AIBU to ask partner to wash his hands before sex?

[Andrewsgirl]

Would your partner be offended if you asked them to wash their hands before having sex?

Ok...the mind boggles.

Do none of you ever have spontaneous sex? As in, you always go for a wash first?

And there was an actual campaign to get people to wash their hands every time they entered their house?

Stoic yes but not straight after my husband has shook hands with a stranger.

Or travelled on a train.

He doesn't come in, having shook hands with some random bloke, straight off the train and have sex with me.

He'd come in, wash his hands immediately and then we'd look at intimacy.

He'd come in, wash his hands immediately and then we'd look at intimacy.

Goodness. Be still, my beating heart.

I don’t require a full wash before sex, as I assume my husband’s cock hasn’t accrued any more than the normal level of dirtiness since his last (daily) shower. The same goes for me.

I would brush my teeth, so would he. We both wash our hands routinely, and certainly as part of general tooth brushing/freshening up.

I’m still utterly aghast at someone asking about handwashingg after taking out the bins.

This thread is making me want to wash my hands.

I've had my boyfriend wash his hands before sex.
Hands tend to be germ-ridden just by activities of daily living.

So I’ve just come into the house.

I have been:
Walking to the high street.
Browsing cosmetics and books.
Picked up some food.
Picked up a parcel.
Handled notes/cards.

I washed my hands as soon as I got in and took off my coat. There are people here who wouldn’t?

I left my first DH for this

This thread is eye opening! People handle animals, public transport, bins and the homeless without washing their hands?!?

And the woman who said she makes her husband wash his hands before he puts his hands Inside her . Im impressed!

To all the dirty non-washers before bed, do you not expect your partner to brush his teeth and have a wee before bed?

I'm more boggling at the seemingly lack of common sense of not washing hands when you come in the house. Money is crawling, cash points and pay points are crawling. Not to mention hand rails and the like.

There are some seriously minging people out there touching things and a soapy hand wash when you come in means it all buggers off down the plug hole. It's hardly a hardship.

Do you not wash hands before preparing food as well or are you one of the 'I had a shower this morning they're still clean camp'b

I've never washed my hands after taking out the bin it's never occured to me

I can't see why though - I'm only touching the clean exterior of the bin bag and the reasonably clean exterior of the Wheely bin?

I do wash my hands after public transport though!

Reasonably clean exterior of an outside bin?! Pull the other one! Would you go outside now and eat a sandwich off it?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine
I would bet my house that flies and even mice have been crawling over that wheelie bin

Maid don't you ever think "Just give my bottom a quick freshen?" before bed if you think you might have sex?

DH and I sometimes get frisky in the daytime if no DC about and he's working from home...then we stop what we're doing and go for a quick wee/handwash, tooth brush and then carry on!

It's not hard to go back to where you left off!

Stoic oh yes! Our organisation is mind blowingly sexy!

This thread demonstrates how we end up with swine flu and norovirus epidemics

Maid don't you ever think "Just give my bottom a quick freshen?" before bed if you think you might have sex?
Unless I feel particularly grim, in which case I’ll have had a shower anyway, then no.

I’m fairly, um, keen on natural smells though.

Our organisation is mind blowingly sexy!

"
This thread demonstrates how we end up with swine flu and norovirus epidemics "

No it doesn't because swine flu is spread via the airborne route.

Reminds me of the HV mentioning that I should wash my hands after changing DD’s nappy. I was because who doesn’t wash hands afterwards?? Gross.

"This thread demonstrates how we end up with swine flu and norovirus epidemics"

No it doesn't because swine flu is spread via the airborne route.

Still true for normal flu and norovirus.

www.cdc.gov/flu/about/disease/spread.htm

www.cdc.gov/norovirus/about/transmission.html

Reasonably clean exterior of an outside bin?! Pull the other one! Would you go outside now and eat a sandwich off it?

Probably yes. (Assuming exterior of sandwich dry). Bin gets washed by rain fairly regularly, water doesn't sit so mostly dry, and sunlight is a good disinfectant too. I'd bet its significantly cleaner than eg a train table...

Surely there are 2 different issues here;

• firstly general cleanliness. Yes of course people ought to be washing their hands regularly, after being out, having touched anything possibly dirty.
• secondly the issue of immediately before sex.

These 2 issues wouldn't normally be directly connected at the same time in my view. I would expect my DH to wash his hands generally through the day and then when it came to sex, wouldn't be expecting him to need to wash them immedediately before and certainly wouldn't be telling him to. If I at any point through the day thought his hands needed washing (can't remember when this last happened - he is an adult and I tend to leave his hand washing to himself) then I would say so then and there and not wait until sex.

I can see why OPs partner felt put out. It was patronising, infantilising and spoiled the moment to be told to wash his hands just before sex.

Fine, tell partners to wash if they need to....but do it at the moments they are dirty rather than precisely before sex and as if it's the kind of instruction you give a child before they are allowed to eat.

I can't believe that there are some who don't wash their hands when coming in from outside - revolting!
It's the first thing I do.