@ThePinkLady77
I rarely comment on these threads but I feel the need to as it touches on something close to my heart! Our bodies are designed to have babies in our twenties ( actually from late teens). The later she leaves it the more her fertility will drop. I was not in the position to have a baby in my twenties as I had not met anyone.
My DH and I are now in our forties and are parents through the joy of fostering and adoption because by my thirties my fertility dropped fast. Your daughter is in a long term stable relationship, they have had plenty of time to enjoy life together as a couple, they are financially stable.
WHY not try for their family straight away! The sooner they try, the sooner they will know if there will be fertility issues and gives them more time to explore them. If they are blessed with children quickly, they can enjoy life with their children but also have plenty of time in their later life when the children have grown up to explore and enjoy life as a couple again!
All of this ^ If I had a choice between my daughter having a baby at 24, or 34, or 44, I would rather she had one at 24. I mean, 34 is OK-ish, but it's really pushing it, and you are cutting down any opportunity of having more children after. And 44? No. WAY.
I know when people say something like this, a bunch of people ALWAYS come along and regale us with their tales of how they had their first at 38, their second at 41, and their third at 44, but seriously, who wants to do that? You will be at retirement age and still have 2 teenagers, and probably all 3 still at home when you're a pensioner! Hell to the no.
In addition, it's not fair to put your children through the burden of having to nurse ailing and elderly parents when they should be enjoying their own young, carefree lives. Either this, or they will lose their parents in their teens or 20's.
It's devastating to lose your parents when you are young, (like under 30,) as they are very much needed for support for many things, including when you have children. So having kids when you're middle aged, will more than likely rob them of the vital parental support they will need when they're young. Because the chances are high that you will either be gone, or too frail and infirm to give them any decent support.
Again, I expect a bunch of people to come along saying 'My aunt/cousin/friend/neighbour had kids in their 40's, and they are now a very healthy and active 90 year old with 3 children in their 40's, and 6 grandchildren who they run marathons with.' OR 'my mother had me at just 25, and then died when I was 15 anyway...' to try and disprove my point. The fact is though, that these 2 scenarios are uncommon.
Having them younger is way better (not like 16, but I mean by your mid 20s') There is a myriad of women who struggle to conceive because they left it too late, because they put their career first - or didn't find the right partner. I do feel a bit for these women, but if you actively choose to leave it and leave it til you are on the cusp of middle age, then you should not be surprised if you struggle to conceive.
I, like a number of women I know, had children at a younger age (the first at 25 and the second at 28.) Now I am in my mid 40's, they are both at uni, me and DH have the world at our feet (and can do what we want when we want,) and we still have our wonderful son and daughter, and our careers.
People come out with stuff like 'if you have a baby at 25-26, you can't swan off out on the lash and stay out til 3am, and swan off for the weekend for a trip to Paris at the drop of a hat, or go backpacking around Chile for a fortnight.' But the fact is that most people in their mid 20's don't do this anyway - many of them have full time jobs, and often a house or flat to run, and don't have the time OR the money to do this stuff.
What's more, most people will have done this between the age of 16 and 23/24 at college and uni etc. There is something a little sad about a 26 year old going out getting wrecked and partying til 3am 2 or 3 times a week. So why would you be wanting to that in your mid 20's anyway?