I think it’s generally a good idea to meet someone through your social circle who shows mutual interest so you’re meeting as “equals” first.
If you’re feeling it’s too much to pay for something socially, then don’t do it, that just makes you look desperate?
I’m off work for retraining this year (female) and I’m not dating (or even going for nights out with friends, as I can’t control costs)
of course it’s the social norm to have to get a round in, pay half, be spontaneous with taxi fares etc.
It sucks a bit, I’d love to go out more, but I just can’t.
That’s life, you have to compromise a bit and there are no guarantees.
I’m always a bit confused about how men claim they end up getting done over for the bill? Just learn to manage yourself and be more assertive rather than whine.
I’ve probably done my share of paid half/not paid anything/ paid for everything and have no strong preference either way.
If it makes that much difference, then go somewhere like a bar or coffee shop and get one round in?
When you’ve finished drinks, if the woman doesn’t get up, then don’t get another and make your excuses . You’re only £3 down. And you’ve filtered out women who don’t pay.
Or am I missing something?
Or if you want to eat, then pick somewhere you can “pay as you order” like a bar, so you get seperate tabs.
I always suspect the men who complain are those who let the bill rack up because they “expect something in return” then sulk when she doesn’t “put out”.
Sounds like a horrible creepy waste of time for all concerned.