To ask if you would re-marry your DP, knowing now what you didn't back then?

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I thought this would make for an interesting thread.--

If you could go back to the year you married your husband/wife, would you still marry them, knowing everything you do about them now that you didn't back then?

No. We've been together 30 years and are happy enough, but this isn't the life I expected or wanted.

No, absolutely not, with bells on

No. I had doubts even then, but had nowhere else to live and didn't want to hurt him. I should have run like the wind.

Yes, absolutely. In fact, as they years have gone by (we have been together nearly 10 years, married for nearly 7, and 2 kids), I'm more sure even than I was then that this was right for both of us. We have a good happy life, despite having gone through some tough times (just in life, not our relationship with each other) and I feel very grateful that we found each other.

Without hesitation! Mind you we’d been together 10 yrs and had DC before we married. 25 yrs together now and wouldn’t change a thing. We were talking the other day about plans for the future and I actually told him that before I met him had I been told how my life would unfold I would be ecstatic. There were some very hard times and things happened I wasn’t sure I’d survive but with DH and my DC now and our life together its like I’ve won the life lottery.

No. I love the bones of him and I have no plans to leave, but I wouldn't choose this life for myself if I could do it over.

We've been together since Live Aid... and yes. Definitely. Despite the best efforts of our utterly mad families, I can't imagine life without him!

Absolutely I would, my only regret is I didn’t meet and marry him sooner.
Kissed far to many frogs before finding my prince 😃😃

Hmm I'm not sure tbh. We married very young and it was awful first years of marriage and supporting ptsd husband. I love me life now. Dh has grown into a great man and I love my kids. Those early years marriage made me into a better more empathetic person but it was horrendous to live through.

Yes. Every day of the week and twice on Sunday. He's the kindest most selfless man I know. He's flawed and grumpy at times, but a happy marriage doesn't mean a perfect one.

No not at all. Partly because of him and partly because I think the whole wedding concept (for us two who are not religious and not very overt outgoing people) was just a waste of money which we could have used more sensibly. I wouldn’t be without our children but would definitely have left oh if we weren’t married

100% yes

I'd marry my husband even sooner! Since we've been married I've seen how he's even more wonderful than before we were married. (And we have 7 years togher pre-marriage and been married 7)

He's been my rock through miscarriages, is the most incredible father.

And gets better looking with age, while here I am.....getting old!

I’d do it again in a flash, exactly the same.

In a heartbeat

Yes but sooner!

We've been married nearly 22 years and I love him enormously, but I think he's changed over the years. No doubt I have too.

He was incredibly laid back and 'go with the flow' when he was younger, now the stresses of kids/teens and running his own business have taken their toll and he's far more stressed and gets angry more easily.

If he had been like this at the beginning I wouldn't have been attracted to him, is the honest truth.

Although saying that I appreciate that he works exceptionally hard for his family and we have a good life, and it's because of this that he is stressed.

Absolutely! We got married very young and the way he's grown and become who is today is amazing! Don't get me wrong he eats on my tits quite often but I wouldn't have him any other way!

Don't know.
But if I didn't, I wouldn't have DSs, which is pretty unthinkable, so yes, probably.

If I'd never got pg by him, then probably no. I do still love him but things would have been much simpler for me if I hadn't married him.

Yes

Absolutely! 39 years married and counting!!

In a heartbeat - been married 30 years this year . Together 39 years . Which we had got together sooner.

he eats on my tits quite often

Aha! The REAL secret to a long and happy marriage !

Yes but sooner (this would have involved me asking him out rather than acting interested but waiting).

Yes. But I wouldn't spend the first few years making such a thing of feeding him and taking care of all his practical needs to show his family that I was a good wife. I've made him fat and domestically lazy (he's still a workhorse outside the home!) and his family are still hostile twats.