To say buy your own nappies

[1DAD2KIDS]

The ex just returned the kids after being away for new years. She was round for chritmas and she packed the kids bags to go away with her. What I didn't realise is that she had also taken my big stash of nappies (about 50-70 nappies) for ds. Well untill this morning when I realised I only had a couple left in the house. Now it was always my understanding that when she has them she provides the nappies (bar a few in the nappy bag to get them on her way). I'm not being funny but nappies are expensive and I don't ask for any maintenance. AIBU or petty about being pissed off about this.

Because no single parent ever had a moan here?

In this blistering, minute by minute, handmaiden assisted way? For years? I can think of two.

Except that when single mothers have moans here hardly anyone jumps on them.

He may well be an arsehole, but it's not how this thread is coming across on his side.

I'm serious, BTW, that it would do him good. It's not just that it's frustrating to see him here constantly rehearsing minor gripes of his own making, he IS disempowering himself, missing opportunities for growth, falling into a rut and whatever else you want to phrase it as. Not healthy.

Except that when single mothers have moans here hardly anyone jumps on them.

No of course they don't.

They get support because everyone has wobbles sometimes, down days occasionally, temporary rough patches....

Vivienne and what if he couldn't replace them? But it's more the point that she didn't ask. I don't even want DH going through my stuff.

How old are your kids OP?

It's not exactly hard to go to the shops, buy more nappies, go home and then get the next available train, is it? Or am I missing something hugely logistical? You'd miss out ona maximum of 2 hours of the morning... How long were you even planning on taking the kids tot he museum, surely not all day if they're young enough to need more than a couple of nappies to last an entire day?

I'm confused as to how this has ruined your museum trip

But where is he? He hasn't answered why ex packs the bag or responded to any suggestions.

On that basis, I'm inclined to agree with AF that he has posted to get women to argue about him.

That's unacceptable. I would supervise her packing the bag next time.
This is the answer really.

You're no more petty than any single mum who posts this sort of gripe! I have to say, it would niggle me too. Bloody cheek really.

Some other posters post about minor grips constantly too. We just pay less attention to their usernames.

I agree that the issue is easily sorted (my initial post), as I think the same about dozens of posts here at any given time.

I just don't think there is any need for nastiness towards anyone. And I don't think this thread in particular should elicit any.

I tend to be annoyed by gratuitous nastiness. Leave the backstories at home. None of you are doing yourselves any favours.

And why aren't you answering/responding to suggestions about how to handle this in future?

But where is he?

Probably at work, which is what I should be doing if not procrastinating on MN.

What a load of vicious bitches on here . As someone else rightly pointed out if the situation was reversed all the virtue signallers on here would be saying that it takes two to make a baby and dads should always contribute no matter how skint ,its their responsibility etc etc . Funny how when its a man as the main carer and the childrens mother who is not exactly stepping up then loads of excuses are made for her and the dad is more or less told to man up and sort it out . Hypocrites - I look forward to the next post from a woman in a similar situation getting a similarly unsympathetic response - oh hang on that ain't gonna happen is it .

I have significant dyslexia, recently diagnosed. My question is a genuine one.
I was genuinely trying to think of a job where spelling really didn’t matter.

Humour me?

What a load of vicious bitches on here . As someone else rightly pointed out if the situation was reversed all the virtue signallers on here would be saying that it takes two to make a baby and dads should always contribute no matter how skint ,its their responsibility etc etc

Yes it's called child maintainence.

At least twenty of us told him to claim it. What's viciously bitchy about that?

Lots of jobs with the right software vent.

Or for jobs with less writing;

Train driver.
HGV driver (depending)
Heating engineer.
Plumber.
Various other skilled manual occupations.

I was genuinely trying to think of a job where spelling really didn’t matter.

Scientific research/Academia, for example. We always correct each other's papers and theses. At a reasonably senior level you could be on 50k a year.

The first replies were normal, with suggestions, or saying it wasn't such a big deal. The nastiness really started with AF.

PS: sorry I missed there was a day planned at the museum. God forbid anyone makes plans.

What job could someone have which would allow them 50k + a year but not require them to spell?

My BiL is a builder pulling £70,000+ and can hardly read or write.

AF hun, this is a dad doin his best 4 his 2 kids, there trip 2 a museum was ruined by her- he was probly having 2 take them there to recharge there braynez after a week rotting with there feckless crap mum.

The OP's idiosyncratic approach to grammar and spelling would annoy me if I was marking an essay, but surely it's far from the worst on MN?

I couldn't be arsed wading through all his previous threads, the recent few were innocuous enough, what's the poor bugger done to wake the vipers?

[back to point]

Yep. It's rude. You do need to establish some boundaries. Personally I would claim the maintenance and pay that money straight into an account for my kids. If she's really broke it does depend on how much you'd get and whether it's worth the agro.

I also offered him a suggestion. But Lweji, he's posted three times between 9am and 1pm and ignored all the suggestions and comments. Just seems to be ranting.

Can you earn 50k doing any of those jobs though?

Isn’t train driving about 36k? That’s what my friends DH earns doing that.

My DH is self employed doing landscaping and building and he really does have to have a bit of savvy when it comes to spelling if he wants anyone to take him seriously.

donquix I think my DH is doing something wrong then, 70k!!! 🤑

But point taken though.

Just seems to be ranting.

He's not the first and won't be the last...

Sometimes people just want a rant, and not offered solutions. Wait... isn't it often said of women and how men tend to offer solutions rather than shoulders to cry on? Funny that.

I really can't believe I'm having to write this. I'm usually found defending MN against reverse sexism claims.

What job could someone have which would allow them 50k + a year but not require them to spell?

I think this has to be one of the best (and silliest) things I've read on here! I work with a number of people earning considerably more than this that can't spell! They are very good at their jobs and don't need to spell to be good at them.

JustVent DH is a caretaker. No writing involved.