AIBU to feel hurt by this?

[Whiterabbitears]

My DH and our two DDs are Muslim. I'm not I'm white British but DH and I have always bought our girls up to accept and respect both our cultures so they can fit in with both. We live in a mainly white area with very few ethnic minority people so my girls have white friends. I have just seen on the dreaded Facebook a post from a friend of mine who's DD is also a friend of my DD asking why Muslims are allowed in this country, along the lines of "they hate dogs, pork and Jesus so they should get out" type of thing. Lots of people have liked and agreed with this that I know.

My friend and I have always been open about my family's faith and she has always claimed to be open minded about it and shown interest. I now feel that she's not being honest and probably judges us. I haven't commented on her post but I'm not sure how to proceed because right now I feel hurt, does she think my family should "get out too"?

snow
It has helped to vent here thank you.

OP "I remember when I met DH in the 90s it was very uncool amongst my peers to be racist, I felt we were more accepted then."

yes, things have definitely got worse.

Its very sad, I do think about my DDs futures.

Have a look at this article I am old enough to remember it at the time and my memory is that most of the complaints after the broadcast were from Muslims

The UK Action Committee for Islamic Affairs. The ones that burnt books and started the campaign against Salman Rushdie?

I personally would avoid a direct confrontation as she will deny and lie and it will cause more pain for you . And who needs that ?
I would however screenshot it just in case

Let the friendship go OP and I am sorry how very hurtful

I’m sorry . She’s a nasty bigot

Just wanted to add my support OP.

The bigoted fools on this thread are an embarrassment but luckily they are in the minority.

Defriend the islamaphobe. It's pathetic how some people are desperate to feel a little shred of superiority and it only proves that they are tyuly lacking.

Op my dh and dcs are Muslim. Ds1 had some problems when he was in juniors and early secondary school. I really found out who my friends were then and fortunately, many more people were appalled and disgusted than not. It does affect you so deeply though. I remember I confronted one of the bullies who told him to go back to 'his own fucking country' and dh could hear me in the next street . It was a horrible time and only got sorted when we involved the police.
I'm not a Facebook expert but can't you report her post?

She's good company, I really wish I hadn't seen it! Before FB I probably would have been none the wiser.

Of course she's racist.
So ignorant.
You don't need friends like that OP.

I think posting something dignified & calm but clear before unfriending her is probably the best thing to do.

Thank you Atrocious

misseliza I hurt so much on their behalf, the idea of anyone hating our DC based on their colour/faith is just so vile good for you confronting them! I've had a go at strangers when someone called my DD a terrorist in the street but when its a friend I'm a bit flummoxed, I find that sort of confrontation much harder.

ahmadiyyah is a sect and don't follow mainstream Islam.. the beliefs differ

we consider Jesus (isa as he is known in islam) to be a prophet

we can keep dogs but as guard dogs not as pets ... this is because a dogs saliva is considered impure .. so what ever the saliva touches becomes impure... so for instance if it was to get on the clothing we would have to change our clothes as we wouldn't be able to pray

I'm sorry OP that there are people out there like that... don't let it get to you because it won't be the last time you come across a person like this .. report and block
having said that I would be tempted to say something before I blocked her

... I'm a white British muslim I wonder where i would go

Sorry Snowdrop I have no idea what you are talking about
I’m supporting the OP. I’m not stopping her talking about what she wants, I’m agreeing there are bigoted people about and I offered her advice. What is your problem?

Firstly can everyone please ignore mumof as I've seen her posts on other threads and I've come to the conclusion that she just enjoys being pedantic and goady and all the attention it gets her.
Op I'm sorry this has happened but despite the hurt it's better to know what this person thinks as your friendship is not otherwise based on honesty and mutual respect.
I agree with some pp's in that it's important to not just unfriend but first acknowledge her ignorance and tell her the effects of her words on you.
'I am astounded at the level of ignorance your comments have shown. Not only are they sweeping and incorrect, they're also very damaging and hurtful. Perhaps more thought before you post such things? And shame on you who have liked this. If any of you want to be educated about the Muslim religion and those who practice it then you know where I am'
Then report and unfriend her and all who liked her post.

I have relatives (in the ME) with pet dogs.

I've only skimmed the thread to avoid the skirmish, so sorry if I've missed that you replied.

I've come across this sort of comment a few times in Facebook, from a friend, although not close, and a relative.

Similarly I wanted to make an "I've seen this," type of comment and I did because I knew I would look back and regret it if I didn't.

I would say something along the lines of, "Disappointed to see this is how you feel," and then unfriend and block them.

Thank you smiled

red I know! My DDs are mixed Bengali and white, so where do people like this think they belong?

@Red2017 thank you for explaining that. i never knew that (i am not well read on religions) and thats fascinating and explains the dog comment!

The consensus seems that most of you would at least acknowledge that I've seen it. I have unfollowed her and I'm actually thinking of coming off the damn site because this is what I warn the DDs about on social media. Or I might just keep the bunny/dog/cat stuff and forget the rest of it.

@whiterabbitears it hardly seems fair that you should come off that particular social media because of one narrow minded idiot's comments. I assume you like keeping up with friends/families lives on there. You have just as much right to be there as her so I would think twice before leaving

Sock yes you're right, fair point.

How horrendous OP. I think you did the right thing just walking away. Whatever you say she’ll prob just try to justify herself anyway. I’ve spent too long in social media battles with narrow minded and prejudiced people to think you’ll be able to change her mind. That said if she raises the fact you’re no longer fb “friends” with her then an honest answer in person might spark her to rethink her actions.

OP, @Mumof56 doesn't even have tolerance for vegetarians, how is she going to have an understanding of racism to Muslims .

Now I understand why her posts on most threads are so horrible.

@WoofWoofMooWoof

Sorry, didn't mean any goady fuckery. I don't know what I was trying to get at lol, been one of those days, and the neighbours have been driving me nuts, stomping and bashing and emptying their ashtrays into my garden. Sorry all .

You know exactly what you were getting at. Please stop trying to minimise what you said with LOLs and emojis.

You are now backtracking because you realise your offensive views are not welcome here. Pathetic.

have an understanding of racism to Muslims

So what race are Muslims then? Do you change race if you are a convert?