Did turning 40 make you want to get pregnant?

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I'm turning 40 on July. I don't have a child. Never wanted one until, well, today.

I was alone, just washing dishes, and suddenly thought I want to get pregnant next year.

I'm married. We have a good marriage. But we just didn't really have the urge to have kids. Always thought I didn't want to have children.

I was worked up two years ago, and everything was good. The GP wanted the work up, not me.

Should I trust this feeling?

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Yes! It made me really Think about the fact that I had suppressed my desire to have a child. I had dd at 43 and 3/4.

I was worked up two years ago, and everything was good. The GP wanted the work up, not me

I don't understand this

I was about 8 months pregnant at 40!

Yup! Was exactly the same as you. Two months before I hit 40 I suddenly started panicking about whether I would regret never having a child. I went on to have my first DD at 42 and another DD at 43 :) I really do think it's biology at work, giving you a push before time runs out.

What do you mean by "worked up" insancerre?

I wasn't bothered about having children and unexpectedly became pregnant at 41. I was nearly 42 when DD was born.

No
40 is a bit of a media invention I think
Do you want a baby or have you absorbed a lot of stuff about biological clocks?i mean, obvs if you do, go ahead and good luck

Did the work up involve fertility checks? I'd be stunned if a doc asked me to do that.

Japonica
In quoted it from the op
I was asking what she meant

No, not at all

Go for it! First time baby on the way here at 40. I had miscarriages in my 30s because of a uterine septum, now removed after two operations.
You only live once!

Work up is having your bloodwork tested to check hormone levels.

A fertility work up? Are you in the States?

It seems to be common. Probably an evolutionary mechanism. How do you feel about the idea now it's grabbed you?

Turning 40 made me want to shed the six stones of excess weight before I got to 50

Yup, Kitsharrington is correct. Hormone levels were checked, etc. Basically everything was fine.

It was the age I realised it wasn’t going to happen. Had already been trying for 11 years, and finally told there was no point having any more treatment.

I have never come across the expression "work up" in those terms before.

Apologies insancerre.

Yes, I spent a lot of time thinking about it between 40 and 42. Took a few risks too.

My dcs are 11 and 9 and more independent. A baby would be lovely but really I know that I wouldn't cope with adding a third to the mix. I am now 42 and the urge has passed.

I have never come across the expression "work up" in those terms before.

It's a common term - www.google.com.au/search?q=fertility+work+up&oq=fertility+work+up&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.5093j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Yep! That happened to me, turned forty and suddenly decided that I wanted a child. Had DD two months before turning 41, I called her my "better late than never baby"

Best decision I ever made! She's 17 now, only wished I'd started earlier because it was exhausting at the time & she missed out on me doing some things with her than younger mums would have been able to.

Nope, it made me want to travel.
To see all the things I had wanted to see.

I think I would be the same, if I had no children by the age of 40. It most probably is your last chance. What does your husband think?

People saying no- do you already have children?

What does your husband think?

I don't know yet. I haven't discussed this with him because I want to be sure. It's weird, it's like I woke up this morning and realized I want to have a kid.

What were the reasons you didn’t want children before, and why are they no longer valid?

I had the same feeling at 30.

I didn't get pregnant until I was 36 and then had 3 pregnancies in 3 years.

Before I got pregnant l was hesitant about it because it was such a U turn for me and the first thing I wanted to do was to make sure I could from a medical point of view. I have no idea why it took so long.

I never really had a successful career. I never put my education to good use. I just felt that no matter what job I had it would involve running around after people so they may as well be ones I've created I don't mind being a sahm.

Friends in the same boat as op always say children would stop them travelling and having a social life but I felt I had done enough of that and I really felt that I might regret in years to come not having a family of my own. My DH and I really try to still have a life but the long haul holidays stopped!

But I've just turned 40. I have a 3 year old dd and my ds is nearly 2 and I'm knackered.

What were the reasons you didn’t want children before, and why are they no longer valid?

Actually, nothing monumental really. I just never had the feeling that I wanted kids - until today.