Teacher described me as hopeless

[Bluepeony]

I got a phone call yesterday about some missing homework and I responded politely.

Anyway, we had said goodbye and I heard the teacher say to someone else ‘she is hopeless isn’t she, ‘

I get she didn’t mean me to hear but I’m still so angry ... should I say anything?

I did once end a really frustrating phonecall to one parent with "Give me strength". I was sure I had put the phone down, but no!

Parent's evening rolled round and I was presented with a mug with "STRENGTH" printed on it... filled with chocolates! Mum had decided too be nice about it... but she was still a great excuserciser for her lazy, bright, rude teen

It happens. The trick is for one or both sides to laugh about it or be very British... and pretend it didn't happen!

Next time you see the teacher, apologise again about the homework and say you'll try not to be so hopeless in future with a nice cheery smile.

tbh Either you are hopeless/disorganised, in which case take it on the chin, or you aren't in which case just presume you misunderstood.

I don’t think I am hopeless, which is partly why I’m

The key qeuestion is, “are you hopeless”?

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What Teen said. That'd be a really good response!

That will leave her puzzling over what you meant, then mortified but unable to explain herself. Every teacher really respects a parent who can carry that off! Though, given my track record, that may just have been me!

Yup. Likely to h

Have been talking about you.
I've heard much worse in staffrooms tbh.

Personally, I’d let it go.

And I’d make sure my child’s homework was done in future. I’m sure she has better things to be doing than callyto chase up.

Teacher called you about missing homework? Really?

They PHONE you about missing homework?? How old is the DC?

Surely if the DC is old enough for homework to really matter they should be talking directly to the DC. If the DC is young enough to warrant parent being responsible for completion it really doesn't matter.

Unless it was about you never reading with DC, which I can see they might phone about.

Assuming your child is quite young, If he is the one who is always late, always missing homework, always without the forms you were supposed to sign and hand in, always without his PE kit then you are hopeless.

It's not very nice to hear it but perhaps it will galvanise you to be more organised in future.

I'm a bit confused - if your child has missed their homework (forgotten or not done?) then why are you the hopeless one? Surely that's on the child?

Kids here start school at 6yrs old.

My daughter was told at that age that stuff was their responsibility. Obviously I would supervise homework & getting bags ready for the next day, but the teacher never held much truck with "mummy/daddy forgot!"

Nasty, and unprofessional.
I'd put in a complaint.

I'd forget about it. She thinks you're hopeless for some reason. And now you know she's hopeless when it comes to making sure she's put the phone down properly before slagging off parents. We can't be good at everything.

A complaint about a teacher expressing an opinion in a staffroom. That's hilarious

The teacher rang me to tell me my child hadn’t handed in his homework, so that is clear.

HermionesRightHook that depends on the age of the child.

Some kids get very simple pieces of homework from the age of 5 or so, such as drawing a picture of their favourite teddy bear.

And some get extremely upset if they've forgotten it, or if for example their parents have refused them any help, because they don't believe in homework.

I'm not saying that's the case here, as the OP hasn't stated anything about it, or the child's age.

Blue How old is he and what did you say? How did you excuse him?

You must have made some excuse or they wouldn't have had any reason to think anything negative!

Definitely put in a complaint. If shes saying that about you. Do you honestly think she's saying anything different about children who are struggling with SEN.

It's possible a colleague, not seeing "your" teacher was on the phone, made a comment which you didn't hear about someone else, and, since your teacher had just finished and was putting the phone down, she responded sympathetically to colleague about this other person.

Okay so it’s your child’s homework, that’s a good first drip OP. Next how old and how many pieces of homework?