To ask if you would re-marry your DP, knowing now what you didn't back then?

[constantchange]

I thought this would make for an interesting thread.--
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If you could go back to the year you married your husband/wife, would you still marry them, knowing everything you do about them now that you didn't back then?

[Loonoonow]

No. We've been together 30 years and are happy enough, but this isn't the life I expected or wanted.

[Wincarnis]

No, absolutely not, with bells on

[BlessThisMess]

No. I had doubts even then, but had nowhere else to live and didn't want to hurt him. I should have run like the wind.

[mindutopia]

Yes, absolutely. In fact, as they years have gone by (we have been together nearly 10 years, married for nearly 7, and 2 kids), I'm more sure even than I was then that this was right for both of us. We have a good happy life, despite having gone through some tough times (just in life, not our relationship with each other) and I feel very grateful that we found each other.

[user1487671808]

Without hesitation! Mind you we’d been together 10 yrs and had DC before we married. 25 yrs together now and wouldn’t change a thing. We were talking the other day about plans for the future and I actually told him that before I met him had I been told how my life would unfold I would be ecstatic. There were some very hard times and things happened I wasn’t sure I’d survive but with DH and my DC now and our life together its like I’ve won the life lottery.

[amusedbush]

No. I love the bones of him and I have no plans to leave, but I wouldn't choose this life for myself if I could do it over.

[CuriousaboutSamphire]

We've been together since Live Aid... and yes. Definitely. Despite the best efforts of our utterly mad families, I can't imagine life without him!

[Kahlua4me]

Absolutely I would, my only regret is I didn’t meet and marry him sooner.
Kissed far to many frogs before finding my prince 😃😃

[Allthewaves]

Hmm I'm not sure tbh. We married very young and it was awful first years of marriage and supporting ptsd husband. I love me life now. Dh has grown into a great man and I love my kids. Those early years marriage made me into a better more empathetic person but it was horrendous to live through.

[WhooooAmI24601]

Yes. Every day of the week and twice on Sunday. He's the kindest most selfless man I know. He's flawed and grumpy at times, but a happy marriage doesn't mean a perfect one.

[George1983]

No not at all. Partly because of him and partly because I think the whole wedding concept (for us two who are not religious and not very overt outgoing people) was just a waste of money which we could have used more sensibly. I wouldn’t be without our children but would definitely have left oh if we weren’t married

[FartsMeanHearts]

100% yes

[JenniferL90]

I'd marry my husband even sooner! Since we've been married I've seen how he's even more wonderful than before we were married. (And we have 7 years togher pre-marriage and been married 7)

He's been my rock through miscarriages, is the most incredible father.

And gets better looking with age, while here I am.....getting old!

[allthegoodusernameshavegone]

I’d do it again in a flash, exactly the same.

[ginghamstarfish]

Yes but sooner!

[homtardy]

In a heartbeat

[BigSandyBalls2015]

We've been married nearly 22 years and I love him enormously, but I think he's changed over the years. No doubt I have too.

He was incredibly laid back and 'go with the flow' when he was younger, now the stresses of kids/teens and running his own business have taken their toll and he's far more stressed and gets angry more easily.

If he had been like this at the beginning I wouldn't have been attracted to him, is the honest truth.

Although saying that I appreciate that he works exceptionally hard for his family and we have a good life, and it's because of this that he is stressed.

[juddyrockingcloggs]

Absolutely! We got married very young and the way he's grown and become who is today is amazing! Don't get me wrong he eats on my tits quite often but I wouldn't have him any other way!

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Don't know.
But if I didn't, I wouldn't have DSs, which is pretty unthinkable, so yes, probably.

If I'd never got pg by him, then probably no. I do still love him but things would have been much simpler for me if I hadn't married him.

[Amoregentlemanlikemanner]

Yes

[Rafflesway]

Absolutely! 39 years married and counting!!

[Sadmum23]

In a heartbeat - been married 30 years this year . Together 39 years . Which we had got together sooner.

[FuckOffDailyMailFools]

he eats on my tits quite often

Aha! The REAL secret to a long and happy marriage !

[BarbarianMum]

Yes but sooner (this would have involved me asking him out rather than acting interested but waiting).

[JackieMac77]

Yes. But I wouldn't spend the first few years making such a thing of feeding him and taking care of all his practical needs to show his family that I was a good wife. I've made him fat and domestically lazy (he's still a workhorse outside the home!) and his family are still hostile twats.