AIBU to feel hurt by this?

[Whiterabbitears]

My DH and our two DDs are Muslim. I'm not I'm white British but DH and I have always bought our girls up to accept and respect both our cultures so they can fit in with both. We live in a mainly white area with very few ethnic minority people so my girls have white friends. I have just seen on the dreaded Facebook a post from a friend of mine who's DD is also a friend of my DD asking why Muslims are allowed in this country, along the lines of "they hate dogs, pork and Jesus so they should get out" type of thing. Lots of people have liked and agreed with this that I know.

My friend and I have always been open about my family's faith and she has always claimed to be open minded about it and shown interest. I now feel that she's not being honest and probably judges us. I haven't commented on her post but I'm not sure how to proceed because right now I feel hurt, does she think my family should "get out too"?

Muslims do not 'hate' dogs per se. Islam is about kindness and respect for all living creatures. The issue with dogs is about their saliva and most/many do not keep them as pets.

The only holes I can see in this thread are the arse-holes minimising hate speech

I'm not seeing the same level of intolerance for Catholics or Protestants in the mainstream right now

BTW I am aware of sectarian violence around the world, and throughout history

Is it not mainstream enough for you, or have you just become aware between you last post and this one?

Islam isn't a race but Islamophobia is almost always born of racism. Islamophobes don't go after white Muslims, or Eastern Europeans, Malaysian, Thai, Singaporean Muslims...or even black Muslims. They have issues with brown people from Asia, the Middle East and North Africa. Even the ones who are Christian, Jewish, Sikh, Hindu and the rest.

Muslims don't 'dislike' dogs but some Islamic countries have superstitions about dogs in the house. Obviously not all Muslims subscribe to superstitions but many do, just as many white British people freak out about breaking mirrors and laundry on New Year's Day (wtf)

It's a shame you aren't actually Justanotherlurker, as that would mean we didn't have to read your posts.

OP, I think you should call her out. Just post saying that you're hurt by her comments as you considered her a friend and are sad to read how she really views your loved ones. And that loyalty is important to you so you won't be maintaining the friendship.

I married a muslim he didn't like dogs and told me most Muslims don't.
I think its to do with them being unclean but I could be misremembering.

@Mumof56 what is your problem with the op exactly?

mumof56

Please don't try and suggest what my education or knowledge is on world affairs you have no idea. Have I in any way said that I agree with sectarian or in fact any religious violence? I think you're just enjoying having a go at me. Carry on if it makes you feel better.

Cats ? where do all the Muslims in the whole wide world stand on cats ? Not literally .

Please don't try and suggest what my education or knowledge is on world affairs you have no idea

I don't need to "try and suggest". I quoted your exact words

You're right to be offended and also right to tell her and Unfriended her and your mates who likes her post. They are not your friends. I'm sorry this happened to you!!

Don't worry op @Mumof56 seems to have a go at a lot of people. Don't take it personally.

Whiterabbitears pay no heed to mum56 she loves going onto threads and starting arguments with posters. Have you decided if you're going to say something, or ask a friend to say something?

Did you reply to the Facebook post?

I am appreciating the helpful comments from the majority of you, it helps to know that not everybody thinks like this.

@Whiterabbitears I would not have the balls to be so confrontational and would want to let her know I had seen it (enough to embarass her / broach it) but in a more lighthearted way. Just for my own sake. I would probably just put "my DDs like dogs" with a puzzled face.

Defriend.
I cant stand it when people post things like this.

Kaytee and positively you're right I'm just going to ignore them now, my responding is just encouraging them. Thank you for your support.

I think I may go with wednesdays approach, Im going to find it hard to talk about to her about as DH and I have faced a lot of prejudice being together, which she knows so it can be an emotive subject for me.

My DH is Chinese - I have had people say anti-immigrant stuff to my face and when I ask whether they are saying my DH should be forced to leave, they either look confused/panic-stricken before mumbling and falling silent, or brazen it out with "Oh no I don't mean YOUR family - it's all the others I mind!"

Adalind "Islamophobes don't go after white Muslims, or Eastern Europeans, Malaysian, Thai, Singaporean Muslims...or even black Muslims"

oh yes they do go after those Muslims too! I'm amazed you think they don't.

OP, sorry you had this experience. I'd comment on her post, but that's me. You might want to block and move on, of course, but if you see her, explain why maybe?

Unfriend and ghost the friendship.

Of course anecdotal evidence means something: if the poster knows Muslims who like dogs, then not all Muslims hate dogs.

So therefor stereotypical evidence means something that the majority of muslims don't like dogs and consider them impure...

Sorry Whiterabbitears , it really is just completely ridiculous for people to hate people because they don't worship Jesus , are not keen on dogs (as a general rule or not) and don't eat pork . It would be like you hating people who preferred Oasis over Blur , hated guinea pigs and refused to eat mushrooms . It is that stupid .

justanothetlurker

What holes? And I don't know what ahmadiyya is? Is that a test or something?