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Being called a 'fucking slut' at Tesco

164 replies

pourmeanother · 22/12/2017 16:40

WTAF?

A few hours ago, I went to my local Tesco superstore with my 3 DC (3,5,7).

V v busy in car park. Circled the P&C parking slots a few times as always get free after a while. Sure enough, after just 1 min 2 spaces look like getting freed...

So - as per diagram (I know you luvs them 🤗) I was clearly waiting at the little junction with indicator on. Only for a few secs. No one behind me. Not bothering anyone.

Car come out of space I show in diagram I go into. Meanwhile, TwatMan approaches in car. All the while, my indicator is on. It's obvious what's going on.

He waits, as I do, while we wait for the car to come out of the space and as soon as the car has passed me, I nip left, do a turn and I'm in the space.

Bear in mind, car goes past TwatMan. He couldn't get past her. It was obvious for me to get in there first as I had space. And had been waiting.

So I did.

He got a space in the next second in a space v v near.

As he left his car , while I got out my 3 DC he shouted for my attention. 'Oy' 'Oy you'.

I ignored him, thinking, seriously, this twat cant be for real.

My 3 DC came out of the car and I looked over to him because he wasn't giving up.

He shouted, 'You went right in front of me then.'

(I didn't - he should have seen I was going to move at the same time as the other car)

Then - I couldn't believe this - he picked his little girl out of her car seat and screamed at me 'FUCKING SLUT'.

I was incredulous. Fight or flight. So I shouted back at him, 'Happy Christmas too, love'.

As I walked into the store with my 3 little DC , he walked next to me, carrying his little girl. I told him he needed help. He was acting like a psycho and I felt so sorry for his poor child.

I actually just dribbled stuff because I was shitting myself for me and the kids. Like I said, fight or flight. I could hear my voice was all over the place.

During my bits when I said 'poor poor child' and that I'd be calling the police if he carried on, he said I was 'all passive aggressive!

That set my blood cold. You can just imagine the home dynamic. Poor soul who has to live with him.

I can't tell you - he was totally horrendous.

I know IANBU.

I just needed to vent.

Poor child. She's gonna have to grow up with that as a father figure.

Being called a 'fucking slut' at Tesco
OP posts:
Taffeta · 22/12/2017 16:43

How awful for you.

Christmas brings out the worst in twats

HermioneWeasley · 22/12/2017 16:43

I’m so sorry, that must have been really scary. And yes, I feel very sorry for his daughter

scurryfunge · 22/12/2017 16:44

He should not have spoken to you like that but he had right of way from your diagram.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 22/12/2017 16:44

Well, you were passive aggressive Wink but I don’t blame you!

In future ignore creeps like that, take a note of his reg number and report to customer services. He was abusive to one of their customers. Don’t engage with him at all.

Nuffaluff · 22/12/2017 16:44

Poor you. That's a horrible experience and of course, if you were a man he would never have said anything. Poor child indeed.
Sounds as if you responded in the best way you could. It's that horrible shaking, heart pounding feeling isn't it?

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 22/12/2017 16:45

And yes you stole his space! Grin

Moreisnnogedag · 22/12/2017 16:47

He had a completely ridiculous reaction but, yeah, you completely stole the space!!

honeysucklejasmine · 22/12/2017 16:48

Whilst he was totally and completely out of order... I wouldn't expect you to wait for those spaces from that position.

But he was a complete wanker.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/12/2017 16:48

Isn't he an 'ard case shouting at a women on her own with 3 kids.

((((((((((()))))))))))))

Wolfiefan · 22/12/2017 16:48

He was an abusive arse. But you shouldn't have pulled into that space. It doesn't matter that you were waiting. You did pull in front of him.

HerrHerrHerr · 22/12/2017 16:49

He was of course in the wrong to call you a slut but you stole his space!!

TrojansAreSmegheads · 22/12/2017 16:49

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WanderlustHenpeck · 22/12/2017 16:49

I have to say that actually since you had.to drive across the 'road' he was already on, that I don't think it was your space. You said yourself that you were both clearly waiting. You may have been able to get to it first, but I'd argue that it should have been his.

That said, obviously his response was out of order etc. I'm not sure it's worth reporting it to anyone but you shouldn't have been spoken to in that manner.

buttfacedmiscreant · 22/12/2017 16:50

How did she steal his space if she was there waiting and signaling before he got there?

Meowstro · 22/12/2017 16:51

You did steal his space but there's never an excuse to act like that, he should have moved on and got over it. Sorry you had to deal with that, I'd have been exactly the same in your situation facing him though, you can't let people talk to you like that as they will do it time and time again. I'm not usually one for violence but hopefully someone lamps him one next time!

TheMamaYo · 22/12/2017 16:52

Sorry OP, it was his space, according to your diagram. But he was totally out of order yelling nasty things at you.

honeysucklejasmine · 22/12/2017 16:52

butt because she wasn't on the same "lane" as the spaces. For all he knew, she was simply turning left and had stopped to scratch her arse.

Reallytired17 · 22/12/2017 16:52

Yes, he was an arsehole but honestly responding and arguing back is pointless. Just an eye roll and ignore.

HerrHerrHerr · 22/12/2017 16:53

Butt she’s not even on the ‘road’ the space is on. If someone was indicating in her position I’d assume she was turning left.

violetbluesky · 22/12/2017 16:53

He had right of way.

He sounds unhinged though

ALemonyPea · 22/12/2017 16:53

You did steal his s peace though, he had right of way.

He WABU to swear at you, although you seem to have given equally back.

Christmas shopping, people are like animals.

Kidsarekarma · 22/12/2017 16:54

Ignorant cowardly bastard. He wouldn't have spoken to you like that if you'd had a man with you!

Try to forget about him - you'll have a much nicer christmas than he will FlowersCakeBrew

ALemonyPea · 22/12/2017 16:54

S peace = space

Original poster
pourmeanother · 22/12/2017 16:55

I was there for a moment waiting for the space before he turned up.

I know the space wasn't 'mine'.

Ok - he had right of way even though I was there waiting before him. ( NB - there was another space being freed which I could see during the incident - which he got straightaway so no big deal)

I'm not like that. If someone had come along and taken it in that split second before me I would have been fine with It!

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DreamGhost · 22/12/2017 16:56

I just love that you labelled him twat on the diagram GrinGrin