To write on my neighbours car with lipstick?

[ALunerExplorer]

I'm a wheelchair user - manual atm, because I can't afford an electric one. I live in a cul-de-sac, and several doors up there is a guy who parks his car on the pavement in front of the lamppost - which forces me to use the road, (pedestrians/parents with buggies have to walk round it too).

There are 2 off road parking spaces down our road, each providing parking for up to 10 cars. One of them is used by just one car. Given that this means trying to get up and down a raised kerb, which is impossible in a manual chair, what it usually means is having to call my ds out of the house so that he can do that for me.

A few days ago (after months of this) I had my notebook and pen in my bag, so wrote a note to leave on his windscreen. (I really hate being forced on to the road, it gives me awful anxiety):

Hi. I am your neighbour and a wheelchair user and parking on the pavements like this forces me onto the road. Please park more considerately in future. Thank you, and Happy Christmas

I got my son to stick in on his windscreen under the wiper. The following morning he was parked on the pavement right in front of my path so I couldn't even leave the house. He's now done this 3 times.

A friend of mine has suggested I write another note, on his windscreen using lipstick. (She is also a wheelchair user).

AIBU or is this (minor) vandalism justified do you think?

Glad this worked out OP. Now lets see if the Councillor changes her plumber on discovering that this one actively engages in disablist behaviour......

Because he’s a dodgy Parker doesn’t mean he’s a dodgy plumber
Good plumber hard to find,so not necessarily marching orders on basis of inconsiderate parking

The behaviour now of deliberately parking on the pavement is anti social behaviour. You must photograph and diary the following - each time they do it take a photo and make a note of the time that you noticed it being there. You can also take a photo of the distance left for you to try and get out of your driveway or the options available for you to get past. You could contact 101 for advice (the Police could visit the home of the offending vehicle and speak to him); you could contact the Anti Social Team at Leeds City Council to seek their advice; you could ask the Council (Disabilities Team) if they are able to paint on the pathway that the space outside your home is reserved for disabled parking only and then nobody can park there. Just some ideas. The idiot is a pure bully and I hope that their ignorant, childish and cruel behaviour is recipricated back to them one day ... I can not tolerate people parking in disabled bays when they have no right to! I truly hope that this matter gets resolved for you and quickly. Don't delay get on with speaking to the Police and Council. Good luck. xx

Hi Sorry forgot to also say in my reply, that writing on your neighbours car, even with lipstick, could be argued by them that you have damaged their vehicle and/or vandalised it. Best stay clear of that option, despite how tempting it could be. I know what I would like to write!!!! Let the professionals deal with it and then it is all logged on the relevant systems and any further incidents can then be promptly dealt with by the relevant authorities. Please let us know how you get on. xx

Vile behaviour from the neighbour! You shouldn't have to put up with this. Hoping something gets sorted soon.

I would call your council and speak to them about it, parking like that is illegal and they should sort it. Also, I have an electric mobility scooter (about 6 months old) that we no longer need, if you can get it picked up from Manchester you're welcome to have it :) I could possibly drop it off depending on where you are.

EllenMP it's been resolved, but you're seriously blaming the OP for someone bullying her?

And she explained in her note that she's in a wheelchair, his actions were purely spiteful, no way should she apologise, it would be giving him carte blanche to carry on bullying.

Your not allowed to park on the pavement it’s a public highway and the police would get involved - they are actually enforcing this round our way and it’s been on the news and in papers

Nice one OP.
Glad it's sorted.
It's not what you know, it's who you know!

I wouldn't do the lipstick thing as it may well escalate and make your problem even worse. He clearly won't listen to reason.

The disabled parking space is a much better idea. Good luck.

As I recall, it was "Cock piss BABTRIDGE"

I would take pictures of the car when offending, get camera's so he thinks your watching him. (fake ones of ebay only a fiver). And contact the please when blocked in, this happens in our area and the police today towed away 4 cars.

Haven’t read all the replies but it is illegal to park like that so you just need to take photos and report him ever time it happens. If you go online you should find the non emergency police email address to send the information to. However, he obviously knows who you are (with him seemingly purposely parking in your direct path) so I’d be careful not to break the law or antagonise him in any way, this way the police have nothing to get at you for. Good luck, some people love to make others’ life more difficult, usually due to their own issues and attitude problems.

Don't shit on your own doorstep op. Go through legitimate channels. I'm sorry you have to put up with this cuntish behaviour.

No. I wouldn't advise you to write anything on his car in lipstick or anything else. For one thing this is likely to inflame the situation and you may find yourself in a position of being accused of damaging his car with possible financial implications. I agree with other posters in that you would be advised to contact your council first to discuss the problem and to give photo evidence of what this arsewipe gets up to, and finally, if you have a disabled badge, to get a disabled parking bay placed outside your property.

Glad it got sorted OP - hope he was made to understand he was being a cunt.

Writing anything on his car with anything is only going to inflame what already seems like unreasonable behaviour. There must be a more constructive solution. If you are in a housing association or council property, then going through the HA or council is a start. If you're in a private house, then get advice from Citizen's Advice. I'm sure you can probably get a solicitor's letter.Sounds like you have a very inconsiderate neighbour

Why are people still writing advice when OP has been back to say it has been resolved.

Oh is it because they don’t RTFT

I have a neighbour who regularly blocks my drive. I tried leaving friendly notes on her car and then when I found out who she was I tried to talk politely to her and she became very offensive and shoved the notes down my back and just kept raising her voice and saying "It's not illegal! You can't do anything about it!!" (because my car was never in the drive when she did it)
I asked some traffic wardens who gave me their card and said "Call us when she's there, we'll come, and if we can give her a ticket, we will". And I nearly kissed them. I did buy some prank parking tickets and some "Liquid Ass fart spray" which I was going to spray in her radiator, but she hasn't done it again since I last saw her, so maybe she's stopped. Good luck, but try traffic wardens, they actually need to leave tickets, so make use of them