Being called a 'fucking slut' at Tesco

[pourmeanother]

WTAF?

A few hours ago, I went to my local Tesco superstore with my 3 DC (3,5,7).

V v busy in car park. Circled the P&C parking slots a few times as always get free after a while. Sure enough, after just 1 min 2 spaces look like getting freed...

So - as per diagram (I know you luvs them 🤗) I was clearly waiting at the little junction with indicator on. Only for a few secs. No one behind me. Not bothering anyone.

Car come out of space I show in diagram I go into. Meanwhile, TwatMan approaches in car. All the while, my indicator is on. It's obvious what's going on.

He waits, as I do, while we wait for the car to come out of the space and as soon as the car has passed me, I nip left, do a turn and I'm in the space.

Bear in mind, car goes past TwatMan. He couldn't get past her. It was obvious for me to get in there first as I had space. And had been waiting.

So I did.

He got a space in the next second in a space v v near.

As he left his car , while I got out my 3 DC he shouted for my attention. 'Oy' 'Oy you'.

I ignored him, thinking, seriously, this twat cant be for real.

My 3 DC came out of the car and I looked over to him because he wasn't giving up.

He shouted, 'You went right in front of me then.'

(I didn't - he should have seen I was going to move at the same time as the other car)

Then - I couldn't believe this - he picked his little girl out of her car seat and screamed at me 'FUCKING SLUT'.

I was incredulous. Fight or flight. So I shouted back at him, 'Happy Christmas too, love'.

As I walked into the store with my 3 little DC , he walked next to me, carrying his little girl. I told him he needed help. He was acting like a psycho and I felt so sorry for his poor child.

I actually just dribbled stuff because I was shitting myself for me and the kids. Like I said, fight or flight. I could hear my voice was all over the place.

During my bits when I said 'poor poor child' and that I'd be calling the police if he carried on, he said I was 'all passive aggressive!

That set my blood cold. You can just imagine the home dynamic. Poor soul who has to live with him.

I can't tell you - he was totally horrendous.

I know IANBU.

I just needed to vent.

Poor child. She's gonna have to grow up with that as a father figure.

FFS

1. You took his space
2. He called you on it and said you went in front of him but you ignored him. Personally i would have replied that i was there before with a polite: sorry I thought you saw that I was there waiting so I thought it was ok (if genuine mistake on your part, next time I wouldn't do it, not worth it taking someone's space)
3. He assumed you totally on purpose took his space and ignored him then he became disgusting and abusive in front of his own daughter.

YOU WERE BOTH ON THE WRONG AND REALLY LACKING MANNERS TO EACH OTHER.

YOU WERE BOTH ON THE WRONG AND REALLY LACKING MANNERS TO EACH OTHER

Was shouting expletives at the OP while criticising her lack of manners intended to be ironic?

Interesting one, I once got shouted at for stealing a space when I was in his position. The car in yours had been indicating but moved past me to reverse in, I didn't realise and drove straight in.

I can't believe people are defending this man. There's just no excuse what what he did, none.

RomansRevenge

You sound equally as bad tbh.

If you had stolen my parking space I would’ve yelled at you too.

Then you too are a twat.

Oh and if we're talking about which supermarkets are best , I've been shopping in asda for the last 14 years and have never seen an incident like this.

I think the fact that the word 'slut' came out of his mouth says so much about his attitude to women, it's deeply misogynistic basically. If he'd shouted, 'You shouldn't have a license, for example, the comments on here would have been very different.

@Lizzie48

Lol fail

He could have shouted 'you shouldn't have a licence' if he was appalled at her parking etiquette as that's really what it was he took umbrage against.

I was trying to highlight great minds I'm clearly broken lol.

Like a PP said there is NO WAY he would have called out a man like this. He just wouldn't have the guts.

OP see the feminist chat thread "things men have called me and why".

Good for you for responding as you did.

Oh dear, You are right. I didn't realise I was shouting, totally forgot! It was meant to be a summary as i didn't want to add point 4. Normally, I do it that way on my own handwriting notes or otherwise i underline.
So easy to make mistakes, it happens to all of us. That's why we need sometimes to explain ourselves! I'm laughing at silly me now

My previous message was in reply to John Hunter

jeez, is this site for real ?

Erm very late in posting but just rtft. Op I just wanted to reiterate that you did nothing wrong, but even if you did there is no excuse for such behaviour and especially not in front of children. I am reminded of the time something similar happened to me when I was loading my young dc into the car at a motorway services, a man started berating me on my awful parking. The car was badly parked but not affecting him at all. He was shouting and aggressive, he kept saying that just because I had a flash car didn’t mean I could swan around like I owned the place. The car was badly parked so I actually apologised and explained that we were leaving now but he just kept on and on. I had done nothing to provoke him at all and although I’m not usually easily intimidated the level of vitriol made me quite afraid and I just got the kids in their seats and locked us all in the car while he kept berating me. Funnily enough, when my dh (who was driving and had actually parked the bloody car, I was just loading kids in while he popped to the loo to save time) emerged from the services and asked what the hell was going on, the man suddenly had a lot less to say and scuttled off. My dh was furious and shouted after him that it takes a certain kind of man to try and intimidate a woman alone with her dc and I have to agree. The guy you met is the same. Nothing but a misogynist and a bully. I hope he didn’t spoil your Christmas or upset your dc.

I am not certain that upscale markets are c.f. free. I stopped to let a disabled person who was completely blocking my exit pass. A woman dressed in a coat worth more than my entire outfit and most of my food rammed me in my bottom with her buggy! To make me move. Which was impossible. Money does not mean good manners. But that is "off topic" parking lots are first come, first serve, although many people are bad mannered about this also.