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DP laughed at his DD falling off horse

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StubbyNosedCreatures · 02/01/2018 13:09

I've been really put off DP.

Took his DD (12) and my DS (9) horse riding. Neither had done it before and were in a class of around 6. So the class starts and the horses plod around the school like they do then his DDs horse starts trotting and starts getting rather fast. She wasn't supposed to be trotting at this point, the horse had just decided to spice things up a bit. The instructor shouted instructions at her about slowing down the horse but she didn't have a clue what to do. The trot got faster and faster until instructor starts shouting to pull back on the reigns otherwise the horse would break into a canter. DSD looks visibly terrified. DP is creased up laughing. Nobody else is laughing. All of the other horses had stopped still at this point and all attention was on DSD and this crazy horse. Then inevitably the horse breaks into a canter and starts flying around the school in circles getting faster and faster. Instructor gives up trying to get her to control it sndbjust shouts "hold on to the saddle! Don't panic!". Then DSD plummets to the ground. The horse continues to fly around on its own. DSD remains on the floor. Nobody knows if she's injured or not as nobody can get near her because the horse is still flying past every few seconds. I turn to DP expecting to have to reassure him and he's laughing so much he has tears rolling down his face. He saw my face and then choked through laughing "oh god is she ok?? Oh god hahaha".

Long story short, horse eventually gets bored of the carry on and brings itself into the centre of the room to signify that the class was over. DSD gets up. She's fine. DP laughs at her and said "why didn't you just get up??" So she screamed back at him "because there was a horse running past me every few seconds and I thought it was going to trample me!! Are you stupid?". He then tells her off for being cheeky.

It's really put me off him. He's. fuckwit isnt he?

OP posts:
Ohmyfuck · 03/01/2018 21:57

She was scared and humiliated in front of lots of people. Poor girl. What a terrible human being he is.

TooManyPaws · 03/01/2018 22:03

The best thing to do when someone falls off is laugh it off and get straight back on again. Falling off is part and parcel of getting on a horse. Kids bounce. Honestly, every time I fell off as a kid, we laughed it off.

Yup, just like the very experienced rider I was at school with. She was killed in a fall one weekend. So hilarious.

AlexaDoTheDishes · 04/01/2018 18:56

For fucks sake TwoMany don't be so utterly ridiculous

AlexaDoTheDishes · 04/01/2018 18:56

TooMany

SandyDenny · 04/01/2018 19:01

Toomany is being sympathetic, have you misread it Alexa?

I wouldn't want to be with anyone who laughed at their child in any situation where the child wasn't also laughing at themself

bastardkitty · 04/01/2018 19:04

That would be the end for me.

AlexaDoTheDishes · 04/01/2018 19:10

You do laugh off kids falling off horses. The best approach. If they haven't hurt themselves obviously.

It has NO relation to the very occasional accident which results in something more serious. You can't act like every fall is a potentially killer situation when a kid is learning - they'd never get back on!!

WrittenandGrown · 04/01/2018 19:14

This is dreadful. I am so sorry for DSD.

Branleuse · 04/01/2018 19:22

he sounds like a proper cunt.
That would really put me off someone. All three of those incidents.

pollythedolly · 04/01/2018 19:40

As a horse owner, no it's not funny, especially as it's new to her.

Secondly, put your DP on a young, fresh 16hh thoroughbred then all laugh your tits off as he thinks it's so funny.

Thirdly, riding school need to get that horse in check, fast.

Willow2017 · 04/01/2018 21:26

Alex
It wasnt a simple fall though was it?
It was a girl on a horse for the first time which went out of control then she fell off and it continued to career round and round her. Absolutely terrifying for your first time on a horse with not one adult doing anything about it.
Her dad laughing was ridiculous. And if you read ops other posts its any kid who hurts themselves who is fair game to take the piss out of and mimic.
He is a pratt.

AlexaDoTheDishes · 05/01/2018 07:55

My post was a continuation of my post to TooMany who compares everyday falls to those where someone is killed

derxa · 05/01/2018 08:11

A riding stables put 2 kids who had never ever ridden before on horses in a group without lead reins?

Hard to believe.

Slartybartfast · 05/01/2018 08:17

what an unsympathetic, uneducated eejit

Slartybartfast · 05/01/2018 08:18

surely the riding school could have caught the horse?

what a load of twaddle

pollythedolly · 05/01/2018 08:58

*A riding stables put 2 kids who had never ever ridden before on horses in a group without lead reins?

Hard to believe.*

No it's not. Beginners can be put on known bomb proof ponies without a lead rein. I was many moons ago. This obviously wasn't one.

UrsulaPandress · 05/01/2018 09:30

Bollocks. No horse is bombproof.

MammaAgata · 05/01/2018 09:39

Exactly Ursula.. I do think a lot of people riding expect horses to be like vehicles with stop/start buttons and completely dead to the outside world.. of course, if any of those do exist no one wants to ride them after lesson 1 as they’re deemed “boring”. Riding schools can’t win and that’s probably why they are in such dramatic decline.

constantchange · 05/01/2018 09:48

Just to add a different perspective to this, I have horses. And for some reason, when something goes wrong (like what happened with his DD), my instinct is to laugh. I have NO idea why as usually I don't find the situation funny. It's like my body doesn't know what to do so it just laughs hysterically.

My ex's little sister wanted to ride my horse once and he ended up doing the same thing as the riding school pony and I could NOT stop laughing even though she was visibly scared. Seriously I was creased over and I couldn't control it. It must be my body's way of dealing with bad situations it doesn't know how to handle. So it's very possible he didn't ACTUALLY want to be laughing OP.

Also please don't use that riding school again. All beginners should be on the lead rein.

dailydance · 05/01/2018 10:43

My first time riding when I was 8, the pony got spooked and galloped up someone's (v long posh) driveway. These things happen and horses will speed up, sometimes for no obvious reason. A horse I used to ride regularly was petrified of magpies...that was fun. I wouldn't be reporting the school or suing them like others have suggested. Everyone knows horses are unpredictable and those that don't should never be near one.

I would be fuming with your OH however. She could have been injured and was obviously scared (as any non experienced rider would be regardless of age). I wouldn't allow him anywhere near any future riding lessons if possible. I can't stand that sort of bully behaviour.

Willow2017 · 05/01/2018 15:12

constant
Laughing as a reaction is one thing. You said ou didnt want to laugh and you didnt find it funny.

Op has said her dp has form for laughing at kids who actually hurt themselves and goes even further by mimicking them and does think he is being hilarious. I dont think a gut reaction applies to him.

Lizzie48 · 05/01/2018 16:19

I agree, Willow2017, I think it's missing the point to focus on the horse riding as such. The point is that the OP's DP's treatment of his DD was horrible.

Ellisandra · 05/01/2018 16:39

What an arsehole.

Even if you leave aside all debate about the rising school, and even if you generously ignore his previous behaviour and decide his laughter was a stress reaction...

When his daughter displayed her stress reaction, shouting that she was terrified, he told her off for being cheeky.

I wouldn't date anyone who didn't pull their child close for a cuddle and say "I know baby, are you OK?"

I have no idea why you're still with this cunt.

ConciseandNice · 05/01/2018 16:46

I think laughing at your ex’s sister and your own child is very different. You don’t laugh when your child is in discomfort or worse danger. You just don’t. The man is a total tossed and it would be a serious red flag for me. It would definitely spell the end.

Bekabeech · 05/01/2018 16:57

He is an unfeeling bully.

The riding school was rubbish. Sorry but first timers should be on a lead rein. How many were in the lesson?

Does the children's mother know?