Shorter men

[DusktilDawn]

I'm 5'8 and I'm chatting to a really nice guy online but he's also 5'8. Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit put off? I'm a bit overweight and feel like I'd look like a beast next to him!

Yes I do and said as much. But this thread is talking about the OP’s situation and I was sympathising with her.

I live in Australia...land of the giants. Most of my 13 year old's mates are taller than me. I'm 5.6...they come SWOOPING into the house like unpredictable giants.

Then they eat and eat and eat.

I'm 5'5 and dh is 5'7. I'm also fat. Not bothered how we look together, probably wouldn't leave the house if I was!

Mothers of short boys need to get a fucking grip.

Yep, and I say that as a mum of two very short teens and one who is 5'6 at 18.

I dated someone for two years who was the same height as me. It made kissing easier! No straining my neck. The only annoyance was when we went for nights out and I wanted to wear heels. But I'm usually more of a trainer person.

Fat shaming is frowned on (rightly) on mn. But short shaming is still alive and well it seems.

Short shaming because some people don't find short men attractive? No one is short shaming.

I wouldn't shame anyone who was fat but I wouldn't want to date a fat man either. Is that wrong of me? Am I am fat shaming?

I am not attracted to round faces, the first thing I notice on a man is his jaw line and nose. I like sharp, long facial features. Am I round face shaming? I hope not, as I am round of face myself.

'Short shaming' is surely even more illogical than the (already illogical) fat shaming. For the vast majority of people, body fat is well within their control; their height... somewhat less so.

If we insist judging people on their perceived personal failings, we should probably restrict it to those actually within their power to address.

I totally agree @babycham. But not height / short / fat / round face shaming does not extend to me having to find someone attractive does it? I really hope not! My dh is tall and very slim. He does have a big nose though... am I alright? I haven’t short shamed or fat shamed or small nose shamed have I ?

Nobody's saying you have to find someone attractive but having a checklist of features your ideal man must have is setting yourself up for never finding him IMO.

My boyfriend is only 5 inches taller than me and I’m a girl who loves her heels so often we look similar height stood together. Before meeting him all my boyfriends were 6 foot plus so way taller than me but I can honestly say that I’ve never considered his height as anything than just a small part (sorry!) of his amazing personality and good looks. He’s fairly well built (not overweight) so he would be HUGE if he was super tall too at his current build. You’re both likely to get shorter as you go into old age anyway...

Nobody's saying you have to find someone attractive but having a checklist of features your ideal man must have is setting yourself up for never finding him IMO.

I said more or less this a few pages ago. I’m very wise, you know. Feel free to worship me !

No hard or fast rules here, but I did tend to date taller men pre-dh. I’ve alre said why I think that might be.

Already*

We all have our preferences. I'm 5ft 10, DH is 5ft 9. I like to fact I don't have to look up to kiss him.

I love really tall men. My husband is over 6ft. But I've maintained a sort of crush on someone who's an inch or two taller than me for years now. Go for it, Op. You might fancy the pants off him.

BitOutOfPractice

No one is short shaming anyone, and making statement or attacks against "short" people. We are talking about personal preferences, there's no shame on having preference for someone tallER than you. No shame in preferring women with long hair either.

I wouldn't be attracted to someone obese either, because of their look and their lifestyle in general. We just wouldn't be compatible. So what.

I like a taller man, I don't think I'd go shorter than 6' and I'm only 5'2 myself.

I find all the things that often come with being tall attractive too. The big hands and feet, long legs. I like resting my head on DHs chest when we hug, and standing on tiptoes when we sneak a kiss.
It's nice to have someone tall about the house too. If he was a similar height to me, we'd struggle to change the lightbulbs!

OP, if it worries you it worries you. Don’t feel bad about it. We all have preferences.

I would never date a short man, absolute deal breaker for me. However I say that as a short person. Who lives in Australia - as poster above said, land of the giants. On average people with a few generations of Australian heritage are quite tall. As harsh as it sounds if I was having kids I wanted to boost the height advantage as much as possible so the taller the more attractive to me. If I had of been 5’9/10 it probably would not have been much of a dealbreaker. Pity as I always found short guys to have really great personalities.

My DH is typical Australian male height, over 6 foot. By the time my son and his friends were 12 they were all around my height, by 13 they towered over me. Thankfully my son is now my DH height. I tell my daughter it doesn’t matter if a guy has money, what their job is (obviously they have to have one though) as long as they are a good person BUT he needs to have a decent height. Judge away. No doubt she will have her own personal preferences for what she finds attractive but I do drum in it’s going to take a generation or two to undo the damage I have done to the gene pool . Although, the more multicultural we become as a nation the shorter the average height so in a few generations being shorter will be the norm and probably won’t matter anymore anyway.

He's not that short!! Dear Lord, give the guy a chance.

It's one thing to be attracted to tall people. It's another to sound racist about it

I was telling my DH about this thread, that I was suprised a lot of women would not go out with shorter people, he replied I am the same.

It’s clearly not just personal preference when people worry about others laughing, commenting or making fun of them if they go out as a couple and the woman is taller.

Pavlova u r nuts. Your dd will end up in a relationship that doesnt feel right and she will have a child b4 she has figured out that she 'chose' a man through your lens.

Give yourself a grip

If my sons end up small so be it. They'll still be worth more than some of the horrible shallow women on here

Whatever you like is fine, but I don't like the "I need a big man to feel feminine" shite that gets trotted out. It's such a daft reason, as if feminine means small and dainty and in need of a big strong man. Yeuch.