Should men pay for dates or at least offer to pay?

[lottieandmia22]

This is a subject I have a lot of mixed feelings about really. On one hand I can see that it's not fair to expect the man to pay. If he was going on many dates initially he'd be severely out of pocket.

BUT my experience of men who don't at least offer to pay is that later on they seem generally tight. OTOH I was very put off by a man who made huge grand gestures.

What have your experiences been?

this was years ago

but if i was on the dating scene now and i caught even a whiff of this id be off like a shot.

If Pan Galactic can go by past experience then so can i.

Blue sky - we have differing opinions. You couldn't seem to accept that so wrote a post implying I'm just entitled. Which is not the case.

Clearly, in all fairness everyone should pay half each. But as other posters have said attraction isn't rational and most decent men don't actually want to be seen splitting in case it ruins their chances.

If the cap fits Lottie ....

Hello are we still going?

I do think on MN, a very high-proportion of people get very animated about "bill-splitting" as a subject in itself, not necessarily relating to dates.

In real life, most men actively prefer to pay because this distinguishes a date from any old mundane meet up. Hopefully they are delighted by the company, so why would they begrudge paying? If I was a man, I would pay. 30 pages in and I still don't see what all the fuss is about tbh.

Blue - if you read the thread you'll see that I always offer to pay. But it says a lot if a man wants to split on the first date. So I would pay but I would assume the guy cared more about a few quid than being romantic.

If I was a man I would pay too...