I personally do not agree with abortion as a form of contraception. I respect that there are situations where it is necessary and I don't think abortion should be banned, but I do think it should be something that happens as a last resort. Pregnancy is avoidable, there are numerous birth control options, which the op's friend could have used. Several of which her partner would not have needed to use condoms for. I understand accidents happen but I do think abortion should be seen as an absolute last resort that was regretfully needed.
I could not physically abort my own child. And I consider myself carrying a baby as soon as I know I am pregnant. When I was bleeding at five weeks, I went to pieces, because I desperately wanted the little one inside me, thankfully she wasn't lost, she had a wonderful time yesterday opening her Christmas presents.
Whether people like it or not, from 5- 6 weeks you can see a foetal heartbeat, a little life has been created. The little lives mean something to those Mothers who have lost their babies to miscarriage. They lived for a short while and then they died. With them died all of the dreams that their Mother or Father had for them.
I feel it is important to respect life, to recognise that an abortion is ending a life. The fact remains that if the abortion didn't take place, then there would be another human being born on this earth. I think it is dangerous to dehumanise the little life that is growing inside a woman during pregnancy. It results in completely selfish behaviour like that of the op's friend! Who is absurdly careless and expects the nhs to pay repeatedly because she couldn't be bothered using contraception!
(She is unfortunately not alone, I knew a woman of 19 who at that point had had four abortions and continued to have unprotected sex because she 'hated' condoms and didn't like swallowing tablets. She told me that the hospital had told her after her fourth abortion she would have to pay for another abortion herself. I believe they actually did try to charge her, as she kept her next pregnancy. This was seventeen years ago however and in a Scottish trust area, so perhaps the rules on such things have changed)
The op's friend is treating living beings like a piece of rubbish you can just discard eight times!! The op has not mentioned any sign of abuse, in fact, she herself sounds annoyed at her friend's selfish behaviour! I may be reading into things wrong here, but it reads to me that the op's friend has dehumanised the lives she created. Abortion to her is just a form of contraception. I am not saying that everyone who goes through abortion is doing that, many women go through absolute turmoil, before coming to the decision to abort! They realise the enormity of their decision, many of them will think about that decision for the rest of their lives! To me that is important! Yes, there was a necessity to end that little life, but he/she did exist and it is right that they are thought of now and then!