DP masturbating in my bed...aibu

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I had family over for Xmas at mine this year and stay over . Dp of 1 year joined us as he has had a difficult time recently with parents separating under very complicated circumstances. We woke up together about 8.30 and he said he hadn't slept well due to his family circumstances being on his mind. While I was comforting him, he got turned on. He was embarrassed and said to just ignore it as it was a body reaction.

I heard my family downstairs so said I was going to get u and play host and if he wanted a few minutes to rest or have to himself due to the rough night that was fine.

I went down and saw to my family, made coffee and decided to take DP a tea up to bed. When I went up to my room he was acting shifty and refused when I tried to pull back the covers for a hug. Turns out he was mastubating and watching a Pornographic video on his phone in my bed. We argued and I said he was being disrespectful lying there doing that in my bed while I'm running about after family. He was mortified and so sorry and said he was hoping it would make him feel better.

Was I being unreasonable to feel annoyed. Please note I don't have a problem with it at all, it's perfectly normal to master bate but there's times and places surely

Ibazs DP means darling partner
Aibu is am I being unreasonable and ynabu is you are not being unreasonable

Sounds like you're wank-shaming!

I can't believe the number of women who think someone else's walking habits are any of their business!! My husband would get pretty short shrift if he started trying to dictate when I could or couldn't have a quick private fiddle and what erotic material I was allowed to use to get myself off. It's a completely private activity and you need not concern yourself!

Wanking not walking obvs!

Eh?? Why was he so apologetic that he got turned on with his gf in bed?! I'm lost.

What if the porn was just nude pictures of women?
Would that not do because men really want to see the penises?

I would be slightly irked but how did he get caught out? Didn’t he shut his phone and pretend he was just hard still?

Maybe it's not a problem in your eyes cakey but that doesn't discount other people's opinion on the situation....

Doris what a load of crap 😂🤦‍♀️

Oneblue perhaps next time you could pleasure your woman in the morning instead of jacking off to another woman? Or equally you could put the kettle on instead and make her a cup of tea.... Just a thought

Here's a list of all the MN (Mumsnet) acronyms labazs

thank you

*You get lots of dicks in gay porn.

Just thought I'd toss that into the mix*

I think it's quite clear that we don't need any more tossing here. There's quite enough semen in this thread already 😆

Erections

The OP is not being unreasonable.

Care to elaborate forallthesaints?

I'm also confused -why would he be embarrassed he'd got an erection, tbh I'd be more concerned if he hadn't.

Have you and your partner had sex ?

I'm also confused as to why he'd be embarrassed at getting turned on by his girlfriend giving him presumably a kiss and a cuddle. Why would he feel the need to apologise?

What if the porn was just nude pictures of women?

This isn't the late 18th century.

Next. Perhaps he was looking at saucy seaside postcards?

Exactly LemonShark

Looking at porn for a man means looking at an erect penis or several, whether gay, bi or straight. There is no getting away from it. All of them will go up the anus as well.

"There's quite enough semen in this thread already"

Gunny they were on a boat.??

Moose that would be seamen.

All of them will go up the anus as well.

Not in the porn that me and my wife watch...

You're talking bollocks.

It’s fine ! Men wank / it’s normal

No idea why this is a problem. Find it confusing tbh.

That's not true now is it elendon?

You've already commented on how much men love lesbian porn with no penises

Yanbu I think, for me its all a bit "poor man has a hard on and must wank otherwise he'll get blue balls"