AIBU to feel hurt by this?

[Whiterabbitears]

My DH and our two DDs are Muslim. I'm not I'm white British but DH and I have always bought our girls up to accept and respect both our cultures so they can fit in with both. We live in a mainly white area with very few ethnic minority people so my girls have white friends. I have just seen on the dreaded Facebook a post from a friend of mine who's DD is also a friend of my DD asking why Muslims are allowed in this country, along the lines of "they hate dogs, pork and Jesus so they should get out" type of thing. Lots of people have liked and agreed with this that I know.

My friend and I have always been open about my family's faith and she has always claimed to be open minded about it and shown interest. I now feel that she's not being honest and probably judges us. I haven't commented on her post but I'm not sure how to proceed because right now I feel hurt, does she think my family should "get out too"?

Whiterabbit, I'm so sorry you've had to go through all this--not just the awfulness of your acquaintance's post on FB, but the ranty nonsense some people have posted in this thread.

I hope you know that most people are reasonable and kind, and recognise that diversity improves our world. If you lived near me I'd definitely share a pot of tea (or several!) with you and your family, and if I knew you on FB I'd have told that woman exactly how vile her post there was.

I hope you're all ok and your ex-friend sorts herself out.

ontherise

Diversity is a good thing, it would be boring if we were all the same.

If you do make a comment I think it would be better to calmly and rationally tell her her attitude is offensive and inexcuseable. I wouldn't make light of it or make a jokey comment, that makes it seem less important imo.

I don't know if you have seen the thing about how women talk vs how men talk (it mostly refers to the workplace) and how women tend to belittle themselves and apologise for everything. It really struck a chord with me, and now I'm aware of it I see it more and more.

Don't worry about upsetting anyone by highlighting their bigotry, they didn't worry about upsetting you.

Sorry, meant to add - if no one challenges her she will just carry on and become more emboldened each time no one disagrees. Which will make her attitude more prevalent as others see it being accepted.

I think I'd have to let her know I'd seen the post, and possibly just comment a simple "really??"

The other sad part is that her vile thoughts will be passed down to her children 😠

When are your paths likely to cross?

I'd be more likely to address her face to face and ask her to explain her thinking and ask her to post a stupid kitten meme or other such twee, lame-thinking soundbite philosophy apologising for being such a racist thick.