To feel my husbands family are a bit racist

[Winterandspring]

I think racist is probably the wrong word I’m looking for.

I met dh when he’d already been living in England for almost a decade and now we are expecting our first child the attitude is very much that it’s time for him to come ‘home’ now They constantly slag England off, the traffic, the high price of houses. Whenever we are there they stop at houses and shout ‘how much would this set you back in England eh’ and we say £200,000 or whatever and they shout triumphantly how much cheaper it is there! Neither of us like visiting because it’s a faff either flying and hiring a car or expensive ferry trips and they won’t come to us. Plus it’s tense the whole time due to them complaining about England and the schools or trying to shove food on us.

What is worrying me though is I have no support at all and have struggled in this pregnancy. Dh has been making ‘well maybe we could think about’ noises. I would struggle to get work over there and so really my support would be his family, I’d rather not!

I don’t know why I’m posting but there was an argument last night and it’s just been annoying me today.

Aw look who’s getting all flustered.

It’s a slippery slope to frothing.

No apology for the Guinness comment, no?

Ahhah!
That's right, make out that all the irish are drunks....
nice one.

Is that the best you can do? Really? Accusing an Irish person of being drunk because she called you out on your embarrassing lack of basic knowledge and your blatant xenophobia?

I think dyslexia is the least of your worries.

Plenty of non-elite English (and Scots, more recently) took part in the occupation of the island of Ireland.

only because the ruling classes gave them no choice.
Honestly I could turn into a card carrying revolutionary these days.
People of the islands unite!

And a great deal of English people down play or condone the legacy of the British Empire.

Stop it! The pair of you!

Carry on like this and you'll end up breaching the Good Friday agreement!

@ Elton

You have a point of course Donut..but so do I.

OK, look. A great deal of English people are truly lovely (my English friends, the ones that smile and the aren't overly invested in the class system).

and the ones that aren't

Sorry, Elton I’ve been enjoying the lighthearted banter on the thread along with the more political and frankly bizarre stuff.

But I don’t think we should make light of the xenophobic insults, especially when they weren’t made lightly.

fair enough donut.
Ye some 'classy' Brits are just scary tbh.

We really do need an eye roll emoticon.

For anyone wondering, that was a thinly veiled reference to me being an IRA supporter.

it's fine Megs I got the reference and was going to ignore it.:)

Am I? Why did you write it then?

well the only time I have ever heard that phrase was in a rah pub in London.