I asked my guest to leave my home.

[bubblesdrew]

We built a house a couple of fields away from some neighbours.

I met the husband at the local shop a couple of months after we got settled & after some chat asked if him and his wife would like to join us, friends & family for a New Years Eve dinner.

His wife and himself arrived that night and they were initially great. During conversation she asked for a tour of the house and I said no (not in a rude way). 20 minutes later she said again that she would like a tour of the house and again I said no. Then a THIRD time she asked and at that point my husband stepped in and said that there wouldn't be a tour.

She used the bathroom numerous times in the night which is located under the stairs. My niece was in our room at the top of the stairs past the closet which eventually leads into the master bedroom.

This woman had climbed the stairs later in the night when she asked to be excused for the bathroom went through my closet and into the master bedroom. My niece flew down and told my husband who marched upstairs and quietly asked her to leave. She claimed she was lost but, she had used the bottom bathroom all night!!
Should I have given her a tour or was she being completely unreasonable?

Pissed! Even......

It's not possible to quote proof that the OP did not claim to have thrown the neighbour out politely, but (if it were true) one could quote the post in which she did so.

Of course, you aren't providing the evidence, which would be easy if your claim were true, because she didn't do it.

But keep on trying to obfuscate. Have you considered a job in politics - you might fit in well at the Whitehouse.

Its it's been over 24 hours! I hope for her sake she's just a hard of thinking and not an alcoholic.

Hahaha! Nutter more like!

I don’t drink, but boom strikes me as completely round the twist, alcohol or no.

I’m not providing evidence because I can’t be arsed to read the thread. If you read back you will find the OP referring to the ejection.

Don't worry Tatiana, you may engage in uninformed debate but fear not I have read the thread. That's how I know it's not there.

She mentions the ejection in the first post. It's in the title for goodness sake. She did not claim the ejection was polite, only that her "No." in response to a request for a tour was.

As has been explained ad nauseam on here that a straight no with no qualification is rude. There is no polite way of doing that.

It hasn't been "explained". People like you, Tatiana, have proclaimed that to be the case, but that doesn't make it so; they have also resolutely refused to acknowledge the views of those who are perfectly aware that it is entirely possible to say "No" politely, particularly when the person concerned has already explained their reasoning. You may find that reasoning odd, but it doesn't change the fact that it was explained and therefore doesn't need to be repeated when the request OP had already declined is repeated.

What is rude, of course, is continuing to press for a tour when your host has already explained why she doesn't want to give one; when you are rude in that way the host's obligation to be polite does reduce somewhat.

Eh? I never said she claimed ‘the ejection was polite.’

You said: I have no idea how they threw her out since the OP hasn't mentioned it.

I replied that she has mentioned it. Not only is it in the OP, she refers to it later in the thread.

Not another one!

She talks about a "gentle conversation" and the neighbours saying goodbye to the other guests to save face but not about what was actually said which, since you are so hung up on form of words, would seem to be essential to your idea of manners. None of which, of course, is relevant to whether the original refusal was polite - you were just trying to obfuscate that by mixing it up with a comedically bad kicking out script that didn't actually happen.

I said nothing about ‘the original refusal being polite’, you seem to have had some kind of brain seizure.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

Thank goodness this thread is nearly full. It's ridiculous how outraged and argumentative people get over something which is so unimportant.

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