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To say bras are not for boys

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AssignedPuuurfectAtBirth · 01/01/2018 13:50

Another trans bully nightmare. Targetting the yellowberry bra brand now

lilymaynard.wordpress.com/2017/12/31/bra-gate-yellowberry-products-now-for-everyone/

When will this BS end?

OP posts:
Terrylene · 01/01/2018 15:37

It is perfectly valid that a small company should target a particular market. They do it all the time. It is what commerce is all about, innit? Confused

Aeroflotgirl · 01/01/2018 15:38

Bloody he'll hope this company stands up to these bullies. I would not have entertained such nonesense.

PasstheStarmix · 01/01/2018 15:39

SilverySurfer It wouldn't surprise me; you literally can't say anything these days without it being termed as not pc, controversial or gender inappropriate. I don't even thing genders exist anymore they all blur into one meaning that even bra companies are getting complained at. Where does it end?

SomeOldFogey · 01/01/2018 15:40

They are making the world a more hostile place for female biology. By not being allowed to mention it, by treating it as something shameful. All to save the apparently hurt feelings of a few vastly over-privileged men who can't accept that something exists that does not belong to them.

PasstheStarmix · 01/01/2018 15:40

think

PurpleDaisies · 01/01/2018 15:41

I've seen men rocking dresses and looking infinitely more beautiful than a female would.

That’s such a strange statement. It’s impossible for a woman to look as good as a man in a dress? I’d look as if I had legs for days if I was wearing massive heels and a short dress.

PasstheStarmix · 01/01/2018 15:41

Exactly and what about the feeling of teenage girls? Aiming it at boys as well isn't going to make some of them feel very good is it. That would have put me off a bra when I was younger.

PasstheStarmix · 01/01/2018 15:41

feelings

CremeFresh · 01/01/2018 15:47

I wish people of whatever bloody gender would just get on with their lives , in whatever way they want, without making a fucking song and dance over everything .

Eltonjohnssyrup · 01/01/2018 15:48

I think people are misunderstanding. They're saying that some people who grow breasts and have periods are men/boys because they identify as men/boys with their feelz even though they have breasts/periods.

Anyway, it's all crock.

Lovesagin · 01/01/2018 15:48

Tbh it's already putting me off and I'm a grown woman. I was on one of these cheap overseas sites aimed at youngish girls looking for a bag and there was an obvious male modelling a dress that probably looked ok off or on a female body (it had a nipped in waist) but on him unfortunately it looked very wrong.

Lime19 · 01/01/2018 15:48

I wonder if this works the other way round too? So I knew a girl at school that has since been living as a man. Had her breasts removed and now is happily identifying as a man. as far as I know he's just happy living as a man and Using men's products (pants, razors, clothing etc). Absolutely no fuss has been made! It's refreshing! That's how it should be.

StrangeLookingParasite · 01/01/2018 15:49

It's an item of clothing, that's all. No group owns any item of clothing.

The illogicality of this makes me grind my teeth. Sure, boys and men can wear bras, but there's absolutely no point. They are a garment with a specific function.

Aeroflotgirl · 01/01/2018 15:49

Bloody he'll just saw they caved in an apologised to the transbullies, and the transbullies are demanding that the woman how face the reply is sacked👿👿👿👿👿 just piss off and choose bras from the many other retailers in offer and stop bullying a little start up.

Leatherbatwings · 01/01/2018 15:51

Hang on a moment! Arent mtt always bleating about how they really really are women, girls, female? They make a big fuss about not being male, called by female names, MISGENDERED.

Surely then the trans community would not mind being included under the term 'girls'! It's what they say they are when they want to come into our changing rooms, shelters, toilets etc.

So where is the problem! What on earth are they complaining about!

Boys dont wear bras. Girls ( to the trans community including mtt) do.

Problem solved.

Unless they actually realize themselves that really they are boys...

Aeroflotgirl · 01/01/2018 15:52

Funny how it is the transwomen doing this and not transmen. They are doing this, to muscle and bully women and women's rights and spaces.

grannytomine · 01/01/2018 15:53

I've seen a few men who could with a bra. Come to that I've seen a few girls wearing bras with nothing to put in them. Can't think why anyone who didn't need a bra would want one. I think I was late 30s before I bothered, proper Twiggy I was with no boobs to speak of.

grannytomine · 01/01/2018 15:55

Funny how it is the transwomen doing this and not transmen Men probably aren't bothered about people wearing boxers, in fact I know a few young women who prefer men's underwear as they say they are more comfortable.

gillybeanz · 01/01/2018 15:55

I'm so glad that my dc are pretty much grown up now and don't have all this gender stuff to cope with.
my lads wouldn't have been seen dead in a bra or knickers.

UpABitLate · 01/01/2018 15:57

"Well, to be fair, he is beautiful and is wearing that dress infinitely better than a short, dumpy female."

Basic misogyny.

Women tend to be shorter than men, due to our biology we also tend to be curvier, sorry, dumpy.

The constant assertion that men make better women than women do is depressing. But not at all new.

With this item, no-one is saying that boys cannot wear bras, nor that they cannot buy bras from this brand. Why are so many people reacting as if that is what they had said? Is it easier to react to a perceived stance than read and understand what has actually happened? No-one wants to ban men or boys from wearing women's underwear if they choose and men and boys have been wearing women's underwear forever.

What they want to do is remove all reference to girls from a company that was set up specifically to help girls.

There have been calls to take the F out of FGM, a charity helping with menstruation issues around the world (stopping school, not having anything to help, being banished etc) has been lambasted for saying they help girls, and we have had an "educational" piece about sex in a magazine aimed primarily at teenage girls, calling them "non prostate havers", omitting any mention of the clitoris and exhorting them to try anal sex.

I have not seen ANY similar attacks on things specific to men or boys apart from one TM upset that gay men wouldn't consider them as a sexual partner, and would be very interested to see if anyone else has.

This all points to misogyny - it's absolutely basically obvious.

Wineasaurous · 01/01/2018 15:58

😃😂😂

This is a joke isn't it?

Bras are aimed at people with breasts. Since women have breasts, bras are designed with the audience in mind.

Shall I start kicking off that there isn't any willy warmers suited for me, a woman?

Aeroflotgirl · 01/01/2018 15:59

So granny they should buy a bra from the many retailers and stop whining.

Aeroflotgirl · 01/01/2018 16:01

I am not bothered about men buying womans stuff, but I can't stand the transwomen bloody whining when something's not to their liking.

steff13 · 01/01/2018 16:01

If it bothers you that a brand has changed their marketing, then don't buy from them.

This is generally my feeling in these sorts of matters. With the exception that I would have said it to the person who complained that bras are being marketed to women.

UpABitLate · 01/01/2018 16:01

"Men probably aren't bothered about people wearing boxers"

The equivalent would be getting onto jockstrap companies and insisting that they market to women as some women need these too.

And for the last time no-one cares about men and boys wearing women's underwear. Well apart from the women in the family who keep getting their underwear ruined (see katlyn jenner).

Do you have the same views around getting the F out of FGM and insisting that charities working for things that specifically affect girls stop referring to girls in all their literature?