To call out my vegan friend?

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I haven't known her very long, a few years. She is a work colleague. She is 'vegan' on social media, lots of photos and hash tagging and "cruelty free" style comments.

But a few months ago when we went out for a team lunch she ate pork. I've seen her eat cheese, chocolate etc before.

AIBU to comment something along the lines of ' I love how you see vegan meals as a healthy aspect to your current diet'?? I am starting to find it irritating.

Oh I wouldn't bother. Its irritating and fake but that's how people like to portray themselves on social media.

Its all bollocks.

I get your irritation though.

I wouldn't publically call her out, no.

she clearly admires vegan principles and aspires to be vegan. Like all of us, struggles a bit with the will power. Are you any better with will power? Why is it irritating you? Its between her and her conscience

I know two equally annoying people. Sad they stunt on social media

That said, I recently deleted someone on Facebook who kept banging on that dairy farming was rape.

It's the "cruelty free" thing that bugs me really tbf, as if we are all barbarians and she is the only person who cares about the animals

Give her enough rope..next time she decides to tuck into pork/chocolate etc, just ask her if she's given up the vegan diet, see what she says.

Not publicly

But obviously I'd ask her what the FB posts were all about.

In the greater scheme of things is it that important that she says one thing and does another?

That said, I recently deleted someone on Facebook who kept banging on that dairy farming was rape.

In what way did she mean? That the cows are kept pregnant to produce milk?

Maybe she's one who, if she wasn't banging her drum about this particular cause, it would be another.

Don't be a bitch, especially not on social media. If you don't like her, just step away (and hide her posts to save your irritation). If you do like her, talk to her. But calling her out publicly is just nasty and unnecessary and borderline bullying.

Yes @faking exactly that. She kept posting ridiculous videos about how cows are 'raped' in order to support the milk industry.

It was all bollocks, she became like this overnight, I used to go to Maccies with her all the time.

She actually got very angry when I quizzed her on it.

Why does the cruelty free thing bug you? If you feel that you care about animals just as much, there's nothing to stop you sticking to cruelty free stuff as well. I'm sure your friend would agree, the more the merrier on that one!

Tbh I relate to this a colleague of mine dictates where we can and cannot eat on team events as she's vegan gluten free and everything else free yet eats choclate & the cakes when she feels like it 🌚

I wouldn't publically call her out on it but id mention something if she ate non vegan food in front of me. I just think it could end up making you come across as the bad person if you did it so publically.

Plenty of people try and cut down on meat and animal products without going completely vegan, I don't see the issue.

Ugh. This is annoying, but I don't see what would be achieved by publicly calling her out. I have a friend who asked me for advice on going vegan and I recommended a FB group to her, she posts in this group regularly but still posts pics of bacon sandwiches on her own profile. I also hate the 'meat is murder' 'dairy is rape' brigade. It won't make people go vegan, it makes them think you're a loon. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar (not actual honey though, that's not vegan).

Being vegan isn’t very easy, especially when you’re trying to do it for ethical / moral beliefs rather than a medical issue, so maybe she falls off the wagon sometimes like everyone else to tries to follow a certain diet?

Yes @faking exactly that. She kept posting ridiculous videos about how cows are 'raped' in order to support the milk industry

Well it is rape in a form. How would you like it if someone shoved a metal tube into your vagina containing semen then pushed their arm into your vagina elbow deep to “massage it around” without your consent so they could impregnate you and make a profit from you? Im not a vegan btw, but I feel it’s important everyone knows how dairy is produced!

Do what you see fit OP.. your Fake Friend does....

Oh, vegans are nearly all attention seekers who sneak a bacon butty whenever other people aren't looking. I'd just ignore it.

No, I wouldn’t call her out on Facebook. I’d unfollow her if she annoyed me, and probably ask about it next time I saw her consuming an animal product.

But there's BEING vegan, and there's PREACHING vegan....(then not following your own word).

No one has a problem with anyone BEING vegan.

Well, if cows were human? The dairy industry would be considered mass murderers and rapists.

I’m not vegan btw but this seems rather obvious to me personally.

As for your colleague... yes, it’s annoying. But you wouldn’t gain anything from calling her out.
Let her do her thing.