to think that there is no one on here that would not be bloody hurt and angry by this

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I posted on here before about my partners close relationships with his exes and how I struggle with this. I have kind of come to terms with the main one and we rub along okay. Anyway there is another ex who he bought a house with and lived with for a time. Since they split up he admits they have had an on - off sexual relationship though he swears never while he has been with anyone else. Anyway he is going to her part of the country on business next month and he tells me he intends staying over. He think's I'm a bunny boiling irrational nutter to object big time. Who the fuck wouldn't?? Even if he doesn't sleep with her its still inappropriate and downright disrespectful I am so bloody hurt and angry about this. I am a whisker away from dumping him. I need advice please

Well the silly sod should know better then he’s my age.

Massive cock Womble

It wouldn't bother me. Don't you trust him? If so, dump away.

Wouldn't worry me but that isn't relevant because it bothers you so he should respect that.

If I couldn't trust him enough to be relaxed in that situation I would dump him regardless of what he did.

A relationship is based on trust. You don't trust him. What more is there to say?

Oh fuck that for a game of soldiers! If I were in your shoes I would LTB, it sounds like he has no respect for you, or your feelings. Twat.
for you, dump the cock weasel and find a lovely person who takes you and your emotional health seriously

It wouldn’t worry you that your dh used phrases like a bohemian relationship? Fuck me.

When you dump him, don’t become part of his harem of exes. Draw a line and move on.

Move closer to the whisker.

You need to look up gaslighting. Particularly the article that is currently on the BBC news website. This is a classic case of gaslighting.

Tell him that if he stays with his ex, then your relationship will be over. You will then see which is more important to him, his ex or you. If it is the ex - dump.

Ok, please Google 'BBC confessions of a gaslighter' and read it. It will make your situation crystal clear.

He's still boning her.

He's a manipulative twat, get rid!

There is an article about a self confessed 'gaslighting/er' in the news today. Your partner sounds exactly like one, toying with your reasoning and trying to make you doubt your sanity aka bunny boiler etc. He is disrespectful to you, a liar and full of himself.

DUMP HIM! he's a complete and utter waste of space.

YANBU that's a step too far for sure!

It's not you.

Do yourself a massive favour and bin him . If he's like this a year in, he will get worse and you will end up so anxious and unhappy.

YANBU
Its disrespectful that he would want to do that even if there was nothing going on.

Bloody 'ell . I've just read that article on Gaslighting. That is sooo him.

You either trust him or you don't....sounds like you don't.

Then ltb. I've never said that before. But, seriously, you deserve better.

Agree with the fizzy he likes the power..

I've chatted to him tonight and he tells me that the idea that he has no respect for me is laughable, and my problem is that I can't cope with a nice bloke!!.Also he tells me that I have reminded him of why he should never do relationships-WTF?? We are meeting tomorrow and its going to have to be bye bye

YANBU. she isn't 'just' his friend is she. I'd be livid. And that would probably signal the end of the relationship to me. He doesn't have to stay at hers, he knows your feeling about it and he doesn't care. I'm furious on your behalf

Also he tells me that I have reminded him of why he should never do relationships

What are you meeting for? just say 'bye bye' there and then, no drama.

We have a couple of financial bits to sort - tho I guess I could do that by text .