To not go? Just discovered I am an unwelcome guest :(

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My parents died when I was quite young and so I have been used to spending Christmas alone over the years. I am now married and pregnant but my husband works Christmas Day.

So someone at work made a massive fuss about this and I thought she was being nice. I don’t really like going to other people’s homes anyway on Christmas Day as you get in the way a bit and plus I have been very sick in this pregnancy but she was so insistent it would have been rude to say no, and she lives locally and I thought i could do with expanding my support network with being due a baby. So I said thank you and accepted.

So I text before to confirm arrangements and I got a text back not meant for me saying how she (the host) is so stressed at arranging Christmas dinner and then goes on to say something like ‘on top of that some woman I work with is insisting I feed her too.’

I just replied saying don’t think you meant that for me. She’s tried to ring me twice but I don’t want to talk to her.

Just be ready for how she will spin this to make you look like the evil one.

Only read the 4 pages, but had to post as I can not believe the amount of people say similar this

agree that she’s probably playing up the “poor me” element to the person that the text was intended for, so I wouldn’t take it personally

This is not ok, and who the fuck makes someone else out to be a grabby shit?

It's nasty, and if you are the sort of person who Slags off and lies about people to others, then fucking shame on you.

There is no not taking it personally. It is very personal to the person you are talking about whether you meant it or not. It shows how very little you think of a person, if you think it's ok to make them a stooge and bad person in your little jackonory.
Twats

So sorry for you OP, but at least you got to see her true colours, rather then going, and her making more shit up about what you got up to on Christmas day, just to keep your work colleges entertained.

OP
That is awful,please don't take it to heart.she was probably laying it on thick to someone about how hard she's working and being put upon.
She is the one who should be feeling (very)bad,not you.
I wouldn't go personally.
When you go back to work just be calm and coolly polite towards her.
I really feel for you.
Have a great stress free day on your own with nobody else to please.
Next year with a new baby you will be a busy New mum.
Put her hateful comments behind you and block her number.
Merry Christmas x

I kind of feel a little bit sorry for her. If she has a shred of decency (and the repeated phone calls suggest she has) then this will make her cringe every time she thinks about it between now and the end of time.

If she has a shred of decency (and the repeated phone calls suggest she has) then this will make her cringe every time she thinks about it between now and the end of time

And so she fucking should. With a bit of luck it might make her think what a nasty person she is, and start to mend her ways.

Ignore the rude mare.

Look on bookbub(can't remember if it is .com or .co.uk) they do loads of free books.

Enjoy your Christmas day!

Loads of take away open on Christmas Day OP. Snuggle up with your book and order something in :)

Merry Christmas, grey.

Oh I dont think that inward cringe is undeserved. The OP has done absolutely nothing wrong and has behaved with dignity.

I was just musing on this.

What a witch! OP if you're anywhere near me I'd be happy to send round a food package. We'd already seriously over-catered when one of our guests had to cancel as they're ill.

Oh my days, what a vile person. Enjoy your day OP. 🌸

Well handled, OP.

No way I would even consider going now. I'd rather her shrivel in embarassment.

Very dignified response OP 👍🏼

I recommend "just one damn thing after another" by jodi taylor. Its the first in a series about a time travelling historian. Fast paced and easy to read and very entertaining.

Awww. Really shitty thing to happen. You've handled it really well.
I know you said that you don't mind being on your own, but Sarah Millican does a thing on twitter called #joinin.
It's for anyone who is alone to join in with chat, company, and support if you fancy it.
Enjoy your restful day. Merry Christmas.

Look OP ignore all other book suggestions and just read Outlander! Do it, trust me. ;)

Has your colleague even texted you at all, or just kept trying to call you? I wouldn't have even bothered responding after pointing out she'd sent that initial msg to you. Obviously no one would bother going knowing that's what the host had said. How incredibly rude and she should feel terrible. At least she could have msgd you an apology seeing as you clearly aren't answering her calls.

Have a lovely Xmas relaxing on your own!

Lucky escape- I bloody hate the whole martyr thing as well. Why insist on you coming?
More and more places are now open on Christmas Day and I would be surprised if you can't find a take away or restaurant that was open.
Maybe overly cautious but I'd screenshot the text in case she is weird at work.
Just enjoy the day without being obliged to speak to strangers etc.

Merry Christmas OP! I hope you’ve managed to sort some food or found a local takeaway and that have a nice relaxing day,
enjoy your new books on the Kindle.

The woman sounds awful, it’s great you won’t have to see her again for a while.

I hope you and your DP have a brilliant celebrations over New Year and good luck with baby

Happy Christmas Op! Hope you have a lovely peaceful day!

Happy Christmas, OP! (and bump )

Hope you've got some nice food sorted and a good read on your kindle. x

Happy Christmas OP. Hope you have a lovely day. And another vote for Outlander!! You won't be able to put it down.

Hello there OP
Looking in on you and hope that you have a peaceful Christmas.
Having a very quiet one myself !

Happy Christmas op :)

Merry Christmas everyone.