My first post here but I felt compelled to respond after my bridesmaid sent me this link. I got married recently and my MIL wore a white dress.
I mean she told me it was off white cream beige not ivory. It was initially due to be plum coloured and tie in with my mum’s outfit, but no. She went ‘back to her original plan’...she then went on to demand white or cream flowers to match, even though I was having nothing of the sort at my winter wedding. It was all greens and dark burgundy. She didn’t care and I was informed she would buy her own flowers. Go on then, look like a div, I thought. I (obviously) gave my now husband hella abuse when I found out. I told all my friends and family what she was doing just to release the stress. But alias, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and kept my mouth shut because you know what, I wanted to be the bigger better person. And she will always be cray cray.
A few unconnected rows and secret rants later, cometh the day.
But...this dress. IT WAS NOT ANY OF THE ABOVE COLOURS. It was white satin. Skin tight. Shinier than my dress. My dress was beautiful (if I don’t say so myself), huge, and plain SATIN, no beads or lace or anything. Granted, she had not seen my dress...but it was shiny. And PLAIN WHITE.
On the day I didn’t care. I was having way too much fun! But I’ve been brought up well and am polite and courteous, so I behaved myself and just kept my distance.
The day after, rage set in. And this is me ranting. It was disrespectful as far as I’m concerned. I had a few pals message me to comment on it. This made me angrier. But the anger built when I started to see photos of her somewhere near me. Shining. Like the shiniest of baubles (albeit a slim one).
I maintain I was right not to kick off before the wedding because I didnt want to stoop to her levels of disrespect but I now have an overriding desire to let loose on her. I will probably do it...probabaly sarcastically in typical British fashion. I don’t think anyone should be wearing white or ivory other than the bride, it’s disrespectful to the bride (especially if they don’t have the gumption to say something and are upset), but also puts groom in an awkward situation if you have an upset or raging bride/wife. It also angered my mum and sisters, which upset me a bit. But only insofar that we were all too polite to tell her to go home and get changed in to her jeans on the day. Just don’t do it? Unless you religiously wear white every day of your life, why do it on your child’s wedding day, especially when your child is not the bride? And I can’t take ‘I didn’t know that was a thing’ as an answer (not that she offered that or discussed said dress other than informing me of the change in colour and demand for white flora and fauna).
FYI. I’m still angry and have not said anything. I’m waiting for the real photos to appear before she requests the shiniest of versions.
Yikes that was some rant. Apologies. I feel free.