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Shorter men

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DusktilDawn · 15/01/2018 16:04

I'm 5'8 and I'm chatting to a really nice guy online but he's also 5'8. Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit put off? I'm a bit overweight and feel like I'd look like a beast next to him!

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CharizMa · 16/01/2018 17:27

Ach they are still male so rest assured, short or not, they'll be shallow themselves and will ignore the girls who'd actually be interested and overreach and then bemoan the fact that women are heightest while being lookest and ageist!!

Solly76 · 16/01/2018 17:32

No harm in meeting him if you like everything else about him so far. That's if you want to of course. If you don't like him for whatever reason then you don't have to proceed to a second date.
I used to have a 6ft minimum height stipulation. I'm only 5'3" but I like tall men. However the only man who ever had my heart was a mere 5'5" (he says he's 5'6" but he's not, bless him) . Everything else about him was great and we really clicked.

Dustbunny1900 · 16/01/2018 17:37

If it's gunna be an issue then don't though. I was in a relationship with a string of men constantly hinting (or flat out telling me) they preferred women with large breasts and butt , but they charitably fucked me anyways and just tried to overlook it Confused. It continued to be a sore spot in our sex life.
I remember my best friend having her heart ripped out by a thoughtless "your tummy sometimes turns me off, I'm sorry I know it's shallow but I'm just being honest with you" that's stuck with her for years.
My thought was always , good god,then don't be with someone you don't find attractive! Someone else will

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DusktilDawn · 16/01/2018 19:46

Meeting him tomorrow eve Smile

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AmberTopaz · 16/01/2018 19:57

Have fun OP Smile

inmyshoos · 17/01/2018 13:17

Have a great time op
Hope he is lovely Smile
Where you meeting?

RoseWhiteTips · 17/01/2018 13:28

My DH is typical Australian male height, over 6 foot.

Over 6 ft? That is pretty usual in the UK and perhaps even more so in certain parts of Northern Europe such as Scandinavia and also in Holland, to give but two examples. It really isn’t an Aussie thing. Lol

My OH is 6 ft 2 .

crazycatgal · 17/01/2018 14:54

I think that she was saying that being tall is typical of Australian men, not exclusive to Australians.

RoseWhiteTips · 17/01/2018 14:56

Crocodile Dundee wasn’t tall.

GallicosCats · 17/01/2018 14:59

I'm only 5ft 3 and am hearing impaired. I spend a lot of time looking at people's faces. If the guy's 6ft plus I get a crick in my neck. Grin

RoseWhiteTips · 17/01/2018 15:07

This might be relevant:

Men born in the Netherlands are the tallest, with heights averaging just under 72 inches. Eastern European men also rank near the top of the list.

Indonesian men are the shortest, with average heights of 62.25 inches. Men from Malawi are a close second, with an average height of just 63 inches. Yemen, Laos, and Madagascar also have some of the shortest men.

In Britain and Australia, men average 70 inches tall. In France, the average man is 69.5 inches. In most cases, female height tracks male height, such that nations with taller men also have taller women.
( from Medical News Today)

OldPony · 17/01/2018 15:18

I've just realized that I've never been out with anyone shorter than me.
Do short men have normal sized willies and if so, don't they look disproportionately massive compared to the body?

NeopolitanChocolates · 17/01/2018 15:37

After shit relationships with taller men than me I've been with (shorter) DP for many years, because he is a decent person who treats me with love and respect. Wayyyyyy more important than height (or looks).

No complaints in the Willy department either Wink

inmyshoos · 17/01/2018 17:34

My exh was over 6ft7 and at that height even an average sized penis looks tiny Grin

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 17/01/2018 17:34

Good luck tonight OP.
If he's a knob then you can bin him off but at least you'll know you tried! Grin

g1itterati · 17/01/2018 18:05

I would say it's not so much about height, but proportion. For instance, I'm 5 ft 6 - I'd rather have a man of say, 5 ft 10 with broad shoulders than a 6 ft 4 bean pole Grin. Too tall and you can look a bit lanky tbh.

DH is 6 ft and I always felt he was reasonably tall, but now he looks dwarfed by DS (14) who is suddenly 6 ft 4 and the other DS is not far off his dad either!

Good luck tonight OP - as long as he's not smaller than you, Im sure it will be fine.

stoplickingthetelly · 17/01/2018 18:14

I know it's terribly shallow, but it would put me off too.

Itmakesthereaderreadon · 17/01/2018 18:19

I don't get all the accusations of being shallow. Isn't that what sexual attraction is? I knew nothing about dh when I pulled him once upon a time; I just saw that he was fit. And, at similar height to.op, taller than me.

sadiesnakes · 17/01/2018 18:20

Qq

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DusktilDawn · 17/01/2018 22:36

Oh. My. Goodness.

I'm tipsy on a Wednesday night but I don't care. Amazing date. Sparks flying.

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Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 17/01/2018 22:36

Oh lovely

Glad you had a good time dusk

inmyshoos · 17/01/2018 22:55

Aw wow that's fab to hear!!!! So he tall enough for sparks!!! Tell us more!!! Is he funny? Kiss goodnight??? I love a happy ending!!

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DusktilDawn · 17/01/2018 23:04

He's definitely funny. And really attractive - there were moments when he was talking and I was secretly thinking "I can see us naked together" - tmi? Grin

I really like him. Height wasn't an issue whatsoever.

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Springiscoming123 · 17/01/2018 23:05

how tall was he?

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DusktilDawn · 17/01/2018 23:06

He went for a kiss but I gave him my cheek! Argh, not used to nice guys. Definitely next time

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