to think that this is one of the cheekiest things I've been asked?

[MargoLovebutter]

Due to go ski-ing at half-term. There is usually a group of us who go, a bit disparate and not close friends but ski-mates with kids. It was a diminished number of us due to go this year for various reasons but one ski-friend and her son were coming & I thought they were all booked.

Get a phone call today, from said friend, saying that she's had some health problems - ongoing since last October - and she never actually made the booking. I am sympathetic to the health problems, but was fairly shocked to hear she had never made the booking, as I understood that she had. Then she asks me if I could take her daughter (16) and have her share our room (my DS 18 & DD 15) , and she wouldn't come at all.

I think this is a MASSIVE ask and a bit of a piss take. AIBU to think that?

Op, I think Ursula meant that the two girls share a room and you and your ds share a room. Which could be better than all sharing a room but if I were you I'd still rather it was a family holiday rather than the one adult accompanying teens.

She needs to find a room in the hotel for her dd. If the place is fully booked then tough. If he really cared about her dd, she would book accommodation somewhere else in the same resort for her and dd and just stay in whilst dd daughter skied with your lot.

I like @BrokenBattleDroid text.

If she wants her DD to come skiing then she can come with her an djust not ski? You take the girl in the day and you hang with the mother in the evening?

Your hotel may not be full if you contact them direct. They generally hold back rooms for private bookings

I think that's really cheeky, OP. Asking you to take responsibility for her DD for a whole week in another country at the 11th hour isn't on. Plus having to share the room. Plus her suddenly revealing she isn't coming either! I know it will be disappointing for her DD but I'd say you are really sorry but just don't feel comfortable taking on the responsibility of her DD on top of your own two.

So where would the daughter sleep in the room? Is there even enough beds? Fire regs of the hotel won’t let you have more people than beds.

She has skied all the years I've gone. Sometimes, the hip has played up a bit and sometimes it has been fine. It does sound as though the hip has deteriorated in the last few months - and I am sympathetic to that issue. If she said to me, "Margo, my hip is knackered and the doc says I can't ski this year. I'm going to have to cancel & claim on my insurance." - I would still be gutted but something feels really off about the fact she never booked and didn't tell me and kind of implied that she had.

We did actually discuss it back in July and must have had a telephone conversation about it. I had forgotten but I can see in one of the emails, she says "Great to chat to you earlier today, it is so exciting that we have plans for next year."

So she's checked the flights even before asking you if it's okay to take her daughter?

Ladies and Gentlemen we have ourselves a Cheeky Fucker!

She's taking the piss. Say no.

Mummyme, there is a double bed & two sofa beds, so technically we could all share. It is a kind of room plus, with a micro kitchen & the double bed is in an alcove area. She had checked this with the ski company before asking me! Maybe she checked months ago!!!!!! I'll have to stop over-thinking this, or I'll get paranoid.

The more I think about it, the more I think DS will not be comfortable with it.

Step away- it’s not that much work, when I was 16 I was a snowboarder, so I wasn’t compatible with my parents who would ski. I would go hang out at the snowboard park most of the day or just cruise about. I saw them at breakfast and dinner, and sometimes we’d meet for lunch. I didn’t need looking after. The friend’s dd just needs someone to eat with and it sounds like the op will be more likely to be the odd one out in the group when it comes to doing stuff on the mountain anyway. However sharing a room takes things to the next level and would be a step too far for me.

Pengggwn, if you mean the whole holiday - I've trawled my emails and at no point did she actually type the words "I've booked", so technically it was all implied.

It doesn't matter if she implied or said. She still sat back and let the op go ahead and book without saying anything. Why did she not just say she would need to wait and see?

And that’s your get out. ds, feels awkward about sharing. The end.

Yes, Pengggwn - I thought she had booked. Had absolutely no reason to think otherwise, until her phone call this morning.

It's a reasonable ask but it's also reasonable for you to say no. I'm not sure you can just add an extra person to your booking at this point though.

She’s a huge CF. Say no.

If she's lied to her DD all this time then she's trying to emotionally blackmail you into taking her.

You need to get her to be really honest about what's happened in case she tries to tell her DD that you've refused to take her at the last minute.

Tbh she's not sounding like much of a friend at the moment.

TBH, there would be literally NO point in mentioning anything unless there WERE spaces on the flight.

Discuss with your kids (who are more than old enough to go and do young people things without you tagging along)

If you don't want another kid there, it's fine to say no.

Discuss with your kids (who are more than old enough to go and do young people things without you tagging along)

That's the trouble, they probably will leaving the op on her own. Great holiday for her - not. Or they'll feel guilty and let mum tag along with them which isn't great either.

ah, fair point