To not want the baby clothes?

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A neighbour has bagged up three bin bags of baby clothes for our imminent arrival.

The problem is, we are very limited on space. It’s a very small two bedroom property with a small lounge and kitchen, bathroom and one normal size bedroom and one tiny one. The small bedroom fits a single bed and chest of drawers.

Also, I don’t like the clothes. We don’t know if we are having a boy or a girl but we’ve been given clothes for both, and this doesn’t matter but they just aren’t really what I would choose. I don’t really want the house filled with clothes they might wear at 6 months, we have babygros .

Would it be really rude to return them?

*dont think will all get used

Yanbu to not want them but I do think you have to check and see what the giver would prefer - either them back or for you to give away.

If you need to get rid asap stick them on gumtree, Facebook or an ad in the local newsagents and I'll bet they'll go quick. Or maybe your midwife would know of an organisation. Please don't just bin them if they're usable. I don't drive either but it's such a shame to bin clothes someone could really appreciate.

Word to the wise though, if you're short on space you need to get inventive fairly quick. We have the same space as you and a complete change of wardrobe every three months for the first year is a complete pain in the backside. I highly recommend getting some vacuum storage bags so at least you can store clothes till you're ready to get rid of them.

Bash, the stairs are in the lounge. The only place to store clothes are the bedrooms and they are full.

Return with a note or card thanking her for thinking of you
Do give her the option having of the clothes back
If she doesn’t want them back ask your mw or HV if she can give the clothes to a family in need

Of course it is not wrong to return them, just say you had not realised how much space they would take up, loads of friends are promising gifts of clothes etc etc and would she rather you dropped them back to her or would she like you to take them to a charity shop, If this is not too hard for you to do.

Or as LipstickHandbagCoffee says "Return with a note or card thanking her for thinking of you"

If neighbour doesn’t want ask the mw if she or a HV know a family who’d appreciate
Mw and HV will know of families who’d appreciate the clothes

Return them with a gushing note about how you've already been lucky enough to be given years worth of clothes and couldn't bear to think of these lovely items going to waste when there's so many needy people out there. Say you didn't want to be presumptuous by donating them on in case the giver knows someone else who would like them.

Agree with Nancy!

She should have asked you first, OP!

Lonesurvivor's note idea is great!

you say " thankyou, ill go through them and can see there are some lovely things. What do you want me to do with the ones I dont want, do you want them back or do you want me to pass them on?"

If you keep the clothes there will come a day when you're rummaging through the bags with you and Baby covered in tears, puke and milk and you'll want to kiss her feet for sending you a few spare vests and babygros!

She's doing you a real kindness are you're being massively ungrateful. Baby clothes bundles sell for quite a lot (because other people have realised their worth)

Bit rude to assume she's using you as a bin, she probably thought she was helping.

My DH and I bought sensible amounts of clothing for our DD, and to our taste too, but family went insane and bought ridiculous amounts of stuff - most of which we didn’t need, and wasn’t to our taste.

I wish people would just give money or vouchers.

You seem to have made up your mind.

If you keep the clothes there will come a day when you're rummaging through the bags with you and Baby covered in tears, puke and milk and you'll want to kiss her feet for sending you a few spare vests and babygros!

Are you for real?

She got sent three bin bags of clothes.

I have a nine month old and I have never found myself with a baby so covered in milk, tears or puke that I would be glad of three bin bags' worth of unsolicited clothing. Futures in muslins, yes, possibly. Random clothing, nope.

@peppapigwouldmakelovelyrashers I’ll be keeping them at first of course! This is my third child and I know they can go through a fair amount, but it honestly isn’t possible to go through the amount she has bought! I also have an 11 year old that puts washing loads in as he goes past so I doubt I’ll be even struggling with that as I did with previous two newborn stages.
As I said I’m incredibly grateful, she’s so excited and it’s wonderful to see... but I won’t be needing 10 cotbed sheets for example

Call your local woman's aid - plenty of people who are in desperate need - they will collect

Then forget about it

Why do you not use your loft with such a small house?

The thing is, babies grow so quickly there are always loads of lightly worn clothes in circulation and some people are a bit shopaholic about cute little outfits. Then you have the dilemma of what to do with them and many people prefer to give them to someone they know rather than charity shop. Your neighbour meant it kindly but she's also imposed on you as she didn't give you a chance to say yes or no. Its tough but I think you need to take them back and say, I'm really grateful for the kind thought but we have more than enough already and no space. Or she will give you another 3 bags every 6 months for the next 5 years.

It was thoughtless of her not to ask first, so don't feel bad about returning them with a thanks but no thanks.

She will dump give you more unless you make it clear you don't want or need them.

Not thoughtless in least,probably a spontaneous gesture to be kind
Thoughtless is an act designed to be unkind or inconvenience someone
Free clothes isn’t thoughtless. In fact it demonstrates thinking of op,seeing she’s pg

Whatever you do absolutely make sure she doesn’t want them back, you see many threads on mn about people getting upset about clothes they have given away.

I agree, return with a really nice note about how kind she was and how lovely the clothes are but you really don’t have the room.

What size are they?

I wish people would just give money or vouchers.

Classy.

Nothing says 'congratulations on your new arrival' like a fifty pound note...