To say buy your own nappies

[1DAD2KIDS]

The ex just returned the kids after being away for new years. She was round for chritmas and she packed the kids bags to go away with her. What I didn't realise is that she had also taken my big stash of nappies (about 50-70 nappies) for ds. Well untill this morning when I realised I only had a couple left in the house. Now it was always my understanding that when she has them she provides the nappies (bar a few in the nappy bag to get them on her way). I'm not being funny but nappies are expensive and I don't ask for any maintenance. AIBU or petty about being pissed off about this.

It's disbicable

What would you have said if she had asked to take them? Would you have been kind or unkind?

Perhaps she felt she had no choice. She is broke after all. It's a bit sad having to squirrel away nappies. At least you know one of your child's basic needs is being met when they are away with her.

You know sometimes it's the little things that push you. I woke up this morning with a plan of action and schedule (including our train times). I open the cupboard to find it empty. Not even enough for the day. She has cleared me out and not told me. I just had a couple down stairs. So now having to drive out to the supermarket as had an knock on effect on the morning and our day at the museum. It's not the money it's the fact she has been so inconsiderate and just sort of dropped me in it.

She works, she drives and she always has money for fags. I know hasn't got a lot of money but like I said she does work and it was always the understanding that when they are with her she feeds them and provides the disposable. She is alway free to help her self to some nappies but clearing the whole cupboard is taking the piss imo.

You’re well off, just buy some more.

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Next time pack the bags yourself so she has no reason to come in. Job done.

I am not unsympathetic. It is inconvenient. I don't understand why you let her in to pack. I would do the bag myself so I knew what things had left the house and what I needed back. Why don't you ask for maintenance?

I sympathise, my CF ex pulls stunts like this all too often... Recently noticed all DS1's nice jumpers were missing when he came downstairs and said there was nothing he liked wearing in the wardrobe... Seems his mum has been squirelling them all away when he goes to hers in something nice

Managed to get one of them back, christ knows what she's done with the rest of them. Just got to try to wise up to her game and limit the opportunities for her to take the piss.

u r such a good dad and she iz a bitch hun. am so glad u got mn to vent on and all the support from off here.

Yes. It is discusting.

My exsil would drop her children off with her mother with one nappy. More nappies would obviously be needed over a few hours/overnight so exmil would buy more. When kids were being collected exsil would take all the nappies with her. She and her husband had good jobs so not short of a bob or two. Exmil was too dull to stop her daughter sponging off her and using her for free childcare at the drop of a hat.

OP, you've had several suggestions but haven't acknowledged any of them.

What do you want out of this thread?

Has she got a widescreen telly? Has she ever taken them to an educational establishment eg. museum rather than to the pub ?

These questions need answering.

What's wrong with you today?

I'd be mightily pissed off if ex took all the nappies I had stored and suddenly I had to go to the supermarket instead of straight to work.

I'd have been claiming maintenance, because dads are supposed to contribute towards raising their own children.

I'd have a moan about him having money for other things but not buying nappies for his own children, particularly if he wasn't paying maintenance.

And everybody here would have supported me. Or at least would suggest plans of action without all the snipping and put downs.

AF hun, this is a dad doin his best 4 his 2 kids, there trip 2 a museum was ruined by her- he was probly having 2 take them there to recharge there braynez after a week rotting with there feckless crap mum.

What job could someone have which would allow them 50k + a year but not require them to spell?

OP has a bit of a back catalogue though, Lweji

A job that a dyslexic could do?

What job could someone have which would allow them 50k + a year but not require them to spell?

TBF, you're just revealing your own snobbery and ignorance there.

Back catalogue or not, my post still stands.

Of course you’re being funny - otherwise you wouldn’t have said I’m not being funny. would you rather she didn’t have nappies to use for when she needed them? Seems a bit of a non issue really.

would you rather she didn’t have nappies to use for when she needed them?
And why couldn't she buy her own nappies or left at least a pack?

How about we leave OP to rise to the challenge of resolving his own handover and child maintenance dilemmas?

He could spend some of his MN time reading instead of posting and learn from the thousands of strong, resourceful single parents who went before him and rose to the challenge and grew.

rebecca - are you real? Please stop the weird talk.

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