to think that this is one of the cheekiest things I've been asked?

[MargoLovebutter]

Due to go ski-ing at half-term. There is usually a group of us who go, a bit disparate and not close friends but ski-mates with kids. It was a diminished number of us due to go this year for various reasons but one ski-friend and her son were coming & I thought they were all booked.

Get a phone call today, from said friend, saying that she's had some health problems - ongoing since last October - and she never actually made the booking. I am sympathetic to the health problems, but was fairly shocked to hear she had never made the booking, as I understood that she had. Then she asks me if I could take her daughter (16) and have her share our room (my DS 18 & DD 15) , and she wouldn't come at all.

I think this is a MASSIVE ask and a bit of a piss take. AIBU to think that?

The children are nearly adult, and can look after themselves... it’s made to sound like they’re needy 5 year olds and sound as though they are competent skiers as you have all holidayed more than once before... I have taken much younger children away with my children , I would not bat an eyelid for a friend who clearly would struggle... you say there are others in your group? , also if a problem with a hip and awaiting surgery that can not mean a replacement... having a friend who has recently gone through the same , it is extremely painful to have hip problems she braved it for years...

Seems like the issues are is she going to pay and give her spending money , is your room big enough... you can politely decline , don’t think she is in any way taking the piss for asking unless she expects you to pay, which sounds doubtful.... poor woman probably feels crap her daughter may miss a holiday because of her health issues which clearly aren’t conducive to snow and ice....maybe take her situations perspective a bit more kindly instead of viewing her harshly

Sorry only meant can only mean a hip replacement

'Seems like the issues are is she going to pay and give her spending money , is your room big enough... you can politely decline , don’t think she is in any way taking the piss for asking unless she expects you to pay, which sounds doubtful.... poor woman probably feels crap her daughter may miss a holiday because of her health issues which clearly aren’t conducive to snow and ice....maybe take her situations perspective a bit more kindly instead of viewing her harshly'

RTFT! Face.palm. There's NO fucking room, one of the OP's kids has ASD and would have ended up sleeping on the floor, the OP has already said NO and the 'friend' still tried to guilt her into it.

Margo, I hope you all have a wonderful holiday! Well done you, you put your kids first and she proved she is a CF all along.

Have fun!

striving

RTFT before you twist things to suit your own viewpoiint.

She LIED all along to op and her own daughter.
There is NO ROOM at the inn!
Why should ops adult son sleep on the freaking floor to accomodate her dd?
Why should op ON HER OWN WITH NO OTHER ADULTS be respopnsible for a teenager on the slopes? What if something happened, would op be expected to fly home with the dd and leave her own kids?
She ISNT a friend she sees all the time its a once a year arrangement.
She HAS NOT offered to pay for her dd as she expects OP just to put her up in her own room that she has already paid for (which is probably against health and safety regulations anyway)
Friend has since then tried to guilt trip OP over this because she lied to her dd and she thought mum had booked their holiday!

Friend my arse.

There is nothing stopping people going on holiday to a ski resort and not skiing. She could have booked, she chose not to.

She could have decided not to be an utter weirdo in contacting the holiday company to find out what room type OP had, but she opted to do that.

She isn't a friend. A friend would not put OP in that awkward position, and would not consider an adult male having to share a room with a teenage girl he barely knows, and a bed with his mother, as being an appropriate situation.

I find it amazing that so many people lack the ability to read.

Thank you to those who wished me well. I have slept well on it all now, got my head around it being different to what I thought it would be & I am really looking forward to it. DC have been looking at the piste map working out what I'll be able want to do with them.

Thank you also to those who did read everything and are taking the time to re-state the facts.

Well done Margo you should be proud of yourself; being a people pleaser myself I know how hard it is to say no!! Have a fantastic family holiday and don't give the CF another thought!! 😍

I just don't understand why people only bother reading the OP and then spend time crafting their thoughts to share with the world when they're utterly irrelevant. What a waste of their time - and ours in bothering to read it!

Not hugely cheeky, but cheeky nonetheless. I wonder if that was the plan all along ? No, cheeky is knocking at my door, in the last place I lived, and asking when I am going to work, as they used the space outside our house to park during the day.

If she is paying and she gets on with your kids then I would probably say yes tbh. Its not like she is a toddler and needs 24 hour looking after.

I gather you didnt rtt pumpkin !