give £10 as a gift?

[roconnell]

DP and I have received an evening invitation from one of my friends from uni, who I was fairly close to at the time, but haven't seen for over a year. DP has never met this friend or their soon to be spouse.

The invitation has come with one of those poems, along the lines of 'we have everything we could possibly need, but a little extra cash would be great,' type thing.
The issue is we could literally only afford £10 max. I'm part way through a masters degree and surviving mostly off a loan, and DP is also a student, and works part time in a very low paying job. AIBU to go to a wedding reception and give £10, or would it be better to just give nothing?

Outtogetyou You little chavy charmer...no. a good bottle of wine does not 'start at £25', there are many deals to be had if you know what you are looking for. The OP said she had £10 and people are trying to help her. No one needs some social pretender trying to boost their own tiny ego by telling others that they only buy wine at £25 +. Transparent

^^ THIS

If in other months it wouldn't be a problem to give some more cash then why don't you save your spare cash from those months if it bothers you that much - perhaps you could double the amount in the time you have available.
PS I've not read whole thread apologies if this has already been suggested.

Samesituation
It's in 2 weeks..

Oh sorry OP not much help then... but TBH I would be appreciative of £10 as a gift.

You know your friends OP. I would feel comfortable giving or receiving a tenner but that's because my friends and I aren't a bunch of ungrateful snobs like some people on the thread!
I think including the poem with any invite is tacky but even more so with an evening invite.
I don't know anyone who would expect anything from evening guests. I would be extremely grateful for a tenner. I am pretty poor though and it's clear many on this thread are extremely privileged. Don't worry, all they'll want is your company if they're decent friends. Weddings can turn reasonable people into dicks though I guess

Ha ha Kitty, I never said I only buy wine at £25, I've never spent anything like that on wine.
It's you who is pretentious, "if you know what you're looking for", hilarious!
I suppose being insulting makes you feel clever. Have a nice day, clever person.

OutToGetYou ...read your own name my friend and read your post again. I don't like bullies. Now enjoy your Blue Nun.

I know what I wrote.
My name is a song.
Look in the mirror regarding bullies, you're the one making nasty judgements and snide comments.

OutToGetYou

For goodness sake, just stop.

OutToGetYou There are billions of songs but you choose this as your name. Mmmm now why do you identify with this?? You are the type that give Mumsnet a bad name. Good luck OP, I'm sure they know you as a well-meaning person.

OutToGetYou There are billions of songs but you choose this as your name. Mmmm now why do you identify with this?? You are the type that give Mumsnet a bad name.

Hardly.
It's a song by my favourite band, I changed it in the middle of all that hacking a couple of years ago, and I was listening to it at the time, it's about paranoia, funnily enough. I don't 'identify' with it.

It's sweet that you have become so obsessed with me. But misquoting me and using your misquote to call me a bully is out of order.

OutToGetYou Read your first post, that is out of order. Futile, you're a bit of a dimwit with an ego.

seafoodplatter it is a crap present if the people you're giving it to don't actually like it.
I don't drink much now and when I did I didn't like champagne, and neither did my husband. So if someone had given us a bottle of champagne we would have been polite of course and thanked them but it would have been a waste.

Nope. Just don’t go. If it’s only the evening then they won’t be insulted and I don’t think you should be asked for cash by anyone. It’s not on.

FFS Op wants to go and there is no reason why she shouldn't. Anyway she's long gone.