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To say buy your own nappies

162 replies

1DAD2KIDS · 05/01/2018 09:38

The ex just returned the kids after being away for new years. She was round for chritmas and she packed the kids bags to go away with her. What I didn't realise is that she had also taken my big stash of nappies (about 50-70 nappies) for ds. Well untill this morning when I realised I only had a couple left in the house. Now it was always my understanding that when she has them she provides the nappies (bar a few in the nappy bag to get them on her way). I'm not being funny but nappies are expensive and I don't ask for any maintenance. AIBU or petty about being pissed off about this.

OP posts:
greendale17 · 05/01/2018 09:40

She is taking the mick

supersop60 · 05/01/2018 09:40

YANBU. Next time - hide them.

UnitedKungdom · 05/01/2018 09:41

Urgh, what a dick she is.

constantchange · 05/01/2018 09:41

YANBU. Cheeky mare!

MissDuke · 05/01/2018 09:41

Yes that is ridiculous of her. YANBU. I agree, hide them! Any anything else you don't want her to take it seems!

Weezol · 05/01/2018 09:43

What a CF. Hide them next time.

RavingRoo · 05/01/2018 09:44

Lock them away next time

ferriswheel · 05/01/2018 09:47

Why on eart dont you ask for maintenence?

Sirzy · 05/01/2018 09:49

In future pack the bag and give it to her then you can control what she takes.

trippingup · 05/01/2018 10:03

YANBU. Hugs.

mummmy2017 · 05/01/2018 10:04

It's not worth the fight over £20..
Honest it;s just not.
But it may be worth asking for CS if she is working and you have the children more,

paxillin · 05/01/2018 10:05

Cheeky, yes. But on the small side as far as gripes go, 50-70 is perhaps 10 days' worth, not exactly a huge stash and less than £10, so unless you are very hard up, I'd let it go.

wagil · 05/01/2018 10:12

Well it's just her isn't it 1DAD, she's a taker.

Original poster
1DAD2KIDS · 05/01/2018 10:24

ferriswheel because she is broke and me and the kids do ok. I don't want to make her life harder as we live a decent life. I know it's may £20s worth. To be fair it's not the cost it's more the fact she left me only a couple of nappies and took all the stash. Took them all without any consideratuon. It's more that one she didn't tell me so I could have got some before there return. And two that I have had to now go to the supermarket before I go out with the kids to the museum. I just don't like the fact that I have been dropped in it this morning. wagil your right it is so her, honestly I doubt she gave it a though. But it is cheeky isn't It?

OP posts:
Cantuccit · 05/01/2018 10:26

That's unacceptable. I would supervise her packing the bag next time.

If she takes clothes, do you ever see them again?

WinterRose92 · 05/01/2018 10:28

It's cheeky! She should provide them! I agree with what Sirzy says.

Rainbowqueeen · 05/01/2018 10:28

Very cheeky

How would she take it if you sent a text saying just to clarify that I will send the kids to you with X, y, z, nappy bag etc. the nappies I use are bla brand which you can buy for X place.

And yes hide the nappies!

Hissy · 05/01/2018 10:29

oh well, we know what she's like pretty much as much as you do. She's awful.

Tell her to return/replace the nappies immediately, you have the kids, they nappies were paid for by you and she has no right to steal them from you. FFS, if she was short of a few and asked, you'd have given her some, but to take the lot? unacceptable

My dear, you need to get the maintenance thing sorted too, get this arrangement on a proper footing

C8H10N4O2 · 05/01/2018 10:30

2-3 large packs of nappies? Did you not see them disappearing out the door? Still online ordering can get replacements the same day these days.

I'd pack the bags if I was worried about the items going out.

Cath2907 · 05/01/2018 10:32

I'd have bags packed and kids dressed and hand over at door. Saves this happening again - she obviously can't be trusted. Of course she is out of order!

honeyroar · 05/01/2018 10:32

Yes it's cheeky. I'd message her "can you least let me know when you've taken nearly every nappy in the house!"

Lweji · 05/01/2018 10:41

TBH, I wouldn't let an ex pack any bags for the children to be away.
She could have a few clothes at home and I'd pack the rest. This way you won't have things taken away that you don't know about.

Or lock the nappies somewhere, if you're happy with her taking some and packing their things.

user789653241 · 05/01/2018 10:42

How can you not notice the big stack of nappies are gone missing? Tbh, if you are so bothered, just ask her to re-stock it for you. Not a big deal, unless you live in a remote place where you can't get them when you need it?

Lweji · 05/01/2018 10:46

How can you not notice the big stack of nappies are gone missing?

Because, they are probably stored somewhere somewhat out of sight, and the OP didn't need them this morning. Maybe? Possibly?

StayAChild · 05/01/2018 10:51

It's the little things like this that can tip you over the edge isn't it? Now you have to go out for more nappies. I wouldn't mention it - it's not worth it, but I would make sure they're not available to her next time she packs up for them.

Happy new year to your little family.