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To say buy your own nappies

162 replies

1DAD2KIDS · 05/01/2018 09:38

The ex just returned the kids after being away for new years. She was round for chritmas and she packed the kids bags to go away with her. What I didn't realise is that she had also taken my big stash of nappies (about 50-70 nappies) for ds. Well untill this morning when I realised I only had a couple left in the house. Now it was always my understanding that when she has them she provides the nappies (bar a few in the nappy bag to get them on her way). I'm not being funny but nappies are expensive and I don't ask for any maintenance. AIBU or petty about being pissed off about this.

OP posts:
Battleax · 05/01/2018 11:48

Do you think you're maybe tanking on a martyr's mantle slightly OP? It's easy to do.

user789653241 · 05/01/2018 11:49

No, it's not double standard. I would have said the same if it was reverse scenario.

Lentilbaby · 05/01/2018 11:50

Whether you can afford it or not is irrelevant OP. She should have asked you. It could have meant you having to get to the nearest 24 hour supermarket late at night and having to disturb the kids to take them with you (if you live alone) because you had run out. It’s not on.

x2boys · 05/01/2018 11:51

Yep of course you would Hmm

AnyFucker · 05/01/2018 11:52

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user789653241 · 05/01/2018 11:53

Grin Yes, I would.

Cbaanymore123 · 05/01/2018 11:57

Today 11:47 AnyFucker

My advice to you is to sort out your boundaries with your ex and stop using randoms on MN to help slag her off

She is what she is. You know it. Don't we all fucking know it. Manage it.

this would be said about a man that's for sure

Cbaanymore123 · 05/01/2018 11:57

Wouldnt

DriveInSaturday · 05/01/2018 11:58

"Say you will report them as stolen if she fails to return them"

Made me think of two things. They have been used by now. Wouldn't that tempt her to return them, used?

And the police's reaction...

DriveInSaturday · 05/01/2018 12:01

And a typical response to anyone who says they are going to withhold contact if no maintenance is paid is, 'It's not pay-per-view'.

Viviennemary · 05/01/2018 12:02

Grin at thought of them being returned used. Eeeeew. But on a serious note, I would not like stuff being removed from my house without my knowledge or permission. It's just overstepping boundaries. And there would be an outcry if a man did this with a women's supply of nappies. It's just wrong on every front.

AnyFucker · 05/01/2018 12:03

Cba....if a woman had been whining on MN about stuff like nappies as much as this guy has they would get the same response from me.

mummmy2017 · 05/01/2018 12:04

Sorry Evil Doctor, having been skint as well many times, I do feel that £20 is a lot.
But from the way it was worded about asking for CS, it sounded like the daddy was the main carer.
I still don't think at this date it's worth the fight, but I would hide the nappies in your room, and just add 5 or 6 at a time to the changing stuff.
Sometimes if you manage to rub along, it's worth the not causing a fuse and just stopping the problem from happening again...

C8H10N4O2 · 05/01/2018 12:04

And there would be an outcry if a man did this with a women's supply of nappies. It's just wrong on every front.

The most common response would likely be "why don't you pack the kids stuff yourself and hand over at the door"

AnyFucker · 05/01/2018 12:07

It's also worth noting that ploppy posters like this one just love to sit back and watch the mummies fighting amongst themselves to defend their honour.

Battleax · 05/01/2018 12:09

It's also worth noting that ploppy posters like this one just love to sit back and watch the mummies fighting amongst themselves to defend their honour.

I think you may have a point there.

Apocalyptichorsewoman · 05/01/2018 12:11

Aye - ^^ What AF said.

mummmy2017 · 05/01/2018 12:13

I would have said the same had a mum said the dad had taken her nappies.
Pick your fights, and choose the ones you can win.
It has worked well for me all my life..
If one parent works and the other one cares, in different homes, the partner with more money should always contribute to the DC's upkeep..

RestingGrinchFace · 05/01/2018 12:14

That's terrible. The CF could have at least told you so that you had time to get some more. Who does that?!

HellonHeels · 05/01/2018 12:28

If she's broke, maybe she couldn't afford the nappies - in that case if she hadn't taken them, your child would have suffered. Would that have been better?

BoreOfWhabylon · 05/01/2018 12:45

It''s also worth noting that ploppy posters like this one just love to sit back and watch the mummies fighting amongst themselves to defend their honour.

Well quite. OP makes quite the habit of it.

JustVent · 05/01/2018 12:46

Jesus how broke must she be to have to steal nappies in order to look after your children.

She must have known you’d be unhappy about it otherwise she would have asked.

Everyone on here who’s slating her are arseholes.

She isn’t stealing money from you, you said she is broke and she has taken nappies for YOUR kids.

Sure it’s not a great way of going about it, but look at the bigger picture here. She’s clearly pretty desperate. And I repeat, you said she is broke.

AnyFucker · 05/01/2018 12:53

Perhaps the nappies were to sell on the black market ? To be swopped for drugs ? To be used by herself ? To entice a new toyboy into a life of debauchery and excess ?

Or....to be used for op's own child. Scandalous.

BoreOfWhabylon · 05/01/2018 12:56

I'm discusted at your viscous insinuations AF

BoreOfWhabylon · 05/01/2018 12:57
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