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Shorter men

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DusktilDawn · 15/01/2018 16:04

I'm 5'8 and I'm chatting to a really nice guy online but he's also 5'8. Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit put off? I'm a bit overweight and feel like I'd look like a beast next to him!

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Hellywelly10 · 15/01/2018 19:00

Go out with him. But then the height thing has never bothered me. However be warned men tend to say their taller than they are online!

ISpentTheDayInBed · 15/01/2018 19:05

The Christmas episode of Mrs Brown's Boys (I'm embrassed to admit it!) was quite funny. The Cathy character met a guy on OLD who turned out to be about 4ft tall!

ISpentTheDayInBed · 15/01/2018 19:06

Pressed send too soon. He had 'hidden' talents

Springiscoming123 · 15/01/2018 19:20

be careful some men say heir 5ft7 but are shorter

Jaygee61 · 15/01/2018 19:24

It’s hard,y surprising that men lie about their height on line, given the attitudes demonstrated on here to shorter men!

Busybeesbutt · 15/01/2018 19:29

I find this thread sad. I'm 5'3 and dh is 5'6.5 so our sons likely won't be tall. I wouldn't like to think they'll struggle with relationships due to it

itsbetterthanabox · 15/01/2018 19:30

Personally I don’t get why height is such a big deal to almost everyone.
Why do you want to be smaller than him? Why does he want a woman to be smaller than him?
Seems like weird power thing.
But it’s up to you of course.

CharizMa · 15/01/2018 19:33

Let us know if you meet him!
I was in two minds about meeting a man of 5'7" once but there was good chemistry. We agreed to meet again and i was v excited and then he cancelled as he was getting back with his x. Wished i hadnt bothered.

CharizMa · 15/01/2018 19:38

Let us know if you meet him!
I was in two minds about meeting a man of 5'7" once but there was good chemistry. We agreed to meet again and i was v excited and then he cancelled as he was getting back with his x. Wished i hadnt bothered.

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DusktilDawn · 15/01/2018 19:39

It's not a power thing in the slightest. I've already explained why, because I'd feel uncomfortable being the bigger person out of the two of us.

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itsbetterthanabox · 15/01/2018 19:41

Why would that make you uncomfortable? Why should a woman be smaller than a man?

BrendaUmbrella · 15/01/2018 19:42

My DS is 5'7" at 19 and probably won't grow much more, if at all. He's bright and funny (and I know as his Mum I'm bound to think it but he's handsome too!) and it's sad to me that now and in future lots of women will write him off with one glance because he's not tall...

Jaygee61 · 15/01/2018 19:42

My brother’s partner is about 6 foot and he is 5’ 7”. Doesn’t bother her in the slightest.

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DusktilDawn · 15/01/2018 19:46

I'm not saying a woman should be smaller than a man. I'm saying that I personally would prefer not to be, that's my preference. Do you have any preferences when it comes to a partner?

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ArchchancellorsHat · 15/01/2018 19:47

It doesn't seem short to me but I'm 5'1 and don't like being towered over. That said, you want who you want, and you shouldn't have to persuade yourself into accepting something that's a deal breaker for you.

LavenderDoll · 15/01/2018 19:51

Same height as my DH and I'm curvy /fat - I think we look lovely together ... not that I'm biased at all

toyahwilcox · 15/01/2018 20:05

Never get it when people say it's the same as a man saying they wouldn't go out with a overweight person. It's not at all, the equivalent is a man saying he wouldn't go out with a woman taller than him. I'm tall and have even taller friends (6"1) and in my experience it really is rare for men to chase women who aren't smaller than them (obviously not the case for everyone).

overnightangel · 15/01/2018 20:07

Let us know how it goes OP! If he’s lovely then height isn’t an issue, I’ve dated shorter men before and it has never been an issue

WombOfOnesOwn · 15/01/2018 20:10

I'm so tall that if I were to restrict my dating pool in this way (especially turning down men who were the SAME height, not just those significantly shorter), I'd have missed out on well over 90% of my relationship opportunities.

So to me, it all seems silly, but then again, there are specific things I absolutely can't stand in men (blond hair!) that other people would find baffling. It all boils down to what you like, doesn't it?

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DusktilDawn · 15/01/2018 20:13

Well I've just discovered that he loves cats so this by far overrides the height thing.

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Cliveybaby · 15/01/2018 20:14

I think I'd be with you OP, my DP is only half an inch taller than me but he's quite a bit broader so it's "OK" to me!

VladmirsPoutine · 15/01/2018 20:16

I have a friend that only dates white men, despite some people saying she is, I don't consider her racist.
If you want a taller man then go find one.

bhdhnghjn · 15/01/2018 20:22

I'm only 5"6 but I would be put off to, need to be minimum of 5"10 for me as I like heels

WattdeEll · 15/01/2018 20:26

This thread also makes me sad. I totally get that people have their unique preferences to what attracts them, but as the mother of a boy who will most likely be lucky if he reaches 5ft 6, it adds a huge sadness for me that from the answers here he will struggle to find someone to love him. We are bringing him up to respect women, and be kind, he is funny, gentle and witty. He will make a wonderful partner, I just hope one day he won’t struggle to find love.

itsbetterthanabox · 15/01/2018 20:30

I know a lot of men with this attitude too tbf.
Even very short men who won’t date a girl taller than them.

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