Not invited to dd's birthday day out: aibu to be miffed.?

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Dd s birthday today. She's 16. DP had taken her and a few friends to another town (a nice, touristy one) to go shopping/ lunch etc. Town is about 40 miles away.

DP has been planning this with dd for a while. I was not invited.

When I called him out on it, he said I could come as long as 1) there was space in the car or 2) I was willing to drive myself separately.

I feel miffed. I feel I should have been invited and given the option to say yes or no. Am I being U?

I'm a bit poorly today and feeling paranoid and over sensitive.

It would have been nice to have been asked though.

NB: he has form for this type of thing. The other day, he booked himself a ticket to a concert knowing I'd like to have gone. By the time he said he was going, the tickets had been sold out, so I couldn't go anyway.

I've also caught him cheating (Not recently).

AIBU to feel pushed out and sidelined?

Exactly slane. On the surface of it, the DP taking a load of teen girls to town for a day of shopping isn't anything to 'worry' about. But the thing is, a considerate DP would never have finalized the plan without talking to OP about it beforehand AND without an invitation to accompany him. OP was purposefully excluded by her DP. THAT's the difference and what points to him being 'checked out' of the relationship. And normally, a day kicking around town is a lovely way to spend a day with your 'other half'. He didn't want her there.

I have boys and I'm not 'sporty' or 'outdoorsy'. DH and our sons are. For their birthdays/Father's Day there were often plans made by DH for activities (camping, fishing, etc) that I had zero interest in. But I was always consulted first and given an invitation to go along even though they all knew I would politely decline.

I hope I’m wrong but Im thinking it sounds like he’s doing all he possibly can to be separate.

Sadly, I thought the same.

@Quimby quite!