AIBU to ask partner to wash his hands before sex?

[Andrewsgirl]

Would your partner be offended if you asked them to wash their hands before having sex?

Would he not go to the loo/wash his hands and brush his teeth before going to bed?

He sounds a bit minging tbh if he doesn’t even perform basic night time ablutions, sex or not.

I wouldn’t want to have sex with him if he was pissed anyway but YANBU

I don't wash my hands when I come indoors unless I've done something mucky like gardening. Maybe I should but I'm middle aged and have never had a stomach bug.
Saying that I would expect a sexual partner to have a clean body. If I felt I had to ask I wouldn't be having sex with him.

Wash his hands? I'd expect him to have a shagging shower. My DH has gone to his BIL to deliver some presents. He is staying the night because it's a long drive. Now,.... the house is extremely dirty, they never clean up, they have to wash a cup if you want a drink. They have four dogs, who are let out in garden to have a shit and it's never cleaned up. Whenever he returns I always ask him to have a shower, before bed. FFS you'd think I'd asked him to strip off a layer of skin.

I'd jump in the shower with him and get him nice and clean all over

Another UTI sufferer here- I've been advised that DH and I both need to shower and wash our hands before sex to prevent infection.

Yanbu.
If he's drunk he's not thinking right so ignore his comments.

Do you think homeless people are unclean?

Of course they are. That's not a judgment, just a matter of reality. Most streets don't come with running water and hot showers, ergo...

OP - his reaction is vile. How do you have sex with him at all? Are you OK?

Basic hygiene. Wash your hands when you come home.

I had never heard of this before reading this thread and I was trained as a nurse!

Can’t say the handwashing would particulary bother me I don’t think. The drinking would and most definitely takes sex off the table.

See what you mean after shaking hands with the homeless guy etc , I thought you were being ocd at first ! But I'm the least ocd person and I think he should wash his hands xx

Basic hygiene. Wash your hands when you come home.

I had never heard of this before reading this thread and I was a trained as a nurse!

Iris.
Really? I’m a self trained clean person and I wash my hands when I come home. I would have thought nurses to be hand washing frequently.

I had never heard of this before reading this thread and I was trained as a nurse!

You're not aware of the hand washing campaign?
Not aware of the fecal bacteria detected in public transport?
How flu is transmitted as well as enteric viruses?
And you're a nurse?

I would have thought nurses to be hand washing frequently.

You would. But for some odd reason there is a current problem with hospital infections.
Hygiene in hospitals is a current problem.

Definitely not unreasonable. I get awful UTI's so my partner always washes his hands before sex. I know it's not always spontaneous but the alternative is unthinkable.

I don't know any body who washes their hands every time they come inside from out.

Not one.

When did this turn into "basic hygiene"? Did I miss a memo??

Lweji
So much better when matrons patrolled the wards and dirt was unacceptable. Looks like the soap budget decreased as well. Infections are up. Longer Ward stays. But hey, we are saving money elsewhere.

Did I miss a memo??

Yes. I was taught as a child to always wash my hands after getting home and after going to the loo.
Recent research (that has been newsworthy) confirms this notion.
Check my earlier link.

Only if he'd just eaten a kebab and had a chilli as part of it!

001 really? You weren't taught that!? I'm not THAT clean generally...will go a week between mops of the kitchen...but I ALWAYS wash my hands when I come home from shopping/work/bus.

DC are taught the same. And after loo of course.

DH and I know we both like clean hands when we go to bed.

YDNBU, I totally agree with you and his response was pretty ridiculous.

Would you ask for handwashing if a partner had been stroking the dog/cat/hamster just before coming to bed? If the partner had just been putting the bins out? If you would (because your sex life is heavy on fingerbanging and/or you are prone to thrush) then your DP should routinely be washing his hands before playtime
Who the fuck doesn’t wash their hands after putting the bin out?

Do you think homeless people are unclean the ones I've met are. I used to work in a public building, and they would come in and stay all day, one of them fell asleep, stretched out on a sofa in the entrance hall. By 'eck he really did whiff.

YANBU in the slightest. He is a dirty sod. He was probably so offended because he recognised that he is and nothing stings like the truth.

No wonder viruses spread like wildfire if the notion of washing your hands when you get home is a foreign idea to some.

I actually think it's extremely disrespectful to expect to put dirty fingers inside someone else's body when you feel like it.

DH and I have always expected each other to wash rather more than just hands before going to bed - even if no action is anticipated!

No wonder viruses spread like wildfire if the notion of washing your hands when you get home is a foreign idea to some*

Bloody right and as usual people on here try to outming each other.