To think I'm an auntie?

[Meowstro]

If I'm married to your DB, surely I'm your DC's auntie? I find it rude that I'm referred to by my first name, for example, "Meowstro'sDN, pass that to Meowstro please." My DC is an infant and as a sign of respect, I even refer to close friends as auntie so surely if I'm married into a family that makes me worthy of an auntie status? I'm a good one too, I'm always asking about their DC, buying thoughtful gifts but always offer to look after them although unfortunately haven't had the opportunity to.

AIBU?

Yes of course you are. Your DHs sister is being weird! Get him to talk to her about it!

Of course you are their aunt, you are not being unreasonable!!!

Nope
My bros children will call my husband uncle.
My children call his wife auntie.

Although growing up we didn't call any of my dad's siblings or partners uncle or auntie. All or nothing though

My dd’s only real aunt is by marriage and is referred to as such, she’s a dick and I really don’t like her but she is my dd’s aunt.

Well yes, but not all families call aunts "Auntie X".

I think it’s quite rude and distancing.

Mind you, I can hardly talk because I used to differentiate between my aunt/uncles and aunt/uncles-by-marriage as a child.

Yes. But do they use aunt/ uncle usually. Noone in my family does except when intoducing someone to us all.

It would be manners to give you the courtesy title of aunt, by legally you are not.

Of course you are. My dn, through marriage, has referred to me as Auntie Bernards since dh first introduced us (8.5 years ago). I asked her about it a while back & she said she just knew we'd always be together. She's my favourite only dn for a reason

My nieces and nephews on my dh's side all call my dh and I by our first names (no auntie/uncle) - maybe they don't feel the need to use a title? You are still their auntie. I find it a bit formal these days anyway.

I don't think of myself as an 'aunt' to my DH's siblings' children. They were around before I was. My children call their aunts/uncles by their first names only. Why is it a sign of respect to add aunt/uncle anyway? Especially to people who are not actually related?

My kids don’t call people auntie/uncle, apart from one uncle for some reason.

I even refer to close friends as auntie

Personally I don't like it and I correct my friends when they do this. I am not their childrens auntie, neither do I wish to be.

If you're married, then of course you're the Aunty!

I'm confused. Why did Supermagicsmile assume this involves the OP's husband's sister? Why not his brother?

I'm not even married to DP but I'm very much his (5) nieces' auntie, and a very valued one at that!

Is it rude? It’s just preference, surely. I can’t imagine getting offended by it.

Yes you are definitely an Auntie and you should be referred to as Auntie

My niece, aged 7 has only known my DP for 3 1/2 years. She recently asked him if she could call him Uncle. He was delighted and nearly cried. Our niece flits between calling him Uncle and his name. I'm always called Auntie. She never calls me Auntie Troys. I sometimes wonder if she knows my name .

It makes me wince a little when children call adults by their first names without prefixing with Auntie/Uncle/Mr/Miss/Mrs etc but that's just how I was raised.

Of course you're their aunt. I did have one uncle who we referred to by his first name only but that was because he was much younger than the other aunts and uncles, only a few years older than us.

Stbxh nieces and nephews were nearly adults when we met so always called me by my first name. They would, however, refer to me as being their auntie if introducing me or talking about me so YANBU

you should be referred to as Auntie

Says who? Is this some rule of etiquette I don’t know about?
I call my aunties and uncles by their first names, always have.

I was raised to call my aunties and uncles "Auntie /Uncle FirstName".

I'm not sure I'll be enforcing that with my own. First names for aunties and uncles is fine imo.

I have never called my aunts and uncles anything other than their first name unless I was talking about them to someone else. I wouldn’t get upset if any nieces and nephews didn’t call me aunty.

I hate the Auntie / Uncle thing for family friends but you actually are an Auntie.
I don't differentiate between blood relatives and married into the family relatives

I’m definitely Auntie to my DH’s Nieces/Nephew. In fact I’d say I’m closer to them than he is!