Don't feel guilty. Think about all the times he's made you feel crap:
He came up with some wonderful excuses as to why he hadn't thought of me when I pointed out how much it had hurt my feelings.
Feeling somewhat vindicated now just a bit sad. For the PP who asked what he's like the rest of the time...it's ok. Not great. I often find myself wanting more.
No, I'm not happy. I find myself getting jealous of my friends when their partners are thoughtful at Christmas or Valentine's (another one he doesn't 'do')
Writing this has made me feel really sad and fucked off about his previous form as well now. I felt gutted last Valentine's when I got ready to go out and he'd forgotten to book the restaurant he'd categorically said we were going to dinner at two weeks previously.
He knows it isn't just a 'holiday' for me and carries real religious significance too which he takes the piss out of. Was deeply saddened at the time and still am. He seems to think a lot of things I enjoy are stupid.
the thing that made me incandescent with rage during that talk was the 'we'. There is NO WE,
I feel like noting I do will ever be 'right' and it's exhausting
I'm sitting here in tears now because I feel like a fucking mug.
He's only sad because you will no longer be paying out for him and washing his pants.
Well done OP. Now go out and celebrate your birthday, dumping the twat, and all the money you'll be saving in the process.