Every god damn year!!!

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Came home today to find another Christmas card through the letter box addressed to Mr and Mrs J Smith, that's the third this year that has been addressed this way.

I didn't change my name when I got married and I don't go by Mrs. Why can't people (in laws) just get my bloody name right! It's not hard to address the envelope to John and Sarah is it?

I would never address a Christmas card to Shaun when their name is Sean, I'd make sure I'd got it right before posting. So AIBU to think this is just bloody rude and to tell the many offenders to get my name right in future or just don't include me in the card at all?

PMSL @ a family member or friend insisting on being addressed as Dr on a bloody Christmas Card envelope 😂. That’s all kinds of twatfuckery.

Really, why do people care so much? It’s an address on an envelope, a means to get a card from a to b, that’s all. Once it’s through the door it’s job is done and it’s what’s INSIDE the card that matters.

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It's a Christmas Card, who even cares?? You open the envelope and then bin it!

Really, why do people care so much? It’s an address on an envelope, a means to get a card from a to b, that’s all.

There is no Mrs Hisname at this address. So it doesn’t get opened.

Have tried explaining, have tried telling, but some other people take no notice of the fact that we don’t do Xmas cards or what our names are. If they can’t be arsed to listen then I take a more direct approach to show them they have completely wasted their time.

I have an aunt who will send a cheque to me in the name she knows I use in an envelope in a name she knows I don’t.

You need to swap friends with the poster earlier this week who was mortally offended to receive a card addressed to Sarah and John when she expected it to be addressed to Mr and Mrs J Smith and then all would be well in the world.

Such problems you have! I bet the postie was nice though

Not to mention, I have no idea if my cousins etc changed their names when they got married or not. Their cards get addressed to Mr & Mrs Smith. INSIDE the card I write their actual names with the correct spelling - even though I have to look it up every time because I can’t remember which version of Tracey/Tracey/Tracie and Darren/Daren/Daryn etc they each use. I don’t know why I simply can’t remember who spells it which way, but I can’t. I’ve given up stressing about it & just have to look it up. To me, that’s important, what’s on the envelope really isn’t, as long as it gets it into the correct letter box.

I often wonder when I read these threads, what do the OP’s do for women’s rights aside from keeping their maiden name and then loudly retributing people for getting it wrong?

How about we use this outrage on things that actually matter? Woman have so much more to worry about than this. Micro aggressions add up, I’m not denying that, but aside from this what are you doing for feminism other than showing off about this?

Have tried explaining, have tried telling, but some other people take no notice of the fact that we don’t do Xmas cards or what our names are. If they can’t be arsed to listen then I take a more direct approach to show them they have completely wasted their time

Holiday Spirit or fucking what?

My moher doesnt do this on Xmas cards but always does on potscards from hols, she thoroughly disapproves of me being Ms Maiden-name when I am married.

She takes whatever opp she can to mention it. When she is doing their car insurance she asks what my name is so she has the chance to roll her eyes and make some comment about being ridiculous, when she knows full well what my name is as I have had it since birth!

I do wonder if it may be a little bit of jealousy as her first name doesnt really go with her married name, she much preferred her maiden name but she got married in 1970 when not changing wasnt an option. She knows I really dont like DH's surname, and agrees it is not a nice name, i tisnt the only reason I chose not to change but it is one of them, so perhaps she thinks that as she had to put up with a stupid name, I should too!

But titty you know it’s for you, presumably if you bothered to open the card it would have your actual name on the card itself. Why are you being so petty about the envelope?

Obviously you do open your Aunts incorrectly addressed envelope, the one with the cheque in it 🤣

Holiday Spirit or fucking what?

Why would I need holiday spirit?

I agree - no one ever saves letters by addressing things to Ms and Mr CMOT Dibbler. I don't object to 'The family Hername Hisname' , CMOT and NotCMOT, or really anything that reflects the names we have always had rather than assigning honoratives and a name I have never used in 20 years of marriage and 45 years of life.

Every god damn year we have this thread on Mumsnet.

It wouldn't be Christmas without it

Meanwhile in the real world, literally no-one I know would give a tiny mouse sized fart about what's on the envelope, as long as the card arrives.

it totally is a statement OP

why don't you address their card to Ms & Mr HerFirstName HerOriginalSurname next year?

it's exactly what they are doing to you

Obviously you do open your Aunts incorrectly addressed envelope, the one with the cheque in it

Nope. I return it. She texts me, says the card has come back to her and she has a cheque in it. I tell her that the card wasn’t in my name and she tells me “I know, but the cheque was”. I explain for the millionth time that I only have one name and don’t answer to the one she’s made up.

This year the cheque came in DD’s correctly addressed envelope (b’day 2 days before mine) and my card followed in the wrong name. I hate cards anyway, so sending something for me to a name that doesn’t exist is pretty pointless.

I can be guilty of these sorts of sins...always find myself rushing and can't remember the address or names of half my relatives. I wouldn't even send them cards if annoyingly they didn't keep sending them to me every year!! lol

It is on the front of an envelope which you open and then throw away.

I just can’t get worked up about an envelope.

It's a Christmas card, get over yourself... As for the utter halfwit who suggested returning to sender marked not known at this address - God love you, you petty minded buffoon.

I dislike getting post addressed to Miss Diseases... I would prefer Dr, or Ms.

I definitely am in need of holiday spirits...

Titty, you are brilliant.

Get over youself.

YABU

Jesus . Titty by name, tit by nature.

Most of our cards are addressed to Mr & Mrs DHSurname(which I have used for 26 years) many to Mr & Mrs DHInitial DHSurname. I'm happy with both of those forms of address, both are correct. Today I got one from an elderly aunt who has obviously forgotten my married name, it is addressed to Miss MyInitial MaidenName and Mr DHInitial. I really dislike being called Miss but she had gone to the trouble of sending me a card and the envelope is just thrown away so why make a fuss?

Mr & Mrs DHInitial DHSurname. I'm happy with both of those forms of address, both are correct.

Have you time travelled from the 1950s?